So my girlfriend broke up with me in October after dating for 3 years. She just started college and I was a Junior and she found some more exciting things than me (typical sorority girl). Well, we stopped talking for good in January, and once school ended she started sending me some texts again in May because of boredom I'm assuming. Well, I should have just ignored her but I didn't and added her on snapchat. Well here is where I'm getting really confused. I'll send her a snap and she'll text me instead of snapping me back and ask me if I'm staying down at my apartment tonight at school because she's living down there close to mine, so trying to subtly ask if I want to do something but not outright saying it. If I say no, she doesn't even respond to me, so wtf does she want???
She sounds like a selfish bitch. I dated a girl like that for 4 years, complete waste of time.
If DO hang out with her, realize it's only physical and not emotional , she's clearly just looking to burn time and cure boredom.
Typical Sorority girl? More exciting things? Looks like she wanted to be single to hook up with dudes .
ptbsbll12So my girlfriend broke up with me in October after dating for 3 years. She just started college and I was a Junior and she found some more exciting things than me (typical sorority girl). Well, we stopped talking for good in January, and once school ended she started sending me some texts again in May because of boredom I'm assuming. Well, I should have just ignored her but I didn't and added her on snapchat. Well here is where I'm getting really confused. I'll send her a snap and she'll text me instead of snapping me back and ask me if I'm staying down at my apartment tonight at school because she's living down there close to mine, so trying to subtly ask if I want to do something but not outright saying it. If I say no, she doesn't even respond to me, so wtf does she want???
She wants to keep you on the hook, as a backup plan. When she texts you, you think about her again.
Ditch her, don't respond to her texts, don't send her any messages. Move on.
+k to all good responses.
She told me in March that she wasn't going to talk to me anymore so she didn't lead me on so she's basically retarded. I did meet up for dinner with her around 2 weeks ago when we were both home and things went well (We live 10 minutes from eachother and our families are friends).
She does know people living at school right now because of girls in her sorority but she's living by herself.
Basically, girls are a pain in the ass.
Caucasian_AsianShe wants to keep you on the hook, as a backup plan. When she texts you, you think about her again.Ditch her, don't respond to her texts, don't send her any messages. Move on.
When I don't respond to her she conveniently sends more snaps/texts. I have basically moved on, but I do still care about her because I have known her my entire life and she was my best friend for 3 years.
The summer tends to bring back ex's. I started hanging out with my ex last summer in June and she killed it off again by the end of August and now this summer, we hang out again. We have fun and the sex is great and plentiful. However, I don't see the relationship advancing as I would like. Look at it like she's a good friend. Easier said than done but I feel your struggle man.
Can't quit your job till you find a new one so if you enjoy hanging out, try to take it day by day and play it cool.
Caucasian_AsianNo, you haven't. If you had, you wouldn't be here asking questions about your feelings.She doesn't care about you. If she did, she would be with you. But she isn't.
She's just selfish.
From where I was a couple months ago I am in a much better place. I would be lying if I said I don't have any feelings for her, but honestly whatever happens happens, and life will go on.
It's so nice to see NSers unity, looks like you're his homies since ever!
Anyway dude, I was in your same situation... I started hang out with her again but then I unsterstood how bitch she was... I don't know your ex and I can't really judge her, but what I learnt is that feelings hardly die even if we think we're over
ptbsbll12So everyone thinks she just wants to hookup?And I may think she's a bitch but I wouldn't post her Snapchat, I know how the power of NS works...
She is. She's looking for quick sex or something. If you dated for three years, and she just ran finally texts you, she looking for something physical. You said he was looking for something else, that's why she broke up with you. Don't let her suck you back in bro. Cut off contact.
HamFaceGirlWhy not hook up with her? Seriously what harm could come out of that?
Obvious virgin is obvious
immasShe is. She's looking for quick sex or something. If you dated for three years, and she just ran finally texts you, she looking for something physical. You said he was looking for something else, that's why she broke up with you. Don't let her suck you back in bro. Cut off contact.
Exactly.
The fact that you said when you ignore her she sends even more texts and snaps. Girl is a b, you seem like you can't have just a physical relationship, so peace the fuck out.
gRAPEFRUITObvious virgin is obviousExactly.
The fact that you said when you ignore her she sends even more texts and snaps. Girl is a b, you seem like you can't have just a physical relationship, so peace the fuck out.
I don't really like the hookup culture, I'd rather sex mean something. I don't plan on meeting up with her if all she wants is physical things.
OP we can't help you without pics!
Just kidding but tell the bitch to fuck off she will do college stuff like fuck guys and be a slut no stopping that. Now to get over her just do something that keeps your mind off her. Hang out with friends and play the field; do whatever. No point in wasting time over a girl. IMO if you ever contemplate breaking up with someone it means you shouldn't be together.
gRAPEFRUITShe sounds like a selfish bitch. I dated a girl like that for 4 years, complete waste of time.If DO hang out with her, realize it's only physical and not emotional , she's clearly just looking to burn time and cure boredom.
