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splooshie
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it had never crossed my mind that i had depression. but last week, i realized that i was sad all the time. i just mask it. i realized that there is a reason that i dont want to get up and the morning because theres no point. its because.. im suffering from depression. my mom had it her whole life... i dont know if its hereditary but she got into some serious trouble with it. she was a pill addict and she drank constantly, even when she was pregnant with me. i honestly dont know what to do. me thinking i have to live the rest of my life like this is.. well its not very good at all. and for those of you that say im emo, w/e go ahead. i honestly dont give a fuck. my parents both dont belive me that ive been suffering from this my whole life. ive tried everything to get rid of this this past week. but nothing seems to cheer me up. my girlfriend is even contemplating breaking up. i dont know what to do i didnt understand depression until now. and for those of you that dont understand, its like this

your trapped in a house forever. you get to finally go outside, but you find out its raining. raining so bad that you cant go outside. forever. thats what it would feel like.

i need some honest opinions on this, please dont make any rude comments if you dont understand what its like. thank you to all that posts in this thread

also: i dont drink, smoke, or do drugs. so that cant be the cause of it
Feb 26 2008 6:02PM
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Dustin.
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Your mom would probably be the best person to talk to if you could.  Maybe she can help you out bro.  Best wishes.

Feb 26 2008 6:05PM
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J.D.
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Being constantly sad doesn't necessarily mean you have depression... there are a set of specific symptoms for a variety of mood disorders that need to be diagnosed by a specialist. Fatigue is a big one... but you're a teenager, you could just be lazy. Anyway, consistent sadness is actually CONTRARY to a profile of a person with clinical depression, the idea is that a neurotransmitter imbalance causes chemically induced periods of hopelessness/sadness/anger/apathy/etc. So it's more like a roller coaster than a constant low. However that's just the general rule, there are always exceptions.... so... talk to a psych?
Feb 26 2008 6:11PM
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DaewonS
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embrace the rain man... rather than run back inside.

id agree with the above poster- try to talk to your mom about it. im not an expert, but maybe try thinking of times when you were happy and what you were doing during those times. thne spend more time ding those things that you enjoy doing.

hope you work it out man.
Feb 26 2008 6:14PM
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yelsel
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go get your head shrunk man...it works and you'll feel better. just go talk to someone
Feb 26 2008 6:16PM
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AOTEAROA
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Been there, done that. Still doing it. I don't think it'll ever stop. its a part of my life now. Just gotta live with it. It gets bad, it gets good. Best advice: hang in there, keep your head up. pills do nothing ( i was on them for 3 years), counsellors are shit. find your own way through. Kia Kaha - Be strong. Its an incredibly shit world, but there are some good parts.

Feb 26 2008 6:51PM
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JaphyRyder
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yea dude, i would say go see someone. Other than that, the only thing I can suggest is get more exercise and spend more time outside....like ALOT. I understand that what you seem to have is more serious, but almost everyone feels depressed at this time of year if they don't get enough sunlight and exercise.
Think about it...you go to school, come home, sit inside, go to sleep, and repeat. Lack of sunlight has actually been proven to cause depression.
Feb 26 2008 6:52PM
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snwbrdmilf
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Depression is hereditary. When I was pregnant, and my midwife found out that my mother had been diagnosed with depression, she was worried that I would become depressed, as a new mom. So I would definitely suggest going to talk to someone. And even if it isn't depression, it'll help you sort out things in your head. Help you understand YOU better.
Feb 26 2008 7:00PM
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KRASHED
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I think that believing this statement isn't true will help you along. If you have the belief that the world is shit what have you got to look forward to? Good luck man, hope you pull through.
Feb 26 2008 7:05PM
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Aenigma
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I had a depression problem for a few years because I couldn't find a way to cope with several major flaws I saw in life.  Eventually I came to terms with these, but in retrospect I think the process would have been much less painful if I hadn't dragged it out by myself.  That's not to say I've completely cured the problem, but I have certainly improved my situation significantly by changing my mindset--obviously not an easy task.  

