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Girlfriends and skiing

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CabbyArrant
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So the other day my girlfriend and I were talking about skiing. I noticed throughout the conversation that she was becoming annoyed. when I asked why she said I was obsessed with skiing. She further went on to say that my obsession is unhealthy. Moral of the story is I don't give a fuck and my girlfriend just doesn't get it. Anyone else have something like this happen?
Nov 9 2015 10:09AM
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powderwhor
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JaybrtnMy gf is more like that about cars. I've spent way too much time and money on building cars/motorcycles over the past few years.

"come on baby, just one more motor rebuild and turbo swap and we can hang out, I promise"


Trying to explain to my girlfriend why my car is too loud to have a conversation in and won't make it over your average speed bump.
Nov 9 2015 7:33PM
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-Colton
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I Actually met my girlfriend on the hill... She does snowboard but it still is the best thing about us because we can shred all winter together. Best part about it is that we met talking about sailing which we both do and then worked at the same yacht club in the summer.

We now both instruct skiing and snowboarding at the Local hill :)

Finding the perfect one is hrd, but when you do.... Pee in the but
Nov 9 2015 7:51PM
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Cheech_Sander
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I had a revelation about this, as I recently started dating my first non-skiing girlfriend ever.

At the risk of sounding like a complete douchebag, here's what I realized:

Unless she's one of like, 3 top female pros, she's not going to be able to keep up anyway.
As long as she respects your passion and you can come to some compromise, a girlfriend who doesn't ski should free you up to ski MORE! Ideally she enjoys something to do in the winter while you ski, like cross country or reading or knitting, it doesn't really matter as long as she's busy for 6 hours.

Long live bro seshes.
Nov 9 2015 7:57PM
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Fnskis
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she aint the one then. give her like one more try to respect the greatest sport on Earth if she doesnt then screw it.
Nov 9 2015 8:01PM
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Hoodratnat98
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My boyfriend and I met skiing, and love skiing together :) its been over 1.5 years too
Nov 9 2015 8:01PM
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Aharrelson358
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robbinJAHoodWaiting on this......


Aye girl you got 7 digits?
Nov 9 2015 8:13PM
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B.Aussie
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On the flip side my boyfriend is a fellow NSer and it's great. We go away skiing every weekend in winter, go on ski trips together and enjoy the mountain together. It's pretty special to meet someone who can ski everything/ everywhere, will spend winters away and understands the insane amount of time and money you spend on skiing.
Nov 9 2015 8:13PM
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piff.the.east
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my girlfriend skis ... but not with me. you gotta keep those two parts of your life seperat or they will both ruin eachother
Nov 9 2015 8:22PM
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otzi
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You have to date a passionate skier or one that doesn't ski and doesn't mind being alone while you do. Otherwise you'll end skiing where you don't want to ski. I'm lucky, my gf rips. Nationals in slalom as a kid, loves backcountry, and wants to get into the park to hit the jumps/rails.
Nov 9 2015 8:27PM
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-wakes-
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Re-taught my GF how to ski a few years back, and its been pretty fun to shed with her. She can ski and groomed run and it getting used to off piste skiing. I'm lucky in the fact that she realizes its one of my big passions and will let me go off on my own on pow days no problem. She enjoys skiing and being in the mountains, so I'm happy.
Nov 9 2015 8:31PM
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dustygoldflakes
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Girlfriend? Every person that knows me says that same thing
Nov 9 2015 8:36PM
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JRGdeCT
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My wife fell in love with skiing after we got married, she bought me a ski condo this past spring. Hell yeah!!!
Nov 9 2015 8:38PM
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Sngl2th
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Sngl2thThis brings up a more interesting question: How many of you really want a girlfriend that skis and follows you around all the time?

I find most skier chicks annoying with their positive attitudes, white girl bullshit, and rich parents. Snowboard girls are a little better.



