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Girls of newschoolers, I have a simple question

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Velocirooster
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I am a college student, and as we have all seen in movies or heard about from parents or older people college is the time to go up to random girls and ask them on a date.  However, i feel like in this day and age doing this comes off as creepy/rapey.  My question is do girls think its weird if a guy asks them on a date before getting with them at a party or sleeping with them is it weird or would it be romantic?
Mar 9 2012 3:37PM
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Haellgren
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meet a nice girl, ask her for a cup of coffe, talk with her.
Mar 9 2012 3:41PM
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Bmo.
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threads
Mar 9 2012 3:41PM
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Bateman
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inb4 ECB.
Mar 9 2012 3:41PM
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Anathema
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hook up first. nothing pisses a girl off more than being asked out all the time. if you can detect that there's some sort of mutual interest and you've developed a little bit of a relationship, go for it, otherwise just hold off. don't be that guy that's all "WANNA DATE ME?!" just cause a girl's nice to you..
Mar 9 2012 3:42PM
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howlongcanausern
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you need to make a move early in in the relationship to avoid the dreaded friend zone
Mar 9 2012 3:43PM
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katie.
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only if we've been talking for a while and we've gotten to know eachother. let me know that you're interested in me, and then ask to see me one-on-one.
Mar 9 2012 3:43PM
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*SNO*
Posts: 2575 - Karma: 925
Urintaion in the rectum is applicable to this thread.

Mar 9 2012 3:44PM
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*SNO*
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urination*

Mar 9 2012 3:44PM
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Spinoza
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all that matters is being cool and confident.     




i think...............im an uber pussay with girls and have had minimal success so this folllows.
Mar 9 2012 3:46PM
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Velocirooster
Posts: 336 - Karma: 38
I'm interested in you, want to get some coffee?
Mar 9 2012 3:46PM
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Benji.
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BITCHES
BITCHES
Mar 9 2012 3:47PM
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Haellgren
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Ur i Nation.
Mar 9 2012 3:47PM
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*SNO*
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well played sir, well played
Mar 9 2012 3:47PM
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TheStamos
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Depends on 100 variables. There are books about this simple question but allot of it is BS. Be confident, dont use Neg's and Do not over complement. I guess i'm full of dont's because the Do's usually aren't planned..If you are gonna straight ask her out DONT do it for something big, dinner movies etc, do make it something not distracting like coffee, yogurt then that morphs into a walk or adventure.Seek out something different than the last guy, do something off the wall to set yourself apart. I take girls 4 wheeling to the top of a peak above Tahoe city were you can see everything, its always a win.

I like to come up with missions, " your in no hurry right, lets find the tallest building in town and try to get on the roof" You don't connect by watching a movie together, the longer the conversation you can have the better connected you get and shared experience of adventure is 100X better. Just be confident and do be anything other than the best you you can be.
Mar 9 2012 3:48PM
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TheStamos
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And never ever say your sorry for anything, sorry is a killer bitch of a word.
Mar 9 2012 3:50PM
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*SNO*
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Mar 9 2012 3:51PM
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GDC
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inb4 pre-cum
Mar 9 2012 3:55PM
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Mike-O
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Do you mean like on campus or just during this time in your life in general? Just walk up, ask out, nothing grand for first date like Stamos said, build up from there.

Just be yourself and try, you'll get the hang of it soon, but you just gotta go and do it.
Mar 9 2012 3:58PM
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PopsicleStand
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yeah college is pretty casual. just act like you dont care about them, that drives them wild
Mar 9 2012 4:09PM
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Sno.
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If you've talked to her before, just ask her out. If you've never talked to her before, invite her to a party and tell her to bring her friends-- then chat her up at the party.
Mar 9 2012 4:13PM
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Casual.
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In my experience the easiest way to meet girls is
Mar 9 2012 4:20PM
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derbski
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Go with the flow. Acquire a target before you plan out an attack, every situation is different
Mar 9 2012 4:22PM
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Casual.
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Fuck Mobile. Not even going to finish what I was goin to say
Mar 9 2012 4:22PM
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Mr.Luke
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Just go up to a girl you've seen around, and say "Hey, I couldn't help but notice you around campus. Could I take you out for a cup up coffee sometime?"