Typical Sorority girl? More exciting things? Looks like she wanted to be single to hook up with dudes .
Shoutout to grapefruit for finally having a serious post on ns. But for real OP, she wants to be fuck buddies. No harm in that. Just rail the shit out of her and make her realize how much she's missing out on, unless you have a baby dick like all EBI members. And if you're not down to fuck her and that's it then just move on and don't talk to her anymore. It'll cause you more stress.
mmccarthy14Shoutout to grapefruit for finally having a serious post on ns. But for real OP, she wants to be fuck buddies. No harm in that. Just rail the shit out of her and make her realize how much she's missing out on, unless you have a baby dick like all EBI members. And if you're not down to fuck her and that's it then just move on and don't talk to her anymore. It'll cause you more stress.
She texted me again like 20 minutes ago and asked "Whatcha up to?" because she knows I'm down at school tonight. Im like 99% sure she wants the D
MinggGirls are manipulative as hell. All she wants is a fuck buddy. If she wanted to get back together with you or something she would have just came out and said that she misses you. Don't let her play you. You could do a lot better.
I'm not even answering her. I don't feel like dealing with her anymore
ptbsbll12I'll tell her tomorrow that I don't want anything to do with her if she doesn't want a relationship. There's plenty of other girls out there
Well don't say she HAS to be in a relationship to even be talking to you. Just say because of the emotions and time you did spend together you won't be able to only be physical with her.
Maybe she's trying to decide if she wants to date you again rather than just fuck, but either way you have to protect yourself first.
Just ask her that; "Are you thinking of dating again or do you just want to hookup?"
if she says "I just wanna be friends" be like you hit me up late at night asking if I'm home, that's not a friendly thing to do.
Basically make her admit to whatever it is that shes up to.
Well NS I kinda sorta maybe but not really listened to the advice on here. I met up with her on Wednesday and ended up back at my apartment watching a movie and hooked up with her....We did spend a lot of time just hanging out and talking about what's been going on with our lives and I was at her place until 3am just talking. She talked a lot of about sex stuff and asked me if I creep on her facebook and twitter. And then she was asking about this girl who is my top friend on snapchat and if shes just a friend and told me she creeped on her facebook. So she seemed really concerned with what i was doing with other people and then would tell me other stuff about what she's done to make me jealous I think,just to see the type of reaction I'd give, which was basically "I dont want to hear about that." She texted me Thursday and then Friday again but not about meeting up, and then i saw her yesterday again and hung out, but no hook up because she explicitly came out and said she didn't want to do that. We did lay there and cuddle while watching a movie, but then she got up randomly. She did say something about how her one friend thinks she shouldn't be talking to me at all but she's obviously not listening. What should I do about this? Just see what happens or tell her I dont want to be friends and cut it off..
Sparknotes: I hooked up with my ex but talked a lot about things, she's concerned about the girls in my life, and tries to tell me all about what she's done.
ptbsbll12Well NS I kinda sorta maybe but not really listened to the advice on here. I met up with her on Wednesday and ended up back at my apartment watching a movie and hooked up with her....We did spend a lot of time just hanging out and talking about what's been going on with our lives and I was at her place until 3am just talking. She talked a lot of about sex stuff and asked me if I creep on her facebook and twitter. And then she was asking about this girl who is my top friend on snapchat and if shes just a friend and told me she creeped on her facebook. So she seemed really concerned with what i was doing with other people and then would tell me other stuff about what she's done to make me jealous I think,just to see the type of reaction I'd give, which was basically "I dont want to hear about that." She texted me Thursday and then Friday again but not about meeting up, and then i saw her yesterday again and hung out, but no hook up because she explicitly came out and said she didn't want to do that. We did lay there and cuddle while watching a movie, but then she got up randomly. She did say something about how her one friend thinks she shouldn't be talking to me at all but she's obviously not listening. What should I do about this? Just see what happens or tell her I dont want to be friends and cut it off..Sparknotes: I hooked up with my ex but talked a lot about things, she's concerned about the girls in my life, and tries to tell me all about what she's done.
So you asked for advice, then you ignored all the good advice everyone gave you about moving on and telling this bitch to fuck off, and instead listened to the three people who told you to have sex for the sake of having sex? Good Job OP.
ANDR01DSo you asked for advice, then you ignored all the good advice everyone gave you about moving on and telling this bitch to fuck off, and instead listened to the three people who told you to have sex for the sake of having sex? Good Job OP.
Basically.
