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every day. and on normal trains too. guy next to me was sitting like half in my seat. another guy was asleep and i had to wake him so I could get off, and he just sat there and I had to climb over him anyway.
yangumaneit hurts my balls to sit with my legs at anything less than a 55 degree angle
Seriously, im tryna preserve my nuts so i can inseminate a girl in the future. My sperm will be weak if my balls are under pressure ba na na nana na na under pressure
ANUSTARTSeriously, im tryna preserve my nuts so i can inseminate a girl in the future. My sperm will be weak if my balls are under pressure ba na na nana na na under pressure
It's just a pretty dumb feminist movement. If anyone actually gets offended at manspreading (train,bus,etc not being crowded) then they should probably re-evulate their life.
If you're intruding into someone else's seat, then you're being rude. However, if nobody else is sitting next to you, it's fair game. Common bus etiquette.
corgEIf you're intruding into someone else's seat, then you're being rude. However, if nobody else is sitting next to you, it's fair game. Common bus etiquette.
corgEIf you're intruding into someone else's seat, then you're being rude. However, if nobody else is sitting next to you, it's fair game. Common bus etiquette.
The issue with this view point is that SOOOOO many people do it, then the bus or train or whatever starts to fill up and no one sits next to them leaving people standing and the bus getting more crowded when it doesn't need to be. I especially hate it when I see this happening in the elderly/handicapped seats.
It's so damn obnoxious especially on busses to the mountain where everyone is carrying a bunch of gear. I hate seeing the 5 guys by themselves and the 10 people standing in the isle because they are uncomfortable approaching the many taking up two seats pretending not to notice the bus is full. I mean, the people in the isle should have the balls to say something, but it shouldn't even be an issue to begin with.
idk sometimes you need to spread the legs and let your ball bag have some room for a few, it is still somewhat frowned to scratch them in public so we gotta make due sometimes. don't hate the player, hate the game.
RachyThe issue with this view point is that SOOOOO many people do it, then the bus or train or whatever starts to fill up and no one sits next to them leaving people standing and the bus getting more crowded when it doesn't need to be. I especially hate it when I see this happening in the elderly/handicapped seats.
It's so damn obnoxious especially on busses to the mountain where everyone is carrying a bunch of gear. I hate seeing the 5 guys by themselves and the 10 people standing in the isle because they are uncomfortable approaching the many taking up two seats pretending not to notice the bus is full. I mean, the people in the isle should have the balls to say something, but it shouldn't even be an issue to begin with.
RachyThe issue with this view point is that SOOOOO many people do it, then the bus or train or whatever starts to fill up and no one sits next to them leaving people standing and the bus getting more crowded when it doesn't need to be. I especially hate it when I see this happening in the elderly/handicapped seats.
It's so damn obnoxious especially on busses to the mountain where everyone is carrying a bunch of gear. I hate seeing the 5 guys by themselves and the 10 people standing in the isle because they are uncomfortable approaching the many taking up two seats pretending not to notice the bus is full. I mean, the people in the isle should have the balls to say something, but it shouldn't even be an issue to begin with.
Really? That sounds a bit hyperbolic. I ride the bus every day to and from work, and even when it's packed, this is not an issue, but hey, maybe it's different where you live.
And seriously, just ask. Chances are high that he'll let you sit down. Sure, you shouldn't have to, and the guy should be more aware of the situation, but it solves the problem. Blogging about it does not solve the problem.
corgEReally? That sounds a bit hyperbolic. I ride the bus every day to and from work, and even when it's packed, this is not an issue, but hey, maybe it's different where you live.
And seriously, just ask. Chances are high that he'll let you sit down. Sure, you shouldn't have to, and the guy should be more aware of the situation, but it solves the problem. Blogging about it does not solve the problem.
I'm not concerned about me, I can handle myself.
I'm more worried about the people who don't ride public transit often, or are very shy, or speak English as a second language, or are old and brittle and struggle to get on the bus in the first place.
You don't know every person's circumstance, it might actually be difficult for them. And not every disability is obvious.
