you need to confident and manly without being a dick. "what are you doing on friday night?" "umm...nothing" "cool, meet me at (insert location here) at 7, it'd be good to go out for the night". make sure you have plans. eg. saying something like "i dont know, what do you want to do?" doesn't make you look manly. subconsciously women like more than confidence. they like leadership. it goes back to prehistoric times where the leader of a tribe/group/community would get the most food from the hunt. his wife would therefore get more than any other wife and therefore be healthier. that's got nothing to do with what the two of you eat, but rather, how you eat. you want to make her feel like you have control of the situation and that you could do it with any girl. think afterbang with more tact.
ive posted this sort of stuff before but once you're out you cant spend the night talking about yourself. if she asks you a question answer it honestly and succinctly then immediately say something like "yeah but skiing isnt that interesting....tell me something about you". then keep asking about that one thing as though you're genuinely interested. it helps even more if you are interested, but the key thing to remember is that women love to talk about themselves. the only thing they love more than that is being specifically asked to talk about themselves. eases feelings of self consciousness, makes her happy and ultimately gets you laid. similar sort of thing happens if the two of you find yourselves with nothing to talk about. dont let it happen. jump in confidently and say something like "tell me something about you that i don't know". that works on a few levels. it lets her talk (see above). it also seems as though you're asking something personal, although if you look carefully you'll notice you've done no such thing. if she accuses you of asking something too personal point that out. "haha i didn't ask for something too intimate...it could be anything...the name of your 2nd grade teacher, i dont really mind".
the reason for all this is pretty simple...use this sort of confidence to ask her out, then use it further to make her want to see you again. at the end of the night tell her she's interesting and you'd like to catch up again. if she says how's tuesday say no, you're busy but wednesday would work etc. gives her the impression that you don't "need" her, but that you're happy to take time out of your otherwise awesome life because she's nice. you want to give her the impression that your life is good enough without her. you dont need her to be happy, but it would be a nice compliment to everything else. good luck
