I am dealing with a suicidal friend.
Background info: We will call him "B"
-B is overweight, has issues with acne.
-He is insecure, awkward, depressed, angry, and stubborn as hell.
-His father is extremely successful and hardworking, but verbally and emotionally abusive to him and his mother
-His mother is the kindest, sweetest woman on the planet, which is great, but he is babied to the point where most things are done for him.
-B has an older brother, who is the exact opposite: Funny, light hearted, social, musically talented. He is currently serving an LDS mission (he is away from home for 2 years) which has had an immense impact on B.
-He has an older sister, who is a little crazy. She recently went through a divorce, which also affected B because he adored his brother in law. (Much more complications which i won't get into)
-B spends countless hours playing, thinking, and fantasizing about video games. VIDEO GAMES ARE HIS LIFE. His grades suffer because of them. His abilities to socialize and communicate properly suffer because of them. As a child, he was surprisingly small and skinny, but video games caused him to gain weight. He lives in a fantasy world in his own brain, and has just begun to realize the real world.
Last night, i was texting B. He constantly asks me how to talk to girls, how to make friends, etc. I always give him the same answers. I tell him I can only help so much, making friends is all up to you. We argue back and forth. I tell him, you have to try, in which he always replies, "I have and failed. I look like a complete fool." I proceed to tell him that you can't just try once, blah blah blah.
Lately, he has been hinting at the idea of death and suicide. B does not know how to ride a bicycle, and complains about it. So I told him I would teach him. His reply: "You do and i stab myself in the heart." I know, it's a little unrealistic. Keep in mind that he is on the "Nerdy" spectrum of society: He loves games like WOW, Skyrim, Lord of the Rings. He has a collection of knives and swords. His father also has a collection of guns.
When he was young, he underwent surgery in which mistakes were made, causing him to cough up blood for two weeks (or so he claims.) The only reason he can remember is because his mom always brings it up, because she feared losing him at the time. He says things like, "Maybe I should have died" or "Life would have been better if i were dead."
So NS, I am scared. I don't want to lose one of my best friends. I don't know what to do. I try to invite him to hang out with me and my group of friends, but he never wants to. He hints at death and suicide quite often now.
Also, I want everyone to realize how dangerous something as simple as video games can be. They can destroy you.
Thanks for listening, sorry about the huge amount of text :/
