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What to do about friend?

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En_Route
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This friend of mine that i 've had for a long time is starting to head down the wrong path. He is hanging out with some seriously shady ppl. He is also drinking alot and smoking weed like a chimney. he also started smoking cigfarettes to top iot all off. He is still really cool when he hangs out with me but ists weird cause i know what hes gonna do when he leaves. I just dont want to see him fuck up his life at 16. I just want to see what u guys would say and any advice you may have. thanks ns.
Aug 9 2009 3:10PM
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smooticus
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hes 16 hes going to drink and smoke. just dont let hime get into any thing harder
Aug 9 2009 3:15PM
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B-runge
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just tell him to not smoke cigs
the rest is what all 16 year olds do......
Aug 9 2009 3:17PM
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charmander
Posts: 10636 - Karma: 372
tell him to quit the cigs

weed and booze isnt gonna ruin his life
Aug 9 2009 3:17PM
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t3hb055
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Or you could plant some hard drugs, get him forced to go to a rehab facility and hope that works. I agree with above mainly though.
Aug 9 2009 3:18PM
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Elijah.
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Talk to him? He's probably doing it for attention, let him know you care about him (in the gayest of ways).

No but seriously, let him do what he wants, it's his life. Don't be his parents until he starts meth or something as fucked up as that.
Aug 9 2009 3:18PM
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hey_dude_its_me
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the booze and weed aren't a problem, but the "seriously shady people" might be

Aug 9 2009 3:19PM
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QPower
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yea, i agree
Aug 9 2009 3:19PM
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Shabangarang
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TELL HIS MOM hahahah best way for him to stopp hahaha
Aug 9 2009 3:28PM
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FrenchToastMafia
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^don't tell his mom. if i were you id start smokin a bunch of weed yourself and hope that works
Aug 9 2009 3:45PM
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Willard
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hmm i know people like that he just gotta accept it
Aug 9 2009 3:49PM
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doublexl
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some good advice huuurrrrr
Aug 9 2009 3:54PM
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SSteezle
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Aug 9 2009 4:10PM
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jason...
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I'm 16. I drink, smoke weed, smoke cigarettes and have done many other drugs. I consider myself just fine, and your friend is probably just fine too. Just let him be. If he can do all this stuff and remain the same person, then there really isn't a problem.
Aug 9 2009 4:36PM
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14.
Posts: 974 - Karma: 48
dont ^ make it worse, just wait it out , if it gets worse confront him about it, and the cigs half to stop
Aug 9 2009 4:39PM
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Shabangarang
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KO73-WlOHhM
Aug 9 2009 4:54PM
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skier_boy26
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You might consider yourself just fine, but I'd consider you a fucking idiot.


Aug 9 2009 5:03PM
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14.
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cool, want a cookie?
Aug 9 2009 5:05PM
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SteevJee
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One of my really good friends starting huffin gas and smoking weed and ish in 8th grade, and I thought he would be fine. However, this last year he was put into Rehab until he is 18 (which is December). He was the type of kid that would do any thing for friends, and he started to chill with some shady people because they would accept him into their group. These shady people influenced him to get into more and more hardcore drugs which got him into trouble. He also had some tough family issues going on at the time.

For the most part weed, and drinking won't do shit except for make you unhealthy, but your friend should be fine. In my opinion it is just the kind of kid he is. If he is smart enough and has enough self control to stay away from hardcore drugs than he will be ok.
Aug 9 2009 5:07PM
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BobBarker
Posts: 48 - Karma: 11
Wow your friend seems like the craziest person i've ever heard of I wouldn't be surprised if he's killed a man before you better just let him do whatever he wants. You know how those weed smokers are they're so damn crazy I bet he'd eat your foot if you wern't wearing shoes. Better just try and get him to a mental asylum. Wow that kid sure sounds crazy. Damn
Aug 9 2009 5:15PM
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wh@t
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go NS!
Aug 9 2009 5:57PM
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sick-as-aids
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hmmmmmmm, i have to disagree....yes for the majority this is the case...my best friend was introduced to weed at about 16....hes now 19, failed school, dropped out of his bum course to get into uni, hes living in a shit hole, hating life....all because......hes smokes weed everyday....he could never control himself, he started hangin with stoners..he would never do schoool work coz theyd go and have a smoke, and hed never turn it down....he drinks every weekend regardles, he cant afford it, coz he spends the little income he earns on weed, so he borrows from people to buy booze, all the time....now hes in a tonn of debt, has no life, has no prospective future, is lazy as fuck and is a right drop kick...

