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Gettin your ex back...

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INFHski
Posts: 386 - Karma: 15
So, im probably going to get hated on for this but.. im in a dilemma with someone I miss and I just would like some advice on getting her back.. She still talks to me, and she says she wants to try.. but her effort lacks.. If anyone can help me, itd be much a appreciated.. please dont hate too hard
Sep 3 2011 6:57PM
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Ruffles
Posts: 1132 - Karma: 29
you broke up for a reason, right?
Sep 3 2011 7:02PM
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INFHski
Posts: 386 - Karma: 15
yeah i guess we kinda needed a break.. we fought alot
Sep 3 2011 7:03PM
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Ruffles
Posts: 1132 - Karma: 29
why would you want that back? Next her and go bang someone hotter.
Sep 3 2011 7:03PM
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eljusto.
Posts: 2163 - Karma: 457
no matter what you're going to miss any ex at first. Just keep your mind off it and find someone new.
Sep 3 2011 7:05PM
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[cmyk]
Posts: 261 - Karma: 177

dude i'll tell you what...I've been dating this girl for a while and we fight all the time (99% of the time its her being a dumb bitch) and her effort in improving has been lacking as well. Sometimes you just gotta realize that yeah, you might have had good times but you gotta look at the big picture. we're you really happy or are you just romanticising about those few good times?

id say if you miss her but she's being lazy its not gona be worth it brah... and wish me luck for the conversation im gona be having later tonight =/

Sep 3 2011 7:06PM
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INFHski
Posts: 386 - Karma: 15
thats hard to do
Sep 3 2011 7:06PM
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Juice.Doctor
Posts: 2791 - Karma: 293
dont be strapped man. move on. it's not gonna change. you'll still fight
Sep 3 2011 7:07PM
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eljusto.
Posts: 2163 - Karma: 457
I know it is, I'm going through it right now. But it's necessary if you want to be happy.
Sep 3 2011 7:07PM
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Prepreip
Posts: 168 - Karma: 12
Give it time mang. About a yr ago I got out of a 6 yr relationship and thought I would never get over her... I did. Just chill for a bit and explore other options, if you know what I mean. (bang bitches)
Sep 3 2011 7:07PM
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.AR6rider.
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I'm guessing that you're missing all the good times you had because you don't have anyone right now, but the reality is, if you get back together all the bad things will still be there, and you'll end up breaking up again for the same reasons. Find someone new or hang out with your friends and it'll take your mind off her and try to move on.
Sep 3 2011 7:10PM
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eljusto.
Posts: 2163 - Karma: 457
This, if you get back together you're going to fight and go through this again. So the choice is yours, you can get over it now. Or go through it again and have to deal with this twice.
Sep 3 2011 7:13PM
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INFHski
Posts: 386 - Karma: 15
thanks man
Sep 3 2011 7:59PM
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neutralzombie
Posts: 8629 - Karma: 606
my ex and i were terrible. we fought a lot, to a point where people didn't want to hang out with us, to a point where we threw shit at each other. move on man. a toxic relationship is a toxic relationship. it's bad for you, it's bad for her. it's fucking bad for your health. sometimes you just can't get along with someone, and it's not one's fault, just the way it works. for a long loong time i missed the shit out of my ex, but because i focused on all the shit i missed, all the good memories. sure there's gonna be tons of good memories, but then you eventually are going to realize how bad shit actually was. then you meet someone new, and it stops hurting so much. moving on is easier when you do it the first time. there's always someone out there, someone who'll always be better, you just have to know whether or not what you're doing is actually good for you.
Sep 3 2011 8:09PM
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ngates_EC
Posts: 1464 - Karma: 807
how long were you with her/ how old are you? Chances are, after a few weeks, you'll start to feel better. Just do things to get your mind off of it like hanging out with friends.
Sep 3 2011 8:15PM
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EricaMN.
Posts: 2704 - Karma: 346
You're the only thing that controls that. Just set a weekend aside, and go into the wilderness. Pack a tent or just build a shelter. Connect with nature for a bit and you'll realize that life is so bad and that it's not worth worrying about one person. Get spiritual.... Cheers man, hope this helps!
Sep 3 2011 8:22PM
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pomme-de-terre
Posts: 3915 - Karma: 703
hit that bitch with a blunt object. tie her up, stash her in the basement and feed her baloney and milk to survive.


that should teach her to leave you.
Sep 3 2011 9:15PM
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NataliePortman
Posts: 1382 - Karma: 84
I got back with my ex, and now we are better than ever. I cannot remember the last time we had a fight.

...and thats supposed to never happen. Have hope but if there is a lack of motivation coming from her, its going to be really hard to mend things. It took both of our power to rekindle what we had before things started falling apart. Reality is, if your good enough of a guy there will be enough women out there for your picking, instead of some girl you shared some good times with but wanted to rip each others heads off.
Sep 3 2011 9:39PM
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TechnoPotamus
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....this.
Sep 3 2011 9:47PM
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Broseph_Stalin
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its fucking hard but it is more than likely someone else out there is better, it takes patience and the mental strength to move on and take your mind off of her.

good luck
Sep 3 2011 9:48PM
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N.Rosenberger
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Sep 3 2011 10:19PM
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Mike-O
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State your age and how long you were together before the split, it will help with us seeing the big picture.
Sep 3 2011 10:22PM
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N.Rosenberger
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Sep 15 2011 3:52PM
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