In the past she told me she wanted nothing to do with me because she didn't want to lead me on. So her reaching out to me is definitely going to screw with my mind and pique my curiosity.
ptbsbll12Basically.In the past she told me she wanted nothing to do with me because she didn't want to lead me on. So her reaching out to me is definitely going to screw with my mind and pique my curiosity.
I dont think youre that fucked! If she was just leading you on or just wanted you for sex, I don't think she'd be acting how she is and playing the games she is. She seems to genuinely care about you, but as with most chicks shes probably a bit crazy.
And whats wrong with a piqued curiosity? Her's is clearly piqued too, and she doesn't have a track record of screwing you over.
You both still need to tell each other where you are now, and what you both want. If you still are deeply in love with her and she sees you as a potential fuck buddy, there will probably be issues. Same if its the opposite. But even if you are both far apart, it's better to know and plan from there than assume and hope.
Lord_ByronI dont think youre that fucked! If she was just leading you on or just wanted you for sex, I don't think she'd be acting how she is and playing the games she is. She seems to genuinely care about you, but as with most chicks shes probably a bit crazy.And whats wrong with a piqued curiosity? Her's is clearly piqued too, and she doesn't have a track record of screwing you over.
You both still need to tell each other where you are now, and what you both want. If you still are deeply in love with her and she sees you as a potential fuck buddy, there will probably be issues. Same if its the opposite. But even if you are both far apart, it's better to know and plan from there than assume and hope.
I think I'm going to see her tomorrow night so I might say something to her depending on how the night is going. Like she knows I don't want to be friends with her so what she's doing doesn't make sense if all she wants is a fuckbuddy. Like there is no reason to tell me about all the sex stuff if she wasn't trying to make me jealous and SHE ADMITTED TO CREEPING ON GIRLS I AM TALKING TO. So why the hell would she do that if she didn't care still? Plus, she's going against what her friends are telling her to do....
Lord_ByronI dont think youre that fucked! If she was just leading you on or just wanted you for sex, I don't think she'd be acting how she is and playing the games she is. She seems to genuinely care about you, but as with most chicks shes probably a bit crazy.And whats wrong with a piqued curiosity? Her's is clearly piqued too, and she doesn't have a track record of screwing you over.
You both still need to tell each other where you are now, and what you both want. If you still are deeply in love with her and she sees you as a potential fuck buddy, there will probably be issues. Same if its the opposite. But even if you are both far apart, it's better to know and plan from there than assume and hope.
And she also did lead me on for around 3 months after our breakup so that's why I'm a little hesitant. It just feels like when I'm around her that she's trying to feel the whole situation out and maybe deciding if she wants to try again.
ptbsbll12I think I'm going to see her tomorrow night so I might say something to her depending on how the night is going. Like she knows I don't want to be friends with her so what she's doing doesn't make sense if all she wants is a fuckbuddy. Like there is no reason to tell me about all the sex stuff if she wasn't trying to make me jealous and SHE ADMITTED TO CREEPING ON GIRLS I AM TALKING TO. So why the hell would she do that if she didn't care still? Plus, she's going against what her friends are telling her to do....
So she obviously wants you to some degree. Question is how much, and how much do you want her?
ptbsbll12Well NS I kinda sorta maybe but not really listened to the advice on here. I met up with her on Wednesday and ended up back at my apartment watching a movie and hooked up with her....We did spend a lot of time just hanging out and talking about what's been going on with our lives and I was at her place until 3am just talking. She talked a lot of about sex stuff and asked me if I creep on her facebook and twitter. And then she was asking about this girl who is my top friend on snapchat and if shes just a friend and told me she creeped on her facebook. So she seemed really concerned with what i was doing with other people and then would tell me other stuff about what she's done to make me jealous I think,just to see the type of reaction I'd give, which was basically "I dont want to hear about that." She texted me Thursday and then Friday again but not about meeting up, and then i saw her yesterday again and hung out, but no hook up because she explicitly came out and said she didn't want to do that. We did lay there and cuddle while watching a movie, but then she got up randomly. She did say something about how her one friend thinks she shouldn't be talking to me at all but she's obviously not listening. What should I do about this? Just see what happens or tell her I dont want to be friends and cut it off..Sparknotes: I hooked up with my ex but talked a lot about things, she's concerned about the girls in my life, and tries to tell me all about what she's done.
I had a relationship like this, that went on off and on for over 5 years. Great sex, endless mind games and bizarre improbable events made me feel like God was using her to punish me.
Long and the short of it is that she is married, and I am married. Our lives went in different directions. Now I am very relieved that we didn't stay together, because it would have been a train wreck.
This girl is testing you in her little way. The fact that you guys have been together for 3 years and she is testing you is not a good sign. This is classic chick shit. She wants you to take a test, without giving you the questions. You have a better chance of winning the lottery than passing this test. Best solution is not to take the test.