If your parents don't belive you about something like that, then......well, they're incredibly callous.  But to get to the point, you need to muster up some initiative to go talk to someone about it, trying can't hurt.    Maybe they can help, maybe they can't, but nobody will be there for you if you do nothing and the people around you don't acknowledge the problem.  Stay strong and pull through, it can only get better from here.
Feb 26 2008 7:11PM
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AOTEAROA
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Then you wouldn't be facing the truth.
Feb 26 2008 7:15PM
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GatoGordo
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I like skiing in the rain, because it's like spring slush almost.
Feb 26 2008 7:20PM
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Kazabazua
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man i've gone through depression a few times, one time when i was 13-15 when my parents got divorced and everything was fucked up in my life.. then i started freestyle skiing, and I found that helped me quite a bit. I'm going through another one right now but basically you have to just find stuff to do, take up a new hobby, become more motivated.. kids get depressed a lot of the time because they dont have things to do, so there minds turn on them, basically just keep your mind occupied and you wont feel sad anymore... good luck dude.
Feb 26 2008 7:29PM
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lushlaxstr
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fun!
Feb 26 2008 7:57PM
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The_Oakley_Kid
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i really like the rollercoaster description... life has its ups and downs and theres nothing you can do about it. eventually it will all just even out... thats just how i like to look at it.
Feb 26 2008 8:02PM
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IcePointa
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If you have a friend with some lsd or shrooms tell him to dose you up and guide you through the experience.

I dunno, that might be a bad idea, but if you're stuck in a rut it would get you out. Could put you somewhere worse depending on your mental state though.
Feb 26 2008 8:03PM
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thecounty
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hang in there man, ive gone through a bit of the depression and downtimes in life too. what really worked for me was exercising. exercising has a way of clearing your mind or at least it did that for me, something about working out and becoming exhausted had a positive effect on my situation. In times like these physical activities will help you a lot, hang in there man, when your low you can only go up. best wishes man.
Feb 26 2008 8:08PM
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Aenigma
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Drugs can only act as a band-aid for a problem like depression.  Short term solutions will never be adequate for solving a long term problem.
Feb 26 2008 8:09PM
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proZach
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without reading who wrote that, that was the funniest thing i've read in a while. hahahaha.

anyways, you really just need to find something that you really enjoy that makes you happy. maybe try picking up crocheting. although you're by yourself, i find that whenever i'm by myself i'm always bored out of my mind or have stupid "sad" thoughts or whatnot. whenever i'm with my friends i'm always happy and everything is pretty straight. when you're alone its when it can hurt. try crocheting or something and listen to some good music. thats the best i got.  good luck to ya.
Feb 26 2008 8:29PM
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doublexl
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ya, i have manik depression and honestly, i dont mind it. i dont mind being glum. but if you think youre depressed, go talk to your mom and talk about seeing a doctor and getting on some meds.
Feb 26 2008 8:34PM
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proZach
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but if he's actually depressed, he should definitely go get some actual help. if psychologists don't work, then why would they exist (don't say to take your money, thats just fucking ignorant). i know they can help if you believe they will, you gotta have a positive outlook on some kind of treatment. get some SSRIs for real depression. they might not work, but they have a damn good statistics proving they help. i know this, i study psych.
Feb 26 2008 8:35PM
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fujarome
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i've faced it a bit too in the past, and it sucked. No one can deny that. But like someone already said, try to find a new hobby or something to get your interest. Over the summer I became super obsessed with soccer when i was depressed. If i was sitting around at home feeling terrible, I'd go out and play soccer, even by myself, just taking shots and freekicks. Then playing with friends we figured out that i'm a pretty good goalkeeper. Now I play on a team, and i'm almost certainly going to play in college.

It was really helpful though, i put all of my energy into something i now love, and am successful at.
Feb 26 2008 8:37PM
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SteezePatrol
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uhhhhh ya don't be doin shrooms and lsd if you're suffering from chronic depression. that would be a horrible idea. using prescri[ption drugs to deal with depression is dangerous, even with the guidance of a professional. lsd and shrooms to help boost you out of depression, using your budy as a guide? insane. stay away.  

