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Okay, I'm going to make it clear right now. I do not have depression (at least, I've never been diagnosed). But I've been having a really bad couple of months and I just thought posting a thread would be the best way to get things off my chest. First and foremost, I got diagnosed with a heart condition that they said wouldn't allow me to ever really do anything that would get my heart rate up. So skiing. Secondly, my grandma died back in february. She and I were really close, and I miss her a ton. Thirdly, I passed out at a basketball practice and that's when I got diagnosed.. I know it could always be worse, but how do you guys deal with stuff like this?
Getting into nature is the best thing for me. Sometimes after a hard day, i just go out to some state park and hike. Hiking might not be the best for you and i dont know where you live, but if there are streams around, i would recommend fly fishing. It is truly an art and something that can be very relaxing and fun.
Nothing is going to help. Flat out, straight up. If a fucking hobby makes you not depressed you are not depressed. you are feeling down. A hobby you love may be a temporary patch, but even that hobby wont help after a while.
Just gotta deal with it, and do your best to not fuck up your life beyond recovery once you get out of the depression. This is work. Hard ass work. Put on a happy face and try to live the way you think you would if you werent struggling to get out of bed and deal with the world. If you just cant do it one morning, dont. take a few days to sleep, beat off, binge watch netflix, whatever. After a few days or a week, you gotta get your ass back out there in the world.
CONAIR_BUSCEMIWHATEVER you do OP, DO NOT take any serotonin reuptake inhibiter drugs. They will fuck you up in the end and depress you even more.
I find your post extremely ignorant. It may have made you more depressed and there is a proportion of the population that become more depressed on SSRI. In saying that although the increase in suicidal thoughts/ suicide risk is correlated with adolescents who react badly to the medication, there has been no such correlation found in adults.
For a lot of people SSRI's are the only thing that helps them. People shouldn't discount them because some people have a bad reaction to them, the same as any medication. Medication should purely be decided upon consultation with a psychiatrist and I agree you should very carefully way up the pros and cons of the medication before taking them. Choosing to take any medication especially a mood altering drug is not a decision that should be made lightly. But in a lot of cases it is the only thing that helps people. If prescribed properly they can very effectively be used to treat severe major depression (in combination with other therapies).
In saying that if your psychiatrist/ doctor give you SSRI's as a first option leave them and find someone else to treat you. Mood altering drugs such as SSRI's should be a last resort after you have exhausted therapy not as a first resort. There is no such thing as a fix-all drug for mood disorders, they all need to be coupled with multiple approaches, especially with cognitive behavioural therapy.
Aaaron.diet, exercise, healthy sleep cycle are all a good start!
especially exercise
Hard to do all those things depressed especially eating which throws off everything. Self medicating with weed helped me do those things and meditate about it all in a positive way. It also slows my brain down which I desperately needed so I wouldn't think about everything too much which also helped socially. Being stoned all the time isn't the answer because you need to face reality but for a while it helped for me start to up heave from depression.
Would not recommend for OP right no due to him being young and still is developing a brain.
Help the needy and the poor. You will realize what they are going through and that you are very lucky to have food everyday or more than one or two outfits. Also if you are religious, just try getting closer to God. My sister almost killed herself but fell in love with God and is stress free other than school work.
Have you ever tried meditation? Whenever I'm personally feeling down, I take deep breaths and I take a bath or something. Light some incense. I'm currently on anti-depressants and it has helped me in ways I would've never thought imaginable. Talk to people who will actually listen to you, and not make it about themselves. You can PM me if you need an outlet. Depression is a bitch, and death is a crazy bitch. I'm really sorry for your loss, and I'm super duper sorry for the heart condition. That shit sucks, my friend has the same thing. If you're missing the skiing, I suggest videoing or photographing your friends skiing. That's what I did when I was concussed. It sucks to be sitting at home alone, not able to do anything, so I totally get it. Glad you reached out. It's the first step.