No one appreciates hate on NS anymore. It saddens me.
Nov 9 2015 8:38PM
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Rachy
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So the other day my boyfriend and I were talking about synchronized swimming. I noticed throughout the conversation that he was becoming annoyed. when I asked why he said I was obsessed with synchronized swimming. He further went on to say that my obsession is unhealthy. Moral of the story is I don't give a fuck and my boyfriend just doesn't get it. Anyone else have something like this happen?
Nov 9 2015 8:41PM
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aiden516
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My girlfriend had never been skiing before and was completely against ever trying it, so I broke up with her

FDB
Nov 9 2015 8:42PM
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Lonely
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Skiing and girls is kindve like a love triangle. You like the girl and the girl likes you (which has its benefits) but you're mad in love with skiing. If she loves skiing too you get the perfect triangle.

That's the happy place

Also we need someone to make a ns hot/crazy/ski matrix
Nov 9 2015 8:43PM
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Swandog7
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Hard to say what I would want.

If I had a girl friend who skis, its more likely that she will be worse than me and not be willing to go to the park as much or go off piste. Still fun, but its a little bit of a downer when your better than someone than you are with for a while because it can slow you down a little, but would still be fun regardless.

If I had a girlfriend who doesn't ski, she wouldn't understand and get pissed about my obsession and not understand and it wouldn't work out most likely than not.

Its really a pretty much a lose - lose situation
Nov 9 2015 8:45PM
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BumpzNtrees
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.lencon0/10 terrible advice


You're right. She'll def make a scene. Ditch her at the third starbucks she has you stop at on the way.
Nov 9 2015 8:54PM
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.lencon
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BumpzNtreesYou're right. She'll def make a scene. Ditch her at the third starbucks she has you stop at on the way.


She ain't like that fam
Nov 9 2015 9:02PM
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holytoast
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For me skiing, is my life, not cause its "fun", but because its the only time I truly feel like I have some sort of purpose and connection to living. It makes me happy though that I have a strong passion for something, and its never ever ever anything to be ashamed of.
Nov 9 2015 9:03PM
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TOUCHE
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This is the bane of my existence my girlfriend only skis a couple of days a year


She snowboards the rest


But she's got a job in Austria and I cant get a working visa so im gonna be ski bumming it living of her paychecks.....

I think I can forgive her for snowboarding
Nov 9 2015 9:03PM
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Wobby
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My girlfriend is snowboarder, and it actually works out pretty well. I can frequently ditch her on long traverses/cat tracks, and luckily she is happy to meet at the bottom. Also, she is amazing at pulling a falling leaf on really steep shit, so I guess she can "hang".

FYI teaching snowboarders who are your girlfriend how to splitboard is definitely not a good idea though.
Nov 9 2015 9:11PM
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03gade
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I would like to bring up a larger point, based on some stuff that was said already.

Browsing through Facebook and Tinder lately, it has occurred to me that people without some sort of apparent hobby beyond clubs, music festivals and the beach seem incredibly boring and unattractive.

Being passionate about skiing has made me realize I don't think I could ever date someone without a passion for some sort of activity beyond the basic white girl lifestyle.

Idk just thought I'd throw that out there.
Nov 9 2015 9:13PM
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willie2020
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This is the first time me and my gf meet (me green csu hoody her next to me in the green and orange) almost 6 years later and she still kick my ass on any double black lol :P so I gave up trying and freestyle ski now lol
Nov 9 2015 9:21PM
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willie2020
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willie2020This is the first time me and my gf meet (me green csu hoody her next to me in the green and orange) almost 6 years later and she still kick my ass on any double black lol :P so I gave up trying and freestyle ski now lol


Now alwe talk about is skiing :P
Nov 9 2015 9:23PM
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willie2020
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willie2020This is the first time me and my gf meet (me green csu hoody her next to me in the green and orange) almost 6 years later and she still kick my ass on any double black lol :P so I gave up trying and freestyle ski now lol


Now alwe talk about is skiing :P
Nov 9 2015 9:23PM
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E__
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holytoastFor me skiing, is my life, not cause its "fun", but because its the only time I truly feel like I have some sort of purpose and connection to living. It makes me happy though that I have a strong passion for something, and its never ever ever anything to be ashamed of.


