partyandBSYeah pour the tea! Lol
Okay, I'll try to list some things that I see guys do that don't work in their favour 👊:
- Friend group pictures. One in the deck is okay, more than one or having it as the first pic is not good. Also only use a group pic if it's obvious in it which person is you.
- Pictures with exes, try to avoid those at all costs.
- Some guys use their profiles and the app prompts to express their bitterness about an ex or how they've been burned in the past. Don't fckn do this!! If you find yourself tempted to, it might be too soon for you to be on a dating app.
- If you are looking for a serious relationship and have personal hard limits like no alcohol or not wanting kids, don't be afraid to express those. It can help weed out incompatible people quicker.
- Being unclear about what you want. On apps that use a bio area, one sentence like, "Looking for relationship compatibility only" or "Not looking for anything serious" goes a long way. It shows you are on the app with intent, not just window shopping. If its Hinge and there's no bio area, use one of the prompts to get across to people why you're on the app.
- Ski pic tips: ski goggles and layers can hide what you look like. We need to see what you look like, so make sure your first picture shows your face if you are in ski stuff. A later pic can be of you actually skiing, to show you're the real deal to other skiers.
- Gym pics: if you are looking for a relationship, one gym pic is fine if it's a hobby of yours. But if most of your pics and bio are dedicated to 'jim' and your selfies in the bathroom, I'm going to assume in an actual relationship scenario that you're narcissistic and won't have any time to actually be in a relationship, and I'm not going to swipe right on you.
- Car/hobby pics: if your a car guy, that's cool. But a picture of you with the car (working on it, driving it, etc.) is infinitely better than the car alone. I'm here to get to know you, not your car lmao. Applies to other hobbies as well; I'd never put just a bike as a picture for example.
- Let's say you get a match. If she asks you a question about yourself, don't just answer it: follow up with a question back at her. If I ask a guy a question and he answers it without also asking a follow-up question, I know he's not actually interested and I'll just let things die instead of moving things forward. After some questions you'll know if you'd like to meet them or not. Ask what they are looking for on [app in question], and if their answer jibes, ask if they'd like to meet. This keeps you from chatting forever and going nowhere.
- Finally: dating apps are a profit venture for someone else. They are rigged against both genders in different ways
. So don't get down if you can't get dates or matches. Keep living life single and meeting people in your hobbies as you use these apps.