Then get her name, take her out for a cup and you've got yourself a prime lady friend eventually


Mar 9 2012 4:28PM
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Black.Bird
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Just when you were getting to the punchline of your story, you just quit like that? wtf man
Mar 9 2012 4:32PM
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tspanagel
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You can take me out.
Mar 9 2012 5:14PM
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Toasty.
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Stamos you have given me a bunch of good advice.

But right now, the girl im working on i have dated before when we were in elementary (ya i know it doesnt count) and junior high.

Anyway, i just moved back from germany, and we had been talking for months before i came out. and i took her out for coffee yesterday and hung out at her house for about 2 hours afterwards. she was flirting all that shit.

BUT, she has a boyfriend.... that is in college 3 hours away. is it even worth goin after her, cause i really like her. like elementary sweetheart like her.
Mar 9 2012 5:14PM
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hot.pocket
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The accepted vernacular is "pink names"
Mar 9 2012 5:27PM
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DIX~
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At least fuck her, seems like you're in there. If she seems super duper into you though don't try to fuck her right away, if you play it right she'll break up with her guy and be begging to be with you

Also ladies men
Mar 9 2012 5:33PM
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SeanTom
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this. it really isn't that hard
Mar 9 2012 5:36PM
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CassiusClay
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When I first enrolled in college, my main goal was to find a girl - not hook up with as many as I could. To start, you gotta up your level of confidence - believe that you can get girls out of your own prescribed league. Go to any social events you can, including parties, and don't be afraid to talk to anyone. Chat around and make some good friendships, it is guaranteed that someone is interested in what you have to say. Be a better listener than you are a speaker...at the same time though don't forget that you need to show your personality (you need to be a great listener, but listeners who are not speakers end up in the friendzone quickly). Don't be a dickhead and lie about your 'accomplishments', but also don't be the wallflower.

The formula is essentially: go out, have fun and meet a lot of people, be a social butterfly. Be confident, but don't push too hard into the cocky side.
Mar 9 2012 5:38PM
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DubV134
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pathetic
Mar 9 2012 5:39PM
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Squeenerd
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i find that talking to younger and semi attractive (not ugly, just not ridiculously hot) girls is an easy way to practice and get comfortable. Ask out a freshman or a sophomore (in college, preferably.) Try asking girls who are not being asked out all the time, i'm sure they would be thrilled to go on a date with a baller NS'er
Mar 9 2012 6:04PM
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derbski
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Not as pathetic as your post. At least making this thread served him a purpose; your douchebag comment on the other hand serves no purpose at all, unless of course you feel better for having said it.
Mar 9 2012 6:53PM
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Sno.
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oh. em. gee.
Mar 9 2012 7:10PM
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Queen_Selassie
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haha that would be the gentlemen thing to do imo...
Mar 9 2012 7:12PM
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BOSSignol
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It all depends on how you look. Rock clean shoes while you mackin. shallow hutches
Mar 9 2012 7:23PM
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DubV134
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kids these days.... OP is a big boy, hes in college. time to grow a set and learn how to talk to a girl. you dont need to be at a party setting to hook up with a chick. know what you want, be confident that you can get it and be as polite as possible in the process. if your looking for more than just a hookup than that should be even easier. the only tough part is deciding what to do if she says no....
Mar 9 2012 9:08PM
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neutralzombie
Posts: 8629 - Karma: 606
approaching someone randomly is really hard to do, and i think the perfect formula comes from who you're trying to pick up. basically. i think you should be extremely humble, polite, and confident, in the sense that you're talking to me confident, and not i'm gonna bang you and it'll be the best ever confident. some chicks, do like a little push, but doing it in a silly way works better than being serious. don't be a blow hard. be genuine. i personally hate being approached by strangers. it's all too often some slobbering drunk, an old perv, or some douche bag. so make sure you qualify as none of the above. most ladies you want to meet and date, will appreciate a gentlemen.