and the sad thing is, he always had about 10-15% higher grades than me befor he got into this, im at uni, passing easy and giving myself a future...he was a smart kid, now hes a dropkick
Aug 9 2009 6:37PM
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smuggsVT
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smoke and drink with him and see if you like it. its not that big of a deal
Aug 9 2009 6:41PM
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SteezyOhio
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as long as he isnt getting addicted to cigs he's fine

with booze just make sure he isnt doing stupid shit like driving or letting people drive drunk, no respect, also tell him you understand what he's doing, and you care about him (homo), that if he even needs a ride home and cant stand what is happening that your there, and you arnt judgeing him based on his early life choices

^my friend did this for me and it helps to know he cares and is interested in my well being but doesnt want to partake, which i ammend him on, JUST DONT LET HIM DO STUPID SHIT< DRIVE DRUNK< SMOKE IN SUPER PUBLIC PLACES< MOVE PAST WEED AND BOOZE

also if he starts taking cocaine.......sign him up for a pitchmen audition, to soon? fuck you guys

Aug 9 2009 6:53PM
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En_Route
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well to the ppl that helped thanks, to the smart asses that didnt, its ok cause uve all probably not had to deal with a serious life issue. its all a game and shit but weed and drinking and that shit has effed up so many lives of ppl i use to know that i dont take it as a joke. but ur all real funny. thesad part is that he is starting to fail so its going downhll...
Aug 9 2009 6:54PM
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iFail
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Pretty sure that the rate of people that don't relapse after rehab is 2-3%.  Taking someone who only smokes and drinks and being a total dick getting him sent to rehab for hard drugs, fucking with his parents head, fucking with his parents wallet 15-30 grand, fucking his life for two months and sending him to a place that is filled with crack heads who know how to grow their own crack rocks that will tell him how great hard drugs are, will simply piss him off making him want to start doing hard drugs.  That doesn't help much.  First of all the only people that try to get clean from rehab are the ones that choose to go and try not to do any more drugs.

Weed and alcohal are something every 16 year old likes, and if he started at 16 that is fairly late.  Get him off cigs though, they just smell bad fuck your lungs waste your money and repulse attractive girls.  You could point out he could save that money for weed or alcohal or molly though.

Aug 9 2009 7:59PM
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iFail
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oh yeah should have touched on that-  Drunk driving is being a total dick, and you are putting everybody else at risk who are on the road too.  Killing yourself from that or even worse some random other person is one of the worst things you can do.
Aug 9 2009 8:05PM
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charmander
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don't take this the wrong way, but that's basically the way your friend would have turned out anyway mang.

i don't burn anymore, but weed doesnt change people like that.

some people succeed, some don't

i guarantee that if you got him clean for a month he wouldn't do jackshit to fix his life.
Aug 9 2009 8:29PM
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yellav
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not trying to judge i have no idea who your friend is or anything but sounds like that all his personal problems, not too much to do with ganj. thats a pretty huge cop out for all the shit he seems to be in.
Aug 9 2009 8:37PM
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BobBarker
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Listen the answer is simple kid nap him put him in a room where theres two cages one wiht you in it, the other with weed. Now The one he doesnt choose falls in a pit of lava.

