Dating apps can help you find new people with the same hobbies, just saying! You eventually find where you stand with the people in your immediate circles, so apps help you reach other cities and such. Not to mention the main demographic of cyclists is dads with 20 years on me... not what I want 😅. But I get why the apps suck in general, and are depressing to think about. But it's something like 40% of new relationships are forming on apps? I found that a bit disturbing, but here I am.
Dating apps are easy to hate - theyre almost too accessible and so easy to just see someone, judge them in a black/white manner and swipe away. There's such little amount of ambiguity allowed, and often people only use it to boost their confidence. It's a dopamine hit when you get a match. Even if you dont care to even meet them it's nice to think 'oh hey this person matched with me, that means they think I'm hot and wanna fuuuck.
I know its happened to me before.. Ive often found myself only using these apps to see how many matches I can stack up... I'll go on, catch like 12 matches and all of a sudden I feel confident and proud of myself even though I didn't do shit besides write up a nice profile and swipe right on a dozen women.
If its someone I actually fancy, then maybe I'll engage but often I don't really put much effort towards it because I don't really sense much effort in general from anyone on there. We often just use these things to make us feel good about ourselves and then go to the bar or club or whatever to actually meet people.