RachyI'm not concerned about me, I can handle myself.
I'm more worried about the people who don't ride public transit often, or are very shy, or speak English as a second language, or are old and brittle and struggle to get on the bus in the first place.
You don't know every person's circumstance, it might actually be difficult for them. And not every disability is obvious.
You're right, I don't know everyone's background. And that's a fair point. But why does "manspreading" deserve its own term, as if taking up room unnecessarily is limited to men?
RachyThe issue with this view point is that SOOOOO many people do it, then the bus or train or whatever starts to fill up and no one sits next to them leaving people standing and the bus getting more crowded when it doesn't need to be. I especially hate it when I see this happening in the elderly/handicapped seats.
It's so damn obnoxious especially on busses to the mountain where everyone is carrying a bunch of gear. I hate seeing the 5 guys by themselves and the 10 people standing in the isle because they are uncomfortable approaching the many taking up two seats pretending not to notice the bus is full. I mean, the people in the isle should have the balls to say something, but it shouldn't even be an issue to begin with.
That is just one persons super sensitive and entitled opinion anyone not observing your specific idea of bus etiquette is automatically being selfish. If you don't want to have a pleasant interaction with a stranger asking them if a seat is open (or if its a group asking them to squeeze together so people can sit if they are together and talking just ask if they'd rather sit next to each other than you inbetween) accept that you are being anti social not them. Its the same kind of thing as holding a door open for someone its a common courtesy to politely ask or say escuzi if they are being expected to move.
Fact is that lots of people would rather stand than sit next to a large man in seats that weren't built for large people. As someone who is taller than most everybody I know for damned sure that Im standing before I sit down next to a fat person.
And no matter how I sit due to being large (Im not fat anymore) people generally look around for a smaller person to sit next to before choosing me if I shared your thought proccess and wanted to be offended by everything I could claim that people who prefer to sit next to a smaller person than myself are no better than someone who prefers to sit next to a white person than a black person. But I don't want to be offended by everything.
Grow up ladies stop trying to find gender inequality where it doesn't exist all you are doing is undermining genuine womens rights causes that need to be addressed (there really are some but not as many as someone like Dingo would like people to believe.)
Remember its not just men who get pissed off when a female colleague gets preggers and their job becomes harder automatically female coworkers get pissed off too when their workload increases through no fault of their own.
People love being offended though. Remember the smaller you are the more comfortable and spacious your airline or public transit seat is and the more appealing you are to be sat next to so if anyone should spread out a bit to discourage being constantly sat next or better yet put a backpack on the seat next to you its you since bigger humans get sat next to less :).
PeppermillRenoThat is just one persons super sensitive and entitled opinion anyone not observing your specific idea of bus etiquette is automatically being selfish. If you don't want to have a pleasant interaction with a stranger asking them if a seat is open (or if its a group asking them to squeeze together so people can sit if they are together and talking just ask if they'd rather sit next to each other than you inbetween) accept that you are being anti social not them. Its the same kind of thing as holding a door open for someone its a common courtesy to politely ask or say escuzi if they are being expected to move.
Fact is that lots of people would rather stand than sit next to a large man in seats that weren't built for large people. As someone who is taller than most everybody I know for damned sure that Im standing before I sit down next to a fat person.
And no matter how I sit due to being large (Im not fat anymore) people generally look around for a smaller person to sit next to before choosing me if I shared your thought proccess and wanted to be offended by everything I could claim that people who prefer to sit next to a smaller person than myself are no better than someone who prefers to sit next to a white person than a black person. But I don't want to be offended by everything.
Grow up ladies stop trying to find gender inequality where it doesn't exist all you are doing is undermining genuine womens rights causes that need to be addressed (there really are some but not as many as someone like Dingo would like people to believe.)
Remember its not just men who get pissed off when a female colleague gets preggers and their job becomes harder automatically female coworkers get pissed off too when their workload increases through no fault of their own.