and i think girls often work the same as guys, one night stands, are one night stands. sometimes, they're more, platonic, or not, but usually, if you like a girl, save the sexy time for later.
Mar 9 2012 9:18PM
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Wompuscat
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Semi-Insults kinda help haha. Talking to this one girl a few days ago, helping with biology homework. I find it quite easy in college but not the case for others. Aaaanywhoo, it was a question about a DNA triplet, and i was like "Well D is an absolute fucking idiots answer, its 3 proteins instead of bases." Then she replied, "Oh well I answered A, why isnt it that one?" I look at A, and again its 3 proteins. I just broke out laughing. Talks to me a decent amount now hahaha. Yeh dude. Just be confident, at least know of the person, dont just be like a rando creepy facebook stalker and go up to ask her out. If a girl is in one of your classes or something, just go for it. Who gives a fuck eh?
Mar 9 2012 9:19PM
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Radio
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just cause there is a gollie doesnt mean you cant score..
Mar 9 2012 10:22PM
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caliskigirl
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True...but then if you get said girl, the odds of her doing the same thing to you that she did to her ex are pretty high aren't they? I.e. if she is willing to hook up with you when she has a bf 3 hrs away, or dump him and date you, aren't the odds of her doing the same thing to you pretty high? That is if you want to do more then just a one night stand, but if you just want to hook up that's her problem to deal with.

Meanwhile, I would say just a random approaching me and asking me out would kind of weird me out. I agree that girls consider one night stands just that, while if you want more (fwb or gf) you generally need to get to know her somewhat first. If you want to do something maybe ask her to join you for something fun where you can talk to her first-coffee date, a drink, go skiing (if she is a ski chick) or the beach or some sort of other outdoor fun activity are all good calls. If it's a day activity it can then turn into a nighttime adventure as well...and if you are lucky it can progress from there. It's worked on me before :)
Mar 9 2012 10:40PM
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tara*
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I am always more likely to give a guy my number or go get coffee with him etc... if he were to approach me when he is sober as opposed to him being drunk. Anyone can do it when they're drunk (liquid courage) but you have to have balls to do it when you're sober. You just have to be confident. Also what do you have to lose? You miss 100% of the shots you don't take right
Mar 9 2012 10:54PM
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caliskigirl
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Yes! So true. Confidence without sloppy drunkeness is most excellent.
Mar 9 2012 11:11PM
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skiingute
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All you have to do is try. If it's a social setting approach the girl and start talking to her, if the conversation goes well or just as a hail mary ask for her number. If it's not a social setting and you see a girl you like just approach and say something "Hey I couldnt help but notice you" etc. start a small conversation use a time constraint to end the talking and close with a number.
Mar 9 2012 11:18PM
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HKrass
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Funny story really, i was out at lunch with a friend of mine and and his girlfriend and it was just a casual thing.  A couple minutes later her friend came into the little cafe we were at and decided to come say hi.  And i mean this girl was a solid 10.  We all were chatting over lunch, but then it seemed like she was kinda into me.  Se i started talking with her being slightly flirty and we hit it off pretty well.  As we were leaving i asked her if she would grab coffee with me sometime and she said "yea, absolutely!"

Now the next day i met hr at this little coffee shop, i walked in and said hi and sat down.  A couple minutes later i got up to order a pastry and a drink.  I asked her if she wanted anything but she said no thanks, I'm good.  When i got up to get my drink/pastry, i accidentally the whole thing.

She never talked to me again. 


Mar 9 2012 11:26PM
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neutralzombie
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Also, if you're checking someone out, don't just stare, because that's really invasive and upsets some people. If you're staring cause were pretty, smile as if to say hi, don't be some creepo sitting in the bus ogling and making us wonder if we've got shit all over our face.
Mar 10 2012 8:58AM
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[hamnuts]
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Get to know her, and then ask her out.
Mar 10 2012 9:17AM
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beezey
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hit it n' quit it
Mar 10 2012 9:29AM
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Dirty.Harry.
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Well I'm not a girl but I'll answer...

Go skiing with them! That seems to work for me. You get to talk in the car/when getting ready/on the lift and you don't overwhelm her because, hey, you're also skiing (which is solitary). Plus, if you're pretty much the best skier on the mountain, shit will end up working in your favour (just don't show off).
Mar 10 2012 9:31AM
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