B.AussieI find your post extremely ignorant. It may have made you more depressed and there is a proportion of the population that become more depressed on SSRI. In saying that although the increase in suicidal thoughts/ suicide risk is correlated with adolescents who react badly to the medication, there has been no such correlation found in adults.
For a lot of people SSRI's are the only thing that helps them. People shouldn't discount them because some people have a bad reaction to them, the same as any medication. Medication should purely be decided upon consultation with a psychiatrist and I agree you should very carefully way up the pros and cons of the medication before taking them. Choosing to take any medication especially a mood altering drug is not a decision that should be made lightly. But in a lot of cases it is the only thing that helps people. If prescribed properly they can very effectively be used to treat severe major depression (in combination with other therapies).
In saying that if your psychiatrist/ doctor give you SSRI's as a first option leave them and find someone else to treat you. Mood altering drugs such as SSRI's should be a last resort after you have exhausted therapy not as a first resort. There is no such thing as a fix-all drug for mood disorders, they all need to be coupled with multiple approaches, especially with cognitive behavioural therapy.
Unfortunately, it takes more than a few drugs to find the one that best works for your mood and biology. SSRI’s effect the enzymes that break down the chemical serotonin after it has been fired in a synapse.
Many neurons will be firing more than they are supposed to since the neurotransmitter will be present in the synapse longer. Hence, probability of long term or even permanent damage to said neurons. This will likely however take years to surface if ever and kids/teens are more susceptible to its side effects.
There’s defiantly an over-prescribing of SSRI’s here in the US. Most people do not need them.
last_tangoHard to do all those things depressed especially eating which throws off everything. Self medicating with weed helped me do those things and meditate about it all in a positive way. It also slows my brain down which I desperately needed so I wouldn't think about everything too much which also helped socially. Being stoned all the time isn't the answer because you need to face reality but for a while it helped for me start to up heave from depression.
Would not recommend for OP right no due to him being young and still is developing a brain.
With cannabis, I felt great when I was smoking it everyday, but yes I agree you have to face reality and sober up. Personally, when I took a few months off from cannabis I started having lucid/vivid dreams every night and always was over-thinking/contemplating my existence/ being introspective. Yeah, cannabis can bring about those same feeling, but I was like in a permanent high state for awhile.
Now I just meditate when I can, exercise and eat healthy. I feel a lot clearer in my thinking but sometimes, I just want to dull my thinking.
CONAIR_BUSCEMIUnfortunately, it takes more than a few drugs to find the one that best works for your mood and biology. SSRI’s effect the enzymes that break down the chemical serotonin after it has been fired in a synapse.
Many neurons will be firing more than they are supposed to since the neurotransmitter will be present in the synapse longer. Hence, probability of long term or even permanent damage to said neurons. This will likely however take years to surface if ever and kids/teens are more susceptible to its side effects.
There’s defiantly an over-prescribing of SSRI’s here in the US. Most people do not need them.
Important to note that taking a SSRI is a serious decision and shouldn't be taken lightly. It was nearly a three year process before we decided to try them.
OP- considering getting help. There are things you can do to "distratct" yourself, but that feeling is going to liner, and creep up on you if you do nothing about it.
safarisamImportant to note that taking a SSRI is a serious decision and shouldn't be taken lightly. It was nearly a three year process before we decided to try them.
OP- considering getting help. There are things you can do to "distratct" yourself, but that feeling is going to liner, and creep up on you if you do nothing about it.
I'm doing good guys. I've decided to pick up golf. My parents seem to know that something is wrong, and they want to get someone to talk with me, but I've told them I'm fine. I just need to deal with this on my own you know? I have a feeling that talking to someone is just going to be a bit rhetorical.
g-daddyI'm doing good guys. I've decided to pick up golf. My parents seem to know that something is wrong, and they want to get someone to talk with me, but I've told them I'm fine. I just need to deal with this on my own you know? I have a feeling that talking to someone is just going to be a bit rhetorical.
No, you should talk to them. It may not seem like it, but it will help. If you don't want to talk to them, talk to a friend, therapist, teacher, anyone. It's not good to bottle up your emotions dude.