You see I used to be just like you, I loved skiing because it took me away from all the bullshit and made me feel something deeper. Just like climbing mountains and hiking. But I met the most perfect girl on the planet that makes me feel better than skiing made me feel. So now I have both those connections in my life and don't need anything else in the world.
Nov 9 2015 9:28PM
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WVskiing
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Well been skiing this chick for 4 months now so lets see how we weather the winter.

Pun not intended
Nov 9 2015 9:35PM
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robbinJAHood
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Aharrelson358Aye girl you got 7 digits?


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Nov 9 2015 9:46PM
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holson
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Most people in the world aren't exceptionally good at anything, especially extreme sports. Being good at any extreme sport comes with a culture, large time commitments, and a sort of family. Skiing is even more special because the feelings involved are practically magical...
Most girls never experience that type of commitment with anything except a man. So when a man has even stronger feelings for snow than he does for her she of course would feel insignificant and probably abandoned in the winter.

As most of the people in this thread have said it's pretty crucial to either get it right or keep it separate. The easiest way for me is to choose guys that can rip and love the mountain life more than any certain aspect of skiing. Skiing on a powder day with someone you're in love with that shares the same mindset and ski skills is probably better than life or love itself.

annnd i would never date anyone that i couldn't ski with.
Nov 9 2015 9:46PM
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holytoast
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E__You see I used to be just like you, I loved skiing because it took me away from all the bullshit and made me feel something deeper. Just like climbing mountains and hiking. But I met the most perfect girl on the planet that makes me feel better than skiing made me feel. So now I have both those connections in my life and don't need anything else in the world.


Yep, i did too, wasn't the right one obviously
Nov 9 2015 9:47PM
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amelia.og
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I am a girl and I have more than once ended a relationship because a GUY doesn't like skiing as much as me, I have my priorities damn straight
Nov 9 2015 9:50PM
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skurian
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Skiings great but surfing...grrrrr haha :P
Nov 9 2015 10:19PM
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Erikgorn
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My girlfriend didn't ski, and I hated her. So we broke up
Nov 9 2015 10:22PM
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pattyWhack
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eindelijkskisand what if you're over 20?


try and discover what she is passionate about. find some common ground. it's hard for anyone outside of a community [a culture, a lifestyle, a family, a collective sense of purpose], to see WHY you are obsessed.
:P
Nov 9 2015 10:25PM
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John18_6
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Swandog7Its really a pretty much a lose - lose situation


Things would be so much easier if all skiers were gay. We would all have a huge pool to select from with fantastic people. Maybe those darn snowboarders were on to something...
Nov 9 2015 10:30PM
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perryhunter
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I think she's just been thinking so beyond reality. I think that she would presumed as such doing some drugs, weeds, or any other vises while in the mountain in order to get that crazy tricks most enthusiast could do. Oh dude, it's time to change that on their minds.
Nov 9 2015 10:32PM
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daskis
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The right person keeps your passions alive
Nov 9 2015 10:37PM
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el_mn_op
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I wish my boyfriend liked skiing more...
Nov 9 2015 11:17PM
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skeedle
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i'm a better skier than my boyfriend (plus he snowboards) and sometimes it's hard for me because he can't keep up, but his obsession with snow sports is the best thing because it makes me always stoked :)

and he bought me new skis :)
Nov 9 2015 11:19PM
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FoundsCement
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My girlfriend talks about skiing more than I do and I'm an Avalanche Forecaster! Good luck with that kids.
Nov 9 2015 11:27PM
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Rachy
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M.holsonMost people in the world aren't exceptionally good at anything, especially extreme sports. Being good at any extreme sport comes with a culture, large time commitments, and a sort of family. Skiing is even more special because the feelings involved are practically magical...
Most girls never experience that type of commitment with anything except a man. So when a man has even stronger feelings for snow than he does for her she of course would feel insignificant and probably abandoned in the winter.

