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skiguy04First post omg wow
larilinesignLots of different advice in this thread. Step up and give the lesson yourself. Now let's crack open a lacroix, slip into some cozy uggs, tune in to our inner goddesses, and follow along with me:
Teaching a never ever significant other can be a really rewarding experience that helps you grow together and test run managing conflicts and challenges. You learn a lot about each other. If done right, your relationship with skiing - passion, commitment, and patience - stands out and paints you as a great partner. This is not about the ski lesson, it's a bonding experience. So yeah as everyone else said, obviously dont get even the tiniest bit frustrated and fuck it up.
1. Have rentals/tickets/everything ready to go the day before. Make a whole fun day out of it if ya want; you're spending the money anyways. Dont exhaust her with a shitshow morning getting prepped before you even hit the hill. Fluke at the rental shop that wastes an hour? You're a loser of a skier, a loser of an instructor, and a loser of a boyfriend.
2. The night before, really paint yourself as "good guy boyfriend". Cook her favorite dinner, let her choose the movie, and shower her with that sentimental shit. If yall piss each other off on the slope, it will go a long way.
3. Do some stretching, yoga, pilates, and encouraging coaching to get her body and confidence in the "no injuries no panic" zone and make you seem like someone who cares about wellbeing. Chicks dig wellbeing guys.
4. The day is about you and her. There are to be no other stakeholders. Ya bois hit you up and you slip out, "Ah nah bros I'm stuck teaching my lady." She will never ever let go of that. Practice with me, "Babe, this is a special thing for me, to be able to share this part of my identity with someone I care about. Fuck those guys, I'm honored to be here with you."
5. POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT AND ONLY POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT. Be careful though to not repeat yourself in a way that sounds condescending. She's not some stupid idiot. Your first day learning to ski as an adult is extremely hard. By normal metrics, outside our steezy newschoolers bubble, she's a badass for putting herself out there, eating some falls, doing something for herself, and having fun. Make her feel like a badass, not a baby.
6. Dont push her on her first day."It's good for you, babe!" - you smug fucking asshole piece of shit. Simply showing up is already pretty darn close to the limit. Stay right next to her by side, happy as a clam, cool as a cucumber. Would you pay a professional instructor to make your lesson about him and not about you?
Good luck, bro.
I'm rooting for ya.
**This post was edited on Nov 10th 2019 at 10:42:26am
**This post was edited on Nov 10th 2019 at 10:44:14am