If yout aren't feeling fine, then tell someone you aren't feeling fine. The absolute hardest thing about fighting depression, is fighting it alone.
VizualNo, you should talk to them. It may not seem like it, but it will help. If you don't want to talk to them, talk to a friend, therapist, teacher, anyone. It's not good to bottle up your emotions dude.
If yout aren't feeling fine, then tell someone you aren't feeling fine. The absolute hardest thing about fighting depression, is fighting it alone.
Went to a therapist. Didn't work out for me.
Therapist:"Tell me whats wrong?"
Me:"I feel depressed"
Therapist:"Why do you feel depressed?"
Me:"Everything which really means I don't know"
Therapist:"Well lets get to the source"
Blah blah blah goes on for months and no solution to the problem other than anti depressants which did not do a damn thing for me.
I eventually found out that only I myself can make things better. I have to be responsible for myself. I honestly scream out and explode out all the frustration in my car. Its very gratifying and I can do it in a place where its private and nobody can hear me. I think if I ever did that at a therapist he or she would be terrified. I also try to mimic singing this song in particular lately because of the lyrics.
Still battle depression everyday though and I think I will be fighting it my whole life. Its been with me since I was a child.
Thinking of trying to get some help again personally. Been over 8 years I think. This one cunt betrayed my trust, tried to get me locked up on 2 different occasions, told my parents fucked up things and said in her notes that "I was a danger to myself and others". Really made it hard for me to even tease the idea of looking into help after that.
Recently I've started to consider it. With my last head injuries everything has been amplified for me. Just getting tired of feeling hopeless and empty all the time. I'm not sure what's out there, whether or not I'll find something that will work for me whether therapy, medication, a different way of living, but I'm down to try.
I think if I get health insurance again, or find something that somebody like me who is far below the poverty line can afford, I might just have to see what happens.
I've heard success stories and horror stories for some of the medications, but all I know is what I'm doing now isn't working for me.
I can't believe how long I've been like this. Looking back I'm honestly surprised I'm still around. I feel like my life has been nothing but temporary duct tape fixes. Just patching things up to make it a little farther only to come out in the same place a little bit older. I know nothing is perfect, nobody is eternally happy, medications aren't always wonder drugs, but if I could find something to make life even marginally better that would be pretty sweet.
I guess I might have been being naive and stubborn being all against the idea of help because of something one lady did. But at the same time, it really fucked with me and I put all the walls back up, maybe even higher than before.
So yeah, I'll shut the fuck up now and maybe the future of the abortionator will be looking a little bit brighter.
Lately, I've found a new hobby and it's cooking. As lame as that sounds...It's seriously a wonderful outlet to relieve stress. I just start thinking about a new recipe or how to master my favorite food to cook, pork butt. BBQ is a longer process so I get to take my mind off things for a lot longer, but I'm sure baking or traditional cooking would work just fine. Plus your friends and family will love your creations.
I have been through various levels of non diagnosed depression. Whether it qualified as depression, I dunno, I wasn't looking for a doctor to tell me how I felt.
I go outside, and I exercise. I also get stupid fucking drunk, thats not helpful but I do it any way.
Getting outside is key for me. Whether it is just going out for a 20 minute walk, or getting to the mountains. There have been times where I just put shit aside and went to the mountains for a day.
Exercise is also key. I would make myself go for a run every day, rain or shine. I might have been up for 54 hrs or something stupid like and wanted to do nothing but sleep but I would make myself go for a 30 minute run. It moves the blood around which helps your body get back to its chemical balance. Keep in mind your body is one big and complex chemical reaction. Staying hydrated and moving blood through your body is great for it.
Getting in a friendly fight with a buddy can also do wonders. Keep in mind the male body and mind is wired for combat. Getting in a nice scrape, and changing a few punches to the face a couple times can do the mind good. shake it off, hug it out afterwards and you will feel better, I promise.
In the end it is about establishing a habit of happy moments. Don't make them fleeting, and keep establishing them.
When in doubt just remember, real problems don't have solutions, so you don't have any real problems!