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californiagrownYikes. That kind of low self esteem wafes off of you and attracts the kinda guys looking for a chick they can treat like shit.
Minggwelp that's okay. I like girls better anyway
jaimegilfishI actually really like Mingg so....
jaimegilfishI actually really like Mingg so....
californiagrownYikes. That kind of low self esteem wafes off of you and attracts the kinda guys looking for a chick they can treat like shit.
MinggIf you were as ugly as ming you'd have a low self esteem too!!
MinggIf you were as ugly as ming you'd have a low self esteem too!!
MinggIf you were as ugly as ming you'd have a low self esteem too!!
Rennis_Deynoldscharm, confidence whatever, my point was that you don't have to be good looking to get girls
TWoods1. Be nice to girls, get to know them. Appreciate them for who they are. Don't act like their boyfriend if you aren't, just act like a person, or a friend. Know what sort of person you can date, and what you are looking for in a relationship. Temper your emotions and don't obsess over of idolize someone before you get to know them, it's a waste of time and emotional energy. When you find one you like more than others, move on to step two:
2. If you are looking for a relationship, say so. Be upfront, and clear. Make the first move. "Would you like to grab some coffee sometime" or "I'd like to take you out for dinner." None of this pickup line BS. None of this "Hey, you like, uh, wanna hang out some time" BS. If she says no, no love lost. If she says yes, move on to step three:
3. Get to know her in a romantic context over the course of several dates. Don't over commit with big gestures or physical stuff right off the bat, that's a sure way to rush into things and make the breakup shitty if it's not right. Be a man, decide what you're going to do, and treat her to a good, casual time. It doesn't have to be fancy, it doesn't have to be perfect, and it's not going to be like "the movies" so temper your expectations.
4. If step 3 goes well, express what you're looking for in a relationship. See if she wants the same things. If not, part ways.
Do you see the common thread? You're being led on because you are over-committing emotionally, and probably materially, and you're not taking the lead and being clear with what you want in a relationship. I rarely see guys getting "led on" that are courteous but direct, mostly because they remove the ability for that to happen.
And again - if she says no, it's not a big deal. Life goes on, without any drama. Doesn't that sound great?
/midnight advice
taylornickyWow who are you
theabortionatorHe's the Creative Director for ON3P Ski Co
theabortionatorHe's the Creative Director for ON3P Ski Co
taylornickyNo duh i meant it as if no guy ever recognizes what he was explaining
TWoodsI rarely see guys getting "led on" that are courteous but direct.
californiagrownReally, this approach works in any context, whether you're just looking to get you dick wet at a bar, or see a gorgeous lady at an REI workshop and want a date with her.
Be extremely nice and respectful, but be very upfront as well. If she says no, you gave her a compliment and know you had the balls to ask. If she says she is taken, say "lucky guy", and if you see her down the road and she is single again, you left a damn good impression.
Communication is the key to all relationships. Be upfront and honest, and you will magically "be treated better".
taylornickyWow who are you
theabortionatorHe's the Creative Director for ON3P Ski Co
taylornickyNo duh i meant it as if no guy ever recognizes what he was explaining
roach1324also Stop acting like she's doing something wrong by choosing not to have sex with you as if she owed it to you. Thats rape-ey as fuck
TWoods1. Be nice to girls, get to know them. Appreciate them for who they are. Don't act like their boyfriend if you aren't, just act like a person, or a friend. Know what sort of person you can date, and what you are looking for in a relationship. Temper your emotions and don't obsess over of idolize someone before you get to know them, it's a waste of time and emotional energy. When you find one you like more than others, move on to step two:
2. If you are looking for a relationship, say so. Be upfront, and clear. Make the first move. "Would you like to grab some coffee sometime" or "I'd like to take you out for dinner." None of this pickup line BS. None of this "Hey, you like, uh, wanna hang out some time" BS. If she says no, no love lost. If she says yes, move on to step three:
3. Get to know her in a romantic context over the course of several dates. Don't over commit with big gestures or physical stuff right off the bat, that's a sure way to rush into things and make the breakup shitty if it's not right. Be a man, decide what you're going to do, and treat her to a good, casual time. It doesn't have to be fancy, it doesn't have to be perfect, and it's not going to be like "the movies" so temper your expectations.
4. If step 3 goes well, express what you're looking for in a relationship. See if she wants the same things. If not, part ways.
Do you see the common thread? You're being led on because you are over-committing emotionally, and probably materially, and you're not taking the lead and being clear with what you want in a relationship. I rarely see guys getting "led on" that are courteous but direct, mostly because they remove the ability for that to happen.
And again - if she says no, it's not a big deal. Life goes on, without any drama. Doesn't that sound great?
/midnight advice
theabortionatorHe's the Creative Director for ON3P Ski Co
taylornickyNo duh i meant it as if no guy ever recognizes what he was explaining
SkierBetchThe exact reason I always pay for myself on a date and cut it off when I feel a guilt trip coming. I don't owe them sex as much as they don't owe me attention. If someone doesn't want to go further, cut your losses and try to see the bright side that you didn't get fucked over after wasting more time than you needed to. It sucks to get led on, but nothing sucks more than dwelling on all the deals you didn't close. That kind of shit ruins your future chances, don't do that to yourself or someone cool who might come along.
TWoodsYou should stop paying for yourself on dates, and instead buy some pepper spray.
