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Falling for my friends GF. WTF do i do?
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Wow, So heres the story. My gf left me about 2 months ago for another guy. i honestly didn't think i could ever want another woman again. i was wrong. It's been going on for a few weeks but I'm sure of it now. i'm falling hard for my buddies (roommates gf. Shes unbelievable. We just have so much chemistry and they have none. Bit they have been together for 4 years. they don't go out together. He's a bit of a dork and doesnt party much. Tonight we went downtown and he stayed home. i danced with his GF all night and she deemed me her "going out boyfriend". I could never put anyone, especially a friend through what I've been through with my gf. And honeslty I think she feels something for me but wouldnt do that to her bf. But we are just awesome together. This is just my luck though. Finally finding a girl after i lost the love of my life and she is taken by my good friend. Oh my. what do i do?
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stay the fuck away. After what happened last night, you don't need anymore shit right now. STAY THE FUCK AWAY!!! If you guys are going to be together, it is going to have to be a significant amount of time after they break up, which hasn't happened yet.
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Hahaha i think you'r right man. i just have to leave it alone and see what happens. oh last night... never again
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Hit it. Hard. It'll work itself out, so long as you have sex with her.
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Hit it, quit it and if you're lucky she'll dump him..
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ask her strat up wat she thinhs???
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4 years is a long time. I'd back off if they dont have anythiing going they'll breakup and then you make a move.
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your a man and you have a penis, right now its thinking for you. rub one out and use your other head to think this one out and you should cum to a rational conclusion
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^o man that was one of the better post ive ever made
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i'm with kevo on this one.
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if she likes u as much as u think..sooner or later they will break up and you wil be the one she comes to...its obvious...so just stay close with her like u r now, and maybe she'll leave him for u, but you will have to act like u know nothing about this...so ur friend wont kick ur ass
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Yeah you dont want to be a dick and instigate anything, a friendship is a poor thing to waste, if shes unhappy then she'll break up with him and make the decision herself. My advice would be to just flirt and show off a little and get her interested as well, dont have the prospect of her cheating hang over her head, its not right if its a friend
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What ever happened to bros before hoes? Don't force it. If she decides she wants to dump him for you, so be it. but don't be putting the moves on your buddys gf. that's just lame.
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be a friend and wait for her to come to you
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I'm a big believer of the bros before hoes motto. and i would never get anyone to cheat on their bf with me, plus he's a friend and i've been in that situation. My worry is that she will stay with him just because of the comfort thing, not because shes really happy.
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tell ur buddy bout it, well about u likin her, and if he's cool, he'll understand and wont be mad, if hes not kewl, prepare urself for a fight
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dont make the 1st move, thats like a swift kick in the nuts with steel toe boot, wait for her to come u you, just play it like ure friends but kinda hint it at little that there could be more but not to much and dont say anything to ure buddy if u still wanna be buddies with him
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If you think that she is only staying with him for comfort, you need to make it known that you like her enough to date her if she did break up with the other guy. That way, she knows that if she breaks up with the other guy, you'll be there. But I'll restate, don't do anything to break them up, thats just low. Who knows, maybe she is happier with him than you realize.
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Fortunatly her happyness is not your problem, its hers. If you are right, and if she is as incredible as you say she is, she will see things the same way and take action to make things better.
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it would really suck if your roomate had a NS account and was an active member...
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hahaha wouldn't it. thats why i keep NS all for myself
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Dude talk to him about it, but don't be telling him that you want to fuck her or anything. Just say that you have feelings for her but are going to hold them back etc because you have had this happen to you and if you do anything that pisses him off with her spend to much time with her he can just tell you to back of because he isnt comfortable with it. Or mabey he will be like mabey she isnt right for me dump her find a new GF and then you start dating her. woo i make good stories..... not really
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if yuor a firend at all you would stay away from his devil woman.
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Simon is the wind beneath my wings. I would like to publically acknowledge this fact.
No seriously, he's right, hit that, you're probably doing your buddy a favour. If she's that easy to take off him, he should probably drop the girl anyway. Good luck keeping her more interested in you than he did in him.
(I don't actually expect you to take this advice given your state of mind, but you still should, so we're still offering it. Ladder theory?)
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4 years?!
find someone else, jeeeesus, you don't want to play that card
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BROS BEFORE HOES.
Don't talk to him about it, don't even mention it to him, just leave that be. If she dumps him, go out with her, hang out, then hook it up. Otherwise, you're looking to lose your buddy.
Oh yeah, and don't do anymore of this going out with your friend's girl and dancing and whatnot, because that's no bueno either.
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next time you see him rub him over with your car and throw him in a dumster, then go out with your new gf
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Seriously just ask her straight up how she feels and do whatever she wants
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hahahahahahaha wonderful advice!
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thatd be super awkward after though
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dude, just stay away. if he's really your friend then don't. losing a friendship isn't worth it. just don't
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yeah man! In a couple weeks u will laugh about it and have an other gf
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yeah, u get a lot of girls in ur life, but like only a few friends. if they dont wanna be together, theyll break up. then wait it out, and then slowly develop something. he wont like it, but itll be chill after he finds a new girl. that happened to me a while ago, my girlfriend broke up with me cuz she fell for my best friend. it sucked, i lost a friend and girl. so yeah, dont do that.
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^yeah man ur right!!, u are probably all over this girl right now. But put ur head in a cold bath with water and chill. Than u will realise that ur friend is way more important than a girl!!
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she just wants to fuck you over even more, get you allll attatched and then bust out the good ol OMG I COUDLNT DO THAT TO MY BOYFRIEND!
then she'll tell him alll about it and your gonna get fucked emotionally and loose a good friend!
nah haha but thats my rant to keep you away though :)
and something to think about.
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my first suggestion would be to join the ladies men cult my second suggestion would be to let things play out, I mean whats the rush. Just dont let your friend know you like her, I mean four years is a long time
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is it the same for girls? or is it hoes before bros?
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I say you go for a home run thats the only way to win.
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that is your solution to EVERYTHING
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whatever the hell you do don't listen to this guy.
dont tell your friend that is just silly and clearly you are not in high school anymore and relationships are a bit more serious. therefore u cant just tell ur buddy you like his girl. that is the most ridiculous thing i've ever read on this site lol.
take some time...let things unwind naturally...let her know how u feel if u you have to, but dont get physical with her and dont force anything.
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that's such a tought cenario cuz it sounds liek u are actualy sinceraly into this girl, which is awsome. I say sit back and relax for a bit. you can tell she digs you and the different type of guy u are from her bf. she might just be looking for that special difference somtime in the future. so stay u and stay unique from her bf
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Agreed. I'm kinda in the same situation, except the other guy isn't my friend..
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You should definitly go into cautious mode dude. Cause ur buddy would prolly end up hating you or something. But that's super bunk, just wait it out i guess, see what goes down.
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get th fuck away man, that not legit, stay the fuck away
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what? never again? no! keep heading out with her. eventually she'll make the move if she realizes that you're not gonna cause of your buddy.
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I was refering to another post actually
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well it happened to you and you didnt seemed stoked to lose your chick, so im PRETTY sure your friend wouldnt feel too good if you stole his gf of 4 yrs. and of course there less chemistry its been 4 years, just look at your parents
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its called put down the fork
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