People love being offended though. Remember the smaller you are the more comfortable and spacious your airline or public transit seat is and the more appealing you are to be sat next to so if anyone should spread out a bit to discourage being constantly sat next or better yet put a backpack on the seat next to you its you since bigger humans get sat next to less :).
Let's drop the gender equality and call it jerkspreading. Will that make you feel better?
Oh, awesome, you're big and you prefer standing up, sweet, maybe you aren't the problem. But there are plenty of people that are. There are plenty of people that take up space that they don't need and for whatever reason (language barrier, anxiety, fear) the people that would benefit from some of that space don't say anything. Then there are the individuals that will sit down next to someone only taking their space and take over. I have no issue if someone sits down next to me. Fucking good. Use the seats! Just don't feel entitled to my space as well. I shouldn't need to ask for this. It's common curtsey.
I think the fine thing is a bit ridiculous. I find it pathetic that it's needed, but at least it's teaching people how to be a decent human being. Maybe next we can work on not putting your feet on the seats when you're wearing shoes or barefoot.
corgEYou're right, I don't know everyone's background. And that's a fair point. But why does "manspreading" deserve its own term, as if taking up room unnecessarily is limited to men?
I agree it's pretty shit to call it manspreading. Jerkspreading? I'd happily go along with that and I'd make a guess that the fine's aren't limited to men.
I find it pathetic that fines are needed, but apparently that's what our society needs in order to learn a little etiquette.
RachyI have no issue if someone sits down next to me. Fucking good. Use the seats! Just don't feel entitled to my space as well. I shouldn't need to ask for this. It's common curtsey.
So many issues (both large and small) could easily be avoided if people actually acted upon the ultra simple maxim of "do what you want, but don't negatively affect other people". While it's by no means a fool-proof idea, it would get rid of a lot uncourteous and even unethical behavior. That people can't seem to even grasp the basics (or have the fortitude to adhere to them) is really sad.
onenerdykidSo many issues (both large and small) could easily be avoided if people actually acted upon the ultra simple maxim of "do what you want, but don't negatively affect other people". While it's by no means a fool-proof idea, it would get rid of a lot uncourteous and even unethical behavior. That people can't seem to even grasp the basics (or have the fortitude to adhere to them) is really sad.
yes and no, people should definitely not be actively offending people, but in this instance, i am going to go out on a limb and say that not EVERYONE is trying to offend by spreading their goddamn legs. sure it would be nice to not have to ask, but at the same time, people shouldnt be expecting everyone else too look out for them instead of taking responsibility for themselves, and ask for a seat. 9 times out of 10 i bet the person will have zero issue giving you some space to sit and narrowing their seating position. the same goes for bags, and what i personally used to encounter on a daily basis on my skytrain commute to and from school, purses/bags on seats, men and women, every single day.
furthermore, i am right there in saying it isnt, and shouldnt be a "feminism" issue, bags, legs-crossed-but-to-the-side-far-enough-that-it-takes-up-an-entire-seat-because-apparently-its-too-difficult-to-sit-forwards, and a million other etiquette issues that result in taking up extra seating/standing space. "manspreading" became a term because it is something that men do almost exclusively, as we dont have to deal with skirts/dresses/short-shorts that result in underwear showing, so a wider stance for us is how we deal with having a penis and not obnoxiously pick and rolling our balls in public. All the while, ANY other etiquette issue is overlooked because of the femenazi movement who believe men are the scourge of the earth.
if you have an issue with something, or you want something from someone else, ask or tell them instead of getting all salty and cranky about it. its called communication, super simple stuff.
mmallender.yes and no, people should definitely not be actively offending people, but in this instance, i am going to go out on a limb and say that not EVERYONE is trying to offend by spreading their goddamn legs. sure it would be nice to not have to ask, but at the same time, people shouldnt be expecting everyone else too look out for them instead of taking responsibility for themselves, and ask for a seat. 9 times out of 10 i bet the person will have zero issue giving you some space to sit and narrowing their seating position. the same goes for bags, and what i personally used to encounter on a daily basis on my skytrain commute to and from school, purses/bags on seats, men and women, every single day.