I'd say just try to find out if there's one central issue that's gettin you down, and if there's not and you can't resolve it, seek professional help
Feb 26 2008 8:41PM
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KRASHED
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You've got to be kidding me
Feb 26 2008 8:41PM
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Nico_G
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Hes gonna have a bad trip if he's depressed
Feb 26 2008 8:43PM
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Owen.
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If this is a chemical inbalance kind of depression, than a psych is for sure needed, professional help and all that, if you think this might actually just be a phase, try music. Jack Johnson pulls me through low days...
Feb 26 2008 8:51PM
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LoLo913
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i know where you are coming from I've suffered from depression on and off for years. it is hereditary and it can also be caused by a chemical imbalance, sometimes as much as you try you won't be happy becuase it is chemicals. you def need to go to the doctor and tell them what you are experiencing they will probably put you on some medication and hopefully that will level out your mood. if you have more questions feel free to pm me
Feb 26 2008 8:58PM
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freestyler540
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I know what you are going through, I was on the verge of being depressed in high school and I had a short attack on chrismas vacation. I blame it on school, stress, lack of exercise and lack of sleep.

I had the sleep, sadness, intense guilt, never hungry and the isolation thing going on. Its fucking hard to do but, go out and have fun with your friends, talk to them about your conditions, it will feel so much better. Also, try writing down the thoughts that make you miserable, it will help you to cope with it.

good luck and have fun


Feb 26 2008 9:05PM
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Aenigma
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This is an awesome suggestion, I can't believe I forgot to mention it.  Anytime I'm in any sort of mood swing--good or bad--I keep some kind of journal with me.  Writing down my thoughts, whether it's through poetry, prose, or just a simple statement, makes me feel immensely better.  Not to mention some of my favorite stuff that I've written I've done while in an absolutely horrible mood, and just going back and reading through it can be helpful and sometimes really interesting.  Drawing helps too.
Feb 26 2008 9:11PM
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THATS_STREET
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lifes a bitch and then you die thats why we get high cuz you never know when your gonna go
Feb 26 2008 9:17PM
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DaewonS
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that is by far the most retarded response ive seen in a long while...
a) im sure his "friend with doses" has no idea how to properly guide a trip
b) experiencing psychedelics while depressed could having very long lasting and painful effects
Feb 26 2008 9:28PM
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proZach
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i wasn't referring specifically to your post, someone said psychs don't work. i just wrote my post poorly.
Feb 26 2008 9:48PM
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wh@t
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eh bro, search Depression and look fora thread with my name on it. i went through the same shit. maybe mine was more sever, idk, but still any help is worth it. dont wait till it gets terrible. try and fix it now.
Feb 26 2008 9:49PM
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Quinny
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Find somebody you can talk to, someone you can vent your problems with. As was said before, sometimes just talking it out can go a long way. If that doesn't seem to help, then you try for a diagnosis.

Also, using drugs as a vehicle to get rid of your depression is an incredibly bad idea. Thats how addicts are born.
Feb 26 2008 9:54PM
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charmander
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ehh im depressed

meds make it worse

so i smoke weed and feel better
Feb 26 2008 9:54PM
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ax_murderer
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ehh yeah thats where i am. and these last two weeks have been miserable i feel shitty have zero motivation dont care about anything and then when i realize all this i get incredibly stresssed that i cant change and sit down and do work, go work out , etc and then i get all pissed a frustrated. its a shitty cycle, i've just been venting everything to my mom and idk im not here to give advice but im there with ya i think and im just gonna read these
Feb 26 2008 9:59PM
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SARTRON
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im glad someone finally made a thread about this. i always wanted to but couldnt do it.

man, im really sorry for you. i dont wanna say that i know EXACTLY how you are feeling, but ive been there. infact im kinda there now...