As most of the people in this thread have said it's pretty crucial to either get it right or keep it separate. The easiest way for me is to choose guys that can rip and love the mountain life more than any certain aspect of skiing. Skiing on a powder day with someone you're in love with that shares the same mindset and ski skills is probably better than life or love itself.

annnd i would never date anyone that i couldn't ski with.



Half agree. Most people that are heavily involved in the ski community aren't exceptionally good. They just love it. In which... you can love many things that come with a culture, and some people may be as stimulated designing homes/painting/reading/swimming/playing volleyball/playing chess/singing as I am skiing. Just because you aren't familiar with those other cultures or you dont see them as being as defined doesn't mean that they aren't. It also doesn't mean that their joy is less than your joy or that your joy is more than theres.

Maybe most girls never experience that type of commitment, but most women have something other than a man that defines them, for some, it's being a mother, or scientist, or any world of things and none of those are wrong.

I've done ski culture most of my life. I love dating people I can't ski with. It allows skiing to be something personal for me and for me to appreciate the other things that we have in common that make us work well together. It's of course fun when they give it a shot and I would accept if they hated it, but I would be absolutely pleased with someone that is passionate about living life fully.
Nov 9 2015 11:35PM
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GSPhotography
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I find personally that relationships have a lot to do with compromises . I had my fair share of ski trips in the last few years and decided to go back to school . Even though I am burried in school work , me and my ski passionate boyfriend still meet up every weekend at his cabin in mt snow where we both have our passes . Some weekends i go out , some weekends i stay in. He shreds with his brother and friends and when i can i join them . I also am still very passionate about skiing photography and I gladly tag allong on urban trips . If someone isnt whilling to compromise , just move on , it wont work . A relationship cant be one sided . Believe me , if she isnt interested in what youre passionate about you arent with the rite person.
Nov 10 2015 12:21AM
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methscratchface
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I have definitely been asked by a girlfriend if I loved skiing more than her. I replied by farting.
Nov 10 2015 12:27AM
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PhotoGraphic
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Take chosen girl skiing, build snow shaft atleast 4 metres down into an old volcanic vent or deep valley or chosen crevasse. Make sure she isn't an ice climber that has long as nails those bitches can still climb out. Also take a large claim out on her life insurance makes life a lot easier from then on in.

In other words don't go dating ski racers they don't know what powder or slush is.
Nov 10 2015 12:27AM
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Troy.
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I agree, but only to a point. One of the most successful relationships I've been in, my partner didn't ski at all -- lifelong knee problems (or something like that). However, she respected my passion towards it, and ultimately she had her own passion in life and it was directed at art.

There is a lot of value in having a partner that you can share the passion of life with; however, I don't think it is an end-all be-all. For me, as long as my partner knows enough about skiing to know why I'm excited that it is snowing, that's good enough.
Nov 10 2015 12:31AM
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John18_6
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el_mn_opI wish my boyfriend liked skiing more...


slash the tires on his bike
Nov 10 2015 12:47AM
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p-fo
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Had a girl who could keep up with me everywhere except the park for a couple months. It was pretty fucking bless. I'd send her edits and stuff too and she loved it. I miss that girl a lot...
Nov 10 2015 12:57AM
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Troy.
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el_mn_opI wish my boyfriend liked skiing more...


I think it would be an unhealthy amount then.
Nov 10 2015 1:13AM
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bardissono
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I have trust issues when girls tell me that they ski because of my ex... All she did all winter when I would leave (for my ski instructor job) was make me feel guilty despite talking about how much she snowboarded growing up. She never really made any effort to go up. Relationships need a mutual understanding of passions and without that it's just not going to work.
Nov 10 2015 1:14AM
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