furthermore, i am right there in saying it isnt, and shouldnt be a "feminism" issue, bags, legs-crossed-but-to-the-side-far-enough-that-it-takes-up-an-entire-seat-because-apparently-its-too-difficult-to-sit-forwards, and a million other etiquette issues that result in taking up extra seating/standing space. "manspreading" became a term because it is something that men do almost exclusively, as we dont have to deal with skirts/dresses/short-shorts that result in underwear showing, so a wider stance for us is how we deal with having a penis and not obnoxiously pick and rolling our balls in public. All the while, ANY other etiquette issue is overlooked because of the femenazi movement who believe men are the scourge of the earth.
if you have an issue with something, or you want something from someone else, ask or tell them instead of getting all salty and cranky about it. its called communication, super simple stuff.
WOAH, you mean like physically talking to people and maybe even having a conversation? no thank you, its much easier to be passive aggressive and just make social media posts about it. screw taking responsibility.
Rode public transit in Toronto for years and years and years and yeah - this shit totally bugs me. But not enough -- I have no problems looking at whoever is taking up too much space, and politely saying excuse me and sitting down damn near on top of them if they don't move. Fuck 'em. What pisses me off way more is when people don't give up their seats for the elderly, disabled, pregnant women or women with small kids. Self absorbed pricks.
DeebieSkeebiesWOAH, you mean like physically talking to people and maybe even having a conversation? no thank you, its much easier to be passive aggressive and just make social media posts about it. screw taking responsibility.
This sounds a lot easier than it actually is for many people. I have no issue any more, but it took me a while. I used to be afraid to raise my hand in school to use the bathroom. I would have panic attacks over it. I was lucky enough to get actual help and get over it. If you don't have a problem speaking to strangers, that doesn't mean that others don't. You don't know what's going on in their lives. But if a bus is filling up and the only remaining seats are next those taking up 2 or 3, asking shouldn't even be an issue. You should be decent enough to only take your space.
DeebieSkeebiesWOAH, you mean like physically talking to people and maybe even having a conversation? no thank you, its much easier to be passive aggressive and just make social media posts about it. screw taking responsibility.
communication is overrated, its all about being passive aggressive and getting salty about EVERYTHING, but NEVER actually doing anything productive about it.
RachyThis sounds a lot easier than it actually is for many people. I have no issue any more, but it took me a while. I used to be afraid to raise my hand in school to use the bathroom. I would have panic attacks over it. I was lucky enough to get actual help and get over it. If you don't have a problem speaking to strangers, that doesn't mean that others don't. You don't know what's going on in their lives. But if a bus is filling up and the only remaining seats are next those taking up 2 or 3, asking shouldn't even be an issue. You should be decent enough to only take your space.
i am sorry you had that problem, and congratulations for getting help and getting over it, for real, no sarcasm/facetiousness intended. BUT, communication is a BASIC social skill WORLDWIDE. there are HUNDREDS of spoken languages around the world, cant speak? there are hand sign languages, most people dont understand signing, you can write it out on paper, your phone, blood on the wall, smear poop, the list goes on. dont speak the current primary language of where you are living/visiting, learn, get a translator, download an app, use google, its your job to adapt to your surroundings, not to expect your surroundings to adapt to your individual needs.
yes, you are right, it SHOULDNT be an issue, there are a LOT of things that should be non issues around the world, basic human rights, etiquette, manners, etc. but guess what, the world isnt perfect, youre always going to encounter SOME asshole who a) doesnt know. or b) doesnt care. if you cant grow a pair and speak up for yourself and instead act cranky and internalize your bitterness because someone did something you didnt like and you didnt do anything about it, that is entirely YOUR issue.
life is hard, life isnt fair, life isnt about expecting others to do things and watch out for your well being, you have to take responsibility for yourself.
mmallender.communication is overrated, its all about being passive aggressive and getting salty about EVERYTHING, but NEVER actually doing anything productive about it.
Well they sucesfully managed to make it illegal to "manspread: in New York. That's doing something about it.