Or install a device that electrocutes you every time he smokes weed so he can see the real damage it causes
Aug 9 2009 8:41PM
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TheBeardedOne
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There are a lot of people who can handle drinking/smoking etc. but there are also a lot that can't. At 16 it's super fun to get all fucked up but honestly most kids can't handle it well at that age and make stupid decisions. I'm only 19 so it's not like I can judge, but I got into drinking and pot the summer before senior year, I only drank on weekends but I smoked 4-5 days a week and still made the honor roll. Right now I smoke weed every day and drink about 3-4 days a week, but it's summer. I still work and have a great social life, and awesome girlfriend and I'm super stoked to go back to university in a month. It all depends on your personality. If you think your friend can't handle that lifestyle at this age then do something about it, but he might be just fine. If he's starting to fail just remind him that getting a high school diploma is really fucking important.
Aug 9 2009 8:43PM
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willyg0808
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No hope with dope! haha
Aug 9 2009 8:50PM
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siktrix777
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live life......do drugs
Aug 9 2009 8:52PM
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beckywhe2
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I think he'll be fine. As long as he is the same old guy you know.

But he is probably just bored of doing the same old shit. Hes looking for adventure. Let him have it. But if he starts to do really sketchy shit (meth, coke, PCP hahah) confront him in a chill way.
Aug 9 2009 8:54PM
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Sufferboy
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Shut the fuck up, your whining to a bunch of kids that don't give a fuck because we smoke pot and drink. stop being like me when i was 15, i was a bitch, do you wanna be a bitch?
Aug 9 2009 8:59PM
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B-runge
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you are a bitch
Aug 9 2009 9:12PM
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sick-as-aids
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yeah i dont see weed as the whole contributor to his problems, hes a lazy fucker anyway... but it did have a large part to play in alot of his shit...the fact hes always stonned means hes even lazier, which is hard to imagine, and also, its just that he puts weed infront of EVERYTHING! his friends, his finances, his life...like everything!

but you are right, and i know people who smoke a shit tone and are sweet... but what im tryna say is that if there are other factors involved, weed can act as a tipping point of someones life
Aug 9 2009 9:20PM
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doublexl
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sorry man, but thats on him. i smoke everday at lunch /claim, and still pull like a 3.6

just dont be a shithead about it.
Aug 9 2009 10:20PM
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Sufferboy
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Aug 9 2009 10:23PM
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comeatmebro
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hahaha a serious life issue? you've got to be kidding me. and you are 16 and weed and alcohol have ruined so many peoples live you USED to know? did they die?! let me guess...overdosed on weed right? how about you just go home and talk to your mommy about how your school day went and watch disney channel while you let your friend grow up and make decisions on his own. the ones he is making are the ones the majority of teenagers i know make and have lived from.
Aug 9 2009 11:52PM
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camski26
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My friend's began to be the same way but he's only 13. If i were you i wouldnt tell anybody about your friend who shouldnt know. You should try to talk to him and tell him he's taking the wrong road and will get nowhere in life. Ik everybody experiments but my friend does it toooo much and I tell him all the time he should stop.
Aug 9 2009 11:56PM
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Dan-Man
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what is your definition of shady people?
Aug 10 2009 12:24AM
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charmander
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i bet hed think im shady
Aug 10 2009 12:26AM
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Dan-Man
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^yea, i'm kinda feeling the same way...
Aug 10 2009 12:30AM
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Alex=God
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Its getting shady with some of my friends. Like people wanting to kill each other shady
Aug 10 2009 12:31AM
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Dan-Man
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^wow. i thought my friend buying a hand gun was kinda shady...
Aug 10 2009 12:33AM
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AntiBang
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i think everyone thats hating on the threadmaker should back off, hes not calling anyone out for drinking and smoking weed. i think u guys r getting defensive because u think hes calling u out too. and the fact is, there are alot of ppl that end up ruined from that stuff, but that doesnt meen hes telling u ur gunna be f*cked up too. relax for godssake hes just worried about his friend.
Aug 10 2009 12:43AM
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14.
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Great post Wonderboy, hahahahahahaha
Aug 10 2009 1:00AM
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B-runge
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haha
Aug 10 2009 1:06AM
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iFail
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HAHAHAHA
Aug 10 2009 1:21AM
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Alex=God
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Yeah its getting bad. The other some friend called a bunch of southside mexicans to rush this kids house who owed him money. It was fuckinng scary and I just sat in the car
Aug 10 2009 2:04AM
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