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JevanqauviousIIIthe best way to get over her is to go and chase more girls until she becomes a vivid memory and then go into a constant cycle of pain and misery 🙂
Dani-BBeen there for sure man. It can be a long process and feel shameful to go through, especially if others around you don't get what you're going through.
If you aren't already, take steps to not be around her. No hangs, no cohabitating, no texting, no creeping their socials (I find that last one super hard to do). Unfriend/unfollow them if you have to. Some call this 'going no contact'. You might have to work with your friends if you both have mutuals and explain that you need space from her and might be missing out on group stuff for a while.
Also make a literal list of the pros and cons of this person. This exercise allows you to objectively see what you liked about them and the things you didn't. Use that list as a guide for qualities you want and don't want in someone else in the future. The list helps you detach qualities from any one person: the things we liked in one person can absolutely be found in others!
This one's deep: sometimes a person we were infatuated with can also reflect subconscious desires for other things: a lifestyle we want, or things or choices we feel we can't have but they do. Being around them gives us a shortcut to those things. They can be an escape from the discomforts in our own life. We feel we need them in our live to be closer to having these things, when in reality we can get these things for ourselves if we are willing to do the hard work and break down the barriers we have created to protect ourselves.
A healthy, stable relationship that is going to last won't always have the same sparks and intense energy that some people can give us. I am guilty also of prematurely turning down people who didn't give me that 'spark'.
PsychicMigrationIf you jerk of on the lift you'll associate it with good times and combine that with skiing there.... you'll never need another girl again
bch.skisyeah the spark is a thing I understand. Ts was so profound and insightful why tf are u on Newschoolers
PeppermillRenoI don't think you should give up this easy. Win her back if it’s meant to be and you are thinking about her. I would make a plan to call or text once an hour and show up at her job every day until she changes her mind and wants to get back together with you.
Dani-BAlso make a literal list of the pros and cons of this person. This exercise allows you to objectively see what you liked about them and the things you didn't. Use that list as a guide for qualities you want and don't want in someone else in the future. The list helps you detach qualities from any one person: the things we liked in one person can absolutely be found in others!
devstackspros and cons list did not help there are no cons
i'm cooked
devstackspros and cons list did not help there are no cons
i'm cooked
Dani-BHaha, but what you do next is isolate in your mind those pros from this chick because they can be found in others!
Dani-BBeen there for sure man. It can be a long process and feel shameful to go through, especially if others around you don't get what you're going through.
If you aren't already, take steps to not be around her. No hangs, no cohabitating, no texting, no creeping their socials (I find that last one super hard to do). Unfriend/unfollow them if you have to. Some call this 'going no contact'. You might have to work with your friends if you both have mutuals and explain that you need space from her and might be missing out on group stuff for a while.
Also make a literal list of the pros and cons of this person. This exercise allows you to objectively see what you liked about them and the things you didn't. Use that list as a guide for qualities you want and don't want in someone else in the future. The list helps you detach qualities from any one person: the things we liked in one person can absolutely be found in others!
This one's deep: sometimes a person we were infatuated with can also reflect subconscious desires for other things: a lifestyle we want, or things or choices we feel we can't have but they do. Being around them gives us a shortcut to those things. They can be an escape from the discomforts in our own life. We feel we need them in our live to be closer to having these things, when in reality we can get these things for ourselves if we are willing to do the hard work and break down the barriers we have created to protect ourselves.
A healthy, stable relationship that is going to last won't always have the same sparks and intense energy that some people can give us. I am guilty also of prematurely turning down people who didn't give me that 'spark'.
Dlonettithis prolly the best advice thats ever been given on newschoolers
bch.skistop 3 smartest things said on ns
SmokedGoudaGrow another dick. use that one on the new women. Then when she comes back, she'll remember you just how it was. On the plus too, you'll now have 4 balls so your skiing should improve dramatically. Just don't have a ball thrown down there or it'll be a clusterfuck of sweaty dick pain.
SmokedGoudaThose goddamn 2 inchers. Gets me every time duude!!
Dani-BThis one's deep: sometimes a person we were infatuated with can also reflect subconscious desires for other things: a lifestyle we want, or things or choices we feel we can't have but they do. Being around them gives us a shortcut to those things. They can be an escape from the discomforts in our own life. We feel we need them in our live to be closer to having these things, when in reality we can get these things for ourselves if we are willing to do the hard work and break down the barriers we have created to protect ourselves.