S.J.WWell they sucesfully managed to make it illegal to "manspread: in New York. That's doing something about it.
and how did that happen? enough people had a problem with it, and said or did something about it to the point where action was taken to correct an issue.
not doing anything and then complaining about it is like not voting and whining about the current president/prime minister/whatever elected governing body you have. its like a restaurant getting your order wrong, eating it anyways, being asked if everything is okay by your server, and then whining about it later.
oh you have a problem? did you do anything about it? if you didnt, you dont really have any grounds to complain about it
mmallender.yes and no, people should definitely not be actively offending people, but in this instance, i am going to go out on a limb and say that not EVERYONE is trying to offend by spreading their goddamn legs. sure it would be nice to not have to ask, but at the same time, people shouldnt be expecting everyone else too look out for them instead of taking responsibility for themselves,
It's not that it is offensive, but rather simple politeness (in this case) that people just don't take the time to think about. People ALWAYS say that the world is full of idiots and retards but rarely extend that critique to themselves and ask the simple question of "hey, am I actually contributing to the problem?"
Sure I could ask the person to move their legs so that I may sit down (which I have no problem doing), but how about he actually takes the responsibility of his own actions without being told to do it? That's what I think is missing here, rather than me taking responsibility for correcting his behavior. He's the one doing something that is not appropriate, therefore he should take the responsibility to correct it. And if not, then for sure let him know.
mmallender.and how did that happen? enough people had a problem with it, and said or did something about it to the point where action was taken to correct an issue.
not doing anything and then complaining about it is like not voting and whining about the current president/prime minister/whatever elected governing body you have. its like a restaurant getting your order wrong, eating it anyways, being asked if everything is okay by your server, and then whining about it later.
oh you have a problem? did you do anything about it? if you didnt, you dont really have any grounds to complain about it
What you're essentially saying is that no one can have a problem with anything unless they go out and protest? Yeah because a "stop the spread" protest is going to look great for feminism. Take manspreading for example, there wasn't a huge protest or lobbying of governments. It was mostly a circle jerk of feminists on the internet. One feminist was like "hey why are men taking up more space than they need" then the rest of the feminists were like "yeah bitch" and so manspreading gained traction among the internet and then New York law makers saw it and was like "yeah okay stop spreading guys".
The internet brings people together and it educates people. If something on the internet gains enough traction (manspreading, kony 2012, transgender issues, etc,etc) due to tumblr, facebook, or whatever then most mainstream news outlets will do a story on it because they care about ratings. And those mainstream news outlets can be pretty damn influentional.
S.J.WWhat you're essentially saying is that no one can have a problem with anything unless they go out and protest? Yeah because a "stop the spread" protest is going to look great for feminism. Take manspreading for example, there wasn't a huge protest or lobbying of governments. It was mostly a circle jerk of feminists on the internet. One feminist was like "hey why are men taking up more space than they need" then the rest of the feminists were like "yeah bitch" and so manspreading gained traction among the internet and then New York law makers saw it and was like "yeah okay stop spreading guys".
The internet brings people together and it educates people. If something on the internet gains enough traction (manspreading, kony 2012, transgender issues, etc,etc) due to tumblr, facebook, or whatever then most mainstream news outlets will do a story on it because they care about ratings. And those mainstream news outlets can be pretty damn influentional.
The bigger issue is people who put their bags and luggage in the adjacent seats when it could easily go in their lap. And that's not gender-specific. But of course, that's not going to make the media because it doesn't demonize men.
Assholes are assholes, it doesn't matter what's dwelling in their underwear.
And I'm still referring to a situation where the bus is packed, and people are standing. If there's free space and there's nobody standing, go forth and conquer.
onenerdykidIt's not that it is offensive, but rather simple politeness (in this case) that people just don't take the time to think about. People ALWAYS say that the world is full of idiots and retards but rarely extend that critique to themselves and ask the simple question of "hey, am I actually contributing to the problem?"
