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Join a sports team. I hate sports but back in high school I met so many awesome/crazy people through sports, I always had something to do and talk about. Some of my best memories from high school came from doing ridiculous shit during practice/games. That wasn't my primary 'group of friends' like it is for some people but I heard about a lot of parties, interesting rumours, had great stories, knew a lot of cool upper classmen and people in general. I played hockey and lacrosse but almost all my friends did at least one sport (even if it was XC which was the catch-all sport) and generally all the 'cool guys' played one sport or another. Exercise don't hurt either.
You should try to find a group of guy friends rather than look for parties. Having a solid group of friends who you hang out together with each weekend is way more important than getting invited to a party where you don't have a crew and don't really know anyone. Making friends with other guys can take a lot of time for some people...the more you 'practice' socializing just by hanging out with people, the better you'll get but it'll take years for you to finally be comfortable in social settings/making friends.
If you have some guy friends you chat with in classes, then its pretty easy to just say like 'what are you doing this weekend, and is it cool if I join?" Or just ask if they wanna chill this weekend. If I remember correctly, you have to be very forward about getting invited to shit...like its not dick just straight up ask to come. If they really don't want to or don't have room (in the car or some shit) then they'll let you know but still invite yourself again. It can take a lot of time of inviting yourself before you become 'one of the crew' and people start texting you regularly to hang out. Its better to be the friend that nobody likes than to have no friends.
Once you get a group of guy friends, its pretty easy to transition to hanging out with girls...just make friends in class and ask what they're up to for the weekend and if they and they're friends want to hang out with you and your bros.
Also all this social stuff gets way easier in college as long as you put yourself out there in high school and you'll have amazing times in high school also.
Sorry for the double post but don't listen to kids on NS, they're just being dicks. They have no idea how hard it is for some people...looking back on it I struggled with these similar issues up until Junior year or so and it was incredibly difficult. Its something I would think about all the time. But that definitely helped me a lot and I learned how to make friends and now I have absolutely no trouble socially.
Obviously NS is going to say 'fuck the rich preppy kids' but the preppy kids are probably saying fuck the 'low life hipster stoner skiers'. One thing I've learned is to always try to be extremely open and non-judgemental. Tons of people come across as assholes, douches, rich cocky assholes, dirtbags, etc. but your better off trying to accept and love everyone and their imperfections. Be nice to everyone.
pm me if you have any other questions