Then, when they expect sex at the end of the evening, you can quickly eliminate them from the running, as it were. A real man should be able to spend money on a woman because he wants to be courteous. Expecting sex after a meal means that he thinks you're a cheap prostitute.
If he gets uppity mace the shit out of him. He deserves it for treating you that way.
TWoodsYou should stop paying for yourself on dates, and instead buy some pepper spray.
Then, when they expect sex at the end of the evening, you can quickly eliminate them from the running, as it were. A real man should be able to spend money on a woman because he wants to be courteous. Expecting sex after a meal means that he thinks you're a cheap prostitute.
If he gets uppity mace the shit out of him. He deserves it for treating you that way.
vandersteezeAt the same time for god sakes your attitude is about as self defeating as it gets. Its ok I was a piece of shit just like you at one point, but I turned it all around
Vandersteeze's guide to getting girls
-Have a purpose that is other than having sex so that when a girl blows you off (or cheats on you, or whatever) you dont give a shit
-Always have an awesome positive vibe about everything by going to the gym, fixing your diet and meditating
-Start talking to everyone just about whatever and become more social so that when the pretty girl comes in the room its just like talking to another person
-Dont be a fucking wierdo when you are talking to her (takes a lot of practice, but just casually date, this comes by being more social, until you figured it out)
If you follow these steps hopefully you will look in life's rearview mirror and one day realize how retarded this attitude of yours is
doublecupbrutha u r overthinking it way too much
it's just about getting ur nut off dog
stop trying to always go for the hottest chicks, its a numbers game. hooking up with a fat chick is hella better than having dry dick
doublecupbrutha u r overthinking it way too much
it's just about getting ur nut off dog
stop trying to always go for the hottest chicks, its a numbers game. hooking up with a fat chick is hella better than having dry dick
Bill.NyeOP is thirsty as Bear Grylls drinking his own piss.
doublecupbrutha move on
dont waste ur time trying to get one chick, they r all just fucking whores
like with me, when i go out im just always trying to rotate girls as much as possible
its a numbers game
i just go up to a chick and say "hey baby girls, how old are you, where are you from, and does your pussy hang outside your pants or is that shit all sucked up inside"?
doublecuphere are my four steps:
I find you
I lurk you
I fuck you
I block you
doublecupbrutha u r overthinking it way too much
it's just about getting ur nut off dog
stop trying to always go for the hottest chicks, its a numbers game. hooking up with a fat chick is hella better than having dry dick
doublecupJohnny Appleseed is a FAKE
he has never drank no piss, that guy is such bullshit
Les Stroud is the only real survivor tv show guy
NinskasiI'm not sure if you knew... but
Women is the DEVIL
SkierBetchOh come on, they could at least think I'm an expensive prostitute XD
Nah but thanks, I'm kinda sick of everybody's crap and gave up on dates with people. I'll start cutting people off quicker the second they get douchey. I don't have time for that shit... I have time and effort for someone who deserves it, that would be decent.
californiagrownOr, just try and enjoy the person for who they are... If you can't find douchey folks at least entertaining for an hour you sound boring. Find the funny in life, and find out why each date is an interesting person.
And for goodness sake of course the guy wants to fuck you after the first date... That's the WHOLE reason he wanted to take you out and get to know you lol
PeppermillRenoThere is nothing worse than when you meet someone for a date and they are fat and gross and dumb. I would assume its 10x worse for women. Its happened to me before and I was pissed off. And if your a girl being nice and friendly will just let the creepy guy think he has a shot which isn't always a good idea. The other thing is there are a lot of people who look old for their age. Its not uncommon to have someones number from being blacked out and think shell look good and she says she is 25 but looks 35. Basically just a lot of fucked up people out there.
Hot girls have standards just a part of life. Most don't really respond well to kindness either. If we are talking about someone you just met trust me she will not respond a text like 'you're so pretty and nice' but if you text something like 'why are you being such a bitch' you will get an 'im so sorry didn't mean it was busy etc etc' response. Compliments will just make her uncomfortable.
californiagrownOr, just try and enjoy the person for who they are... If you can't find douchey folks at least entertaining for an hour you sound boring. Find the funny in life, and find out why each date is an interesting person.
And for goodness sake of course the guy wants to fuck you after the first date... That's the WHOLE reason he wanted to take you out and get to know you lol
californiagrownNah. I've found being extremely nice, confident, and very forward works best.
"Being a dick" only works because dicks are forward. And it only works on the dumb ones with issues. Forward works well with everyone if you are also a polite, funny sweetheart.
And why the fuck are you agreeing to dates with fat ugly people? Lol
SkierBetchYou've never gone out on a date and it turns out the person you picked up was someone you just didn't like?
Shit happens, sometimes you don't like them, that's fine I'll still give someone the benefit of the doubt. I had one guy a few months ago who I got along with on the date, but I just didn't like him after. He wasn't a bad person I just didn't really like him, I tried, kept talking, but yea I'm not going to put that much effort for that. If I don't like someone after a 3hr date, can't enjoy them after continuing to talk, I sure as shit won't put out for that. And I won't waste their time either, there's other people they could be seeing too, if it doesn't work, oh well.
Getting to know someone first is better than expecting sex without knowing them. Get to know them, like them, yea sure whatever. But fucking after the first date sounds like a way to end up with a Stage 5 clinger that you can't get rid of. Lucky for me, I spotted the last potential clinger before it even got close to a situation.