Sure I could ask the person to move their legs so that I may sit down (which I have no problem doing), but how about he actually takes the responsibility of his own actions without being told to do it? That's what I think is missing here, rather than me taking responsibility for correcting his behavior. He's the one doing something that is not appropriate, therefore he should take the responsibility to correct it. And if not, then for sure let him know.
absolutely, it should absolutely be common courtesy in this case to share public seating space, and manspread when you have an empty bus/when the situation is appropriate. people absolutely should take responsibility for their own actions and conduct, especially regarding others. what i am saying is that it is also your responsibility to take action and point out, when someone's actions/conduct needs correcting. you cant fix a problem if the person responsible is unaware of their problem in the first place, and if you are going to whine about it and do nothing, then i have very little sympathy for you.
S.J.WWhat you're essentially saying is that no one can have a problem with anything unless they go out and protest? Yeah because a "stop the spread" protest is going to look great for feminism. Take manspreading for example, there wasn't a huge protest or lobbying of governments. It was mostly a circle jerk of feminists on the internet. One feminist was like "hey why are men taking up more space than they need" then the rest of the feminists were like "yeah bitch" and so manspreading gained traction among the internet and then New York law makers saw it and was like "yeah okay stop spreading guys".
The internet brings people together and it educates people. If something on the internet gains enough traction (manspreading, kony 2012, transgender issues, etc,etc) due to tumblr, facebook, or whatever then most mainstream news outlets will do a story on it because they care about ratings. And those mainstream news outlets can be pretty damn influentional.
no, i dont mean that you cant have a problem about something unless you go out and protest, i never said protest, and i never said you cant have a problem. i am saying your complaint will have little traction, if any recognition at all, if you are just going to sit, whine and do nothing about it. if everyone did that, nothing would ever be accomplished, nothing would ever change "wahhhh i dont like this but im not going to do or say anything about it".
when i say "do something about it, or dont complain" i am not necessarily saying that if you dont attempt to enact social change, you arent "allowed" to have a problem. I am saying, if you see something/have something done to you that you do not like, is wrong, or is even against the law altogether, and you dont say anything, you dont do anything, you just sit there, quietly, internalizing, and being bitter about what is happening, how are things ever going to improve?
"its just one vote" "its just telling one dude to stop manspreading" "its just my meal, its not a big deal" if EVERYONE takes that approach and does nothing but internalize and complains to "nobody" then nothing changes
PeppermillRenoThat is just one persons super sensitive and entitled opinion anyone not observing your specific idea of bus etiquette is automatically being selfish. If you don't want to have a pleasant interaction with a stranger asking them if a seat is open (or if its a group asking them to squeeze together so people can sit if they are together and talking just ask if they'd rather sit next to each other than you inbetween) accept that you are being anti social not them. Its the same kind of thing as holding a door open for someone its a common courtesy to politely ask or say escuzi if they are being expected to move.
Fact is that lots of people would rather stand than sit next to a large man in seats that weren't built for large people. As someone who is taller than most everybody I know for damned sure that Im standing before I sit down next to a fat person.
And no matter how I sit due to being large (Im not fat anymore) people generally look around for a smaller person to sit next to before choosing me if I shared your thought proccess and wanted to be offended by everything I could claim that people who prefer to sit next to a smaller person than myself are no better than someone who prefers to sit next to a white person than a black person. But I don't want to be offended by everything.
Grow up ladies stop trying to find gender inequality where it doesn't exist all you are doing is undermining genuine womens rights causes that need to be addressed (there really are some but not as many as someone like Dingo would like people to believe.)
Remember its not just men who get pissed off when a female colleague gets preggers and their job becomes harder automatically female coworkers get pissed off too when their workload increases through no fault of their own.
People love being offended though. Remember the smaller you are the more comfortable and spacious your airline or public transit seat is and the more appealing you are to be sat next to so if anyone should spread out a bit to discourage being constantly sat next or better yet put a backpack on the seat next to you its you since bigger humans get sat next to less :).
Holy shit look at this asshole. What a fucking tool this guy is.
This fucking tool followed me from the luggage/bike area to the other end of the train car and proceeded to glare at me with a huge fucking boner.