anyways. idk ive always been depressed since like 7th grade when my brother became a coke addict( he was in 10th grade), I never had friends, never was accepted. i thought when i went to college all the bullying and teasing that i had encountered for years would go away but yet again people have pushed the limit on how bad of people they too can be. from this i have become an incredibly good liar, a fake person, a cheat, pretty much just an all around bad person to myself and my friends. i want to change, but im afraid that my depression will beat me. being away at school has torn my life to shit, my family is dead, and my depression is out of control. all i can think about come weekend is getting as fucked up as possible. friends hate me, ex doesnt want me back, and im considered a whore in many peoples eyes. i really dont know what to do anymore with this...

im not really looking for a response, just kinda to get it out
Feb 26 2008 10:27PM
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Ender
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everyone's been through it in one form or another
Feb 26 2008 10:34PM
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The_Future
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I don't know how athletic you are.  You may hate to just go running, but give it a shot. I used to absolutely hate running but one day i was having what i thought was the shittiest day of my life so i just decided to go for a run.  I ended up running for a good hour or so and i didn't want to stop.  Running/ exercise is a natural upbringer... it creates chemicals in your body that make you happy.  It's literally like a natural high.   I'm hooked on it now, whenever i feel depressed i just put on some shoes, grab my ipod, and head out the door.  Try it, you might like it.  But good luck bro i know how you feel, infact i kind of feel like that right now and i would go out for a run but i'm getting sick and have a wicked headache and just don't have the energy to do it.
Feb 26 2008 10:58PM
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Yauch
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wait seriously?
Feb 26 2008 11:10PM
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Foxy_Grandpa
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i hope you will overcome it. i've been stuck in the same damn hole for about five years ever since i realized i was adopted...but hopefully that'll resolve itself

how often do you get to go ski? that usually makes me forget all the fucked up shit in my life and i'm on cloud 9 for about 8 hours. i dunno it helps me.
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try finding a good solid friend that you can talk to, or your mom.


best of luck my friend, you got my vibes bro.
Feb 26 2008 11:31PM
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SARTRON
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no no, i should of said.."my family is falling apart"
Feb 26 2008 11:44PM
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skiminnesota
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good for you, for not drinking, smoking, drugs... dont mask the pain in these ways..

go get some professional help..

best of luck dude!
Feb 26 2008 11:56PM
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Yauch
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oh, well enjoy the family you have, enjoy the things you have. value the things you might not have forever
Feb 26 2008 11:58PM
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charmander
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hey man'

im adoptd too

its nothing to be ashamedof
Feb 27 2008 12:04AM
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samskisalot
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i've had some very close people to me go through it, and the best thing you can do is just find something to do, find a really good friend, a good hobby, spend more time outside exercising, if all that doesn't work, go talk to a psych, or get on meds, but from what i've seen, you have to want to get better, and make an effort to. but if i could recommend one thing, it would be to not go through it alone. find somebody. a friend, a family member, a significant other. it will help having someone there for you.
Feb 27 2008 12:09AM
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ktollefson_1080
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religion and chronic,

believe me.
Feb 27 2008 12:12AM
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IcePointa
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I was just thinking aloud back to the time that lsd was actually used in professional therapy for treating alcoholics and stuff. I ended by saying it was probably a bad idea, lol.. If we had experienced sitters for lsd therapy still around it could have been an option though.

http://www.a1b2c3.com/drugs/lsd02.htm
Feb 27 2008 12:21AM
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Yauch
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yeah also ecstasy was a pharmaceutical drug that psychologists used to get terminally ill patients to open up. But they government found out that it was fun so they made it illegal
Feb 27 2008 12:26AM
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powderdrunkie
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man just don't take shit from your doctor for it.

people get depressed i would find new hobbies and such.

exercise is probably the best thing you could do and it would launch you out of this world of depression. just go outside and run. seriously.
Feb 27 2008 1:24PM
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laurence^
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you summed it up for me man...this year i kinda dropped playing hockey as much and its fucked with me...i realized how gay my school is and how many friends are fake to me and it just turns on you and you get all fucked up especially about school work etc. my school makes me not want to wake up in the morning...i asked my friends the other day is this all there is? and they looked at me like i was retarded
Feb 27 2008 4:23PM
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