I have no qualms with the 2 dudes manspreading into each other's space, apparently they are quite comfortable.
But come on? There are few times that I have been this uncomfortable on a Train. I didn't feel comfortable speaking up in this case. I had already moved 40 feet and he followed. The dude in the red probably would have come to my defense had I said something. I suppose in this situation I chose personal discomfort over potentially starting a confrontation between 2 dudes.
This fucking tool followed me from the luggage/bike area to the other end of the train car and proceeded to glare at me with a huge fucking boner.
I have no qualms with the 2 dudes manspreading into each other's space, apparently they are quite comfortable.
But come on? There are few times that I have been this uncomfortable on a Train. I didn't feel comfortable speaking up in this case. I had already moved 40 feet and he followed. The dude in the red probably would have come to my defense had I said something. I suppose in this situation I chose personal discomfort over potentially starting a confrontation between 2 dudes.
UGH. That is fucked up. I totally understand the strong desire NOT to engage someone like that, not even to say, "Hey, stop fucking following me, creep." My survival instinct always tells me to lay low and try and make sure that a guy like this doesn't end up knowing where I live. Definitely don't miss living in a big city and dealing with weird shit like this frequently.
This fucking tool followed me from the luggage/bike area to the other end of the train car and proceeded to glare at me with a huge fucking boner.
I have no qualms with the 2 dudes manspreading into each other's space, apparently they are quite comfortable.
But come on? There are few times that I have been this uncomfortable on a Train. I didn't feel comfortable speaking up in this case. I had already moved 40 feet and he followed. The dude in the red probably would have come to my defense had I said something. I suppose in this situation I chose personal discomfort over potentially starting a confrontation between 2 dudes.
it took me a while to figure out where the boner was.... but HOLY SHIT HAHAHAHAHA. that is really shitty and i am right there with you in saying I have no idea how I would handle that situation either. that is a whole other ball game, and ive got nothing. i wouldnt even know what to say or how to call someone out on that
Barefootin_Fiendboy, you don't really leave many options open there....
It's typically acceptable on long train rides to put your feet up if you take your shoes off and are wearing socks.
Pretty sure it's like this because barefoot folks are usually in sandals and their feet are super dirty and obviously their shoes are as well. But if you have cleanish socks and you take your shoes off, the ticket checkers wont yell at you. I've gone as far to bring slippers with me on 10+ hour trains.
This fucking tool followed me from the luggage/bike area to the other end of the train car and proceeded to glare at me with a huge fucking boner.
I have no qualms with the 2 dudes manspreading into each other's space, apparently they are quite comfortable.
But come on? There are few times that I have been this uncomfortable on a Train. I didn't feel comfortable speaking up in this case. I had already moved 40 feet and he followed. The dude in the red probably would have come to my defense had I said something. I suppose in this situation I chose personal discomfort over potentially starting a confrontation between 2 dudes.
Honey, he isn't manspreading, hes along to for his luggage so it isn't sticking out into the aisle. And he didn't follow you cause he thinks you're hot, he followed you because you both were going to a less crowded car.
Stopi being a drama queen and accept people for who they are, especially if they aren't hurting you.
Huck_NorrisHoly shit look at this asshole. What a fucking tool this guy is.
THe butthurt is strong in this one.
I am trying to turn over a new leaf of being nice to people on here I tried to explain my point in length instead of just talking smack though so peace.
I am trying to turn over a new leaf of being nice to people on here I tried to explain my point in length instead of just talking smack though so peace.
californiagrownHoney, he isn't manspreading, hes along to for his luggage so it isn't sticking out into the aisle. And he didn't follow you cause he thinks you're hot, he followed you because you both were going to a less crowded car.
Stopi being a drama queen and accept people for who they are, especially if they aren't hurting you.
^LIKE.
Noone should be looking to see whether or not another traveler has wood. It might not even be a boner just a person with a really large ball sack I fall into that category when I go swimming since I like to wear tight fitting trunks and the bulge can be significant.