Anyone else feel like they never fit in?

_GHOSTNo matter what social group I'm in I never feel like i belong. I never feel like it's truly me... I'm unable to willingly submit my will and conform to the norms of a social orders.

How very anti authority of me. At the same time I'm trying to figure out what is the right path to commit my energy to. Do I follow my heart or my brain and furthermore how do even differentiate the two?

My current state leads me to taking a large amount of what my old username was and delving into my consciousness in order to find out what my archaic mind really wants.

Who else feels this way?

_GHOSTHow very anti authority of me. At the same time I'm trying to figure out what is the right path to commit my energy to. Do I follow my heart or my brain and furthermore how do even differentiate the two?

SofaKingSickfirst of all, pardon me if i'm wrong but i'll assume you're pretty young. and everyone feels the way you do to some extent for a long while when they're young, it's part of being a human

theLiquorI said this in a weed thread once. I wasn’t knocking weed but was just reflecting on how the weed culture has shaped my social circle throughout life. I was big into hockey all my life but I hardly played once I started college—I went to the games but hardly any of my friends shared the same enthusiasms so it was hard to get motivated to go to the games since none of my friends were into it so some fri-sat nights i was on the mountain or partying instead of going to the games i had season tix for. At the same time though part of that was my changes—getting more into skiing and longboarding, so can’t just blame weed for that since my interests transformed slightly as well.
But friends you hang with are heavy influences on the social circles you’ll be associated with when you’re older so those subconscious social decisions change your future more than you could imagine.

so in summary, the friends I have now are mostly into Phish and eating molly at Red Rocks shows. When I wanna do racecar shit, I have like one friend who’s down otherwise I’m on my own to make a new social scene. So I get your “loner” feeling in a lot of aspects.

weed. I love it but i swear the drug talk I’ll have with my daughter wont be about how its bad, stupid dopers blah blah, but just being aware the long term social effects.

SuspiciousFishLol its funny you mention that. I used to have a saying, "There are two activities that you cant be too high for, skiing and longboarding..."

Its a tough call because I have had some really fun times being blasted and skiing and longboarding with my buddies but the problem is when people get older and refuse to grow out of that lifestyle. Its great when you are 19 or even 22 but you have to grow up eventually. Or else you just end up as that old washed up guy at raves and stuff when you should be settling down. Its especially true once you have kids, you really can only be friends with other people with kids because they are on the same life pattern ect and you kind of have to reset who you are around.

BTW Thats sweet you are in to racecars, do you do any autocross?

SofaKingSickfirst of all, pardon me if i'm wrong but i'll assume you're pretty young. and everyone feels the way you do to some extent for a long while when they're young, it's part of being a human

you know how a really common way to compliment someone is saying "they're well-adjusted?" that phrase is so ubiquitous because it's just a known part of life, you have to adjust yourself to the world you live in to some extent but you have to do it gracefully and in a balanced way

if you literally only stay true to yourself 100% with no concessions you're not going to be well liked by other people and you can't just not be social; humans are social creatures and it's part of a healthy life. if you are too impressionable and deferential you'll just be a personality-less blank canvas and that's not good either. you have to pick your battles and find your niche somewhere in the middle

but rest assured that you're not alone in this, and i promise you you will find people more similar to you as you grow up, especially in your 20s

also as long as i'm giving out somewhat unsolicited advice, if you're feeling this way i would try not to spend TOO much time on the internet. it can be a wonderful place but it can definitely tend toward the misanthropic side and too many people who feel rootless have been pulled in the wrong direction by immersing themselves in the wrong online circles

i'm not going to say i hope you feel better because i know you will, albeit slowly but surely. stay turned on and be good to the people around you and i promise you will benefit from it as time goes on

Chubz.Nah I have a great group of friends I fit in just fine with bc I’m humble and cool to be around rather than an e-douchebag that flaunts their arrogance on a dying ski forum.

Cry a river build a bridge and jump off it OP.

No no wonder you don’t fit in bc you’re a fuckin cunt douchebag. Playing the victim won’t fly in my book pussy boi

buyfulltiltsI also feel like I just don't fit in. Not to be dramatic or anything or think I'm special or some bullshit, but I don't feel particularly compelled by the vast majority of the people I meet. Sure, they're nice people with fine personalities, but it's just so rare that I find someone who's on my same wavelength. I easily get bored as fuck talking to people too, often I'll end up thinking to myself "I really don't give two shits about what we're talking about right now".

I also legit think the fact that I don't smoke weed hurts my chances with like 90% of girls. I'm not against it, I just personally don't feel motivated to do it, also I don't wanna fuck up my lungs smoking. But like EVERYONE smokes weed, so I feel kinda lame for not being able to relate to people who do, and I can't have a conversation about weed bc idk shit about the different strains and technical aspects or even how a bong works.

Also my main hobbies, skiing and blading, are relatively obscure...most of the time people are just kinda lost if I tell them that's what I do, or it just feels weird and kinda embarassing talking about it. Doesn't help that I don't have a normie music taste or political orientation...yeah idk man I just don't feel like I belong to any archetype of personality so idk.

Chubz.Nah I have a great group of friends I fit in just fine with bc I’m humble and cool to be around rather than an e-douchebag that flaunts their arrogance on a dying ski forum.

Cry a river build a bridge and jump off it OP.

No no wonder you don’t fit in bc you’re a fuckin cunt douchebag. Playing the victim won’t fly in my book pussy boi

Chubz.Nah I have a great group of friends I fit in just fine with bc I’m humble and cool to be around rather than an e-douchebag that flaunts their arrogance on a dying ski forum.

Cry a river build a bridge and jump off it OP.

No no wonder you don’t fit in bc you’re a fuckin cunt douchebag. Playing the victim won’t fly in my book pussy boi

_GHOSTYou fit in because your a conformist. Who's will is obviously weak at that - because, well, there's your obvious unhealthiness. You also give in to degenerate vices such as smoking marijuana.

That's just the way it is. And funnily enough In life I'm a very passive and quiet person. It's the theory of masks really. On here I am the arrogant guy so to speak, I wear a different mask at work. And so do you. You have a mask when you are around family and the mask of the skier when you are the mountain.

This begs the question, what is the "truest" version of yourself? Is it the mask you wear around your friends? Or furthermore is there something beneath it all?

**This post was edited on Aug 29th 2019 at 3:31:48pm

ChadThundercockFuck off chubz, nobody wants you weight watchers Jenny Craig ass bitch

Young_IPMCMaybe the problem isn’t the world.

DIRTYBUBBLEHoly fuck dude no wonder you don’t fit in. This whole post gives off big Ankilla energy.

_GHOSTtalking about psychological and philosophy.

DIRTYBUBBLETranslation: Using shitty bro science to justify your pompous holier-than-thou superiority complex. “Wah wah the world is against me we truly live in a society” shut the fuck up dude.

_GHOSTI never said the world is against me. My view is I dont typically fit into groups and social structures like a normal person would.

And it's not a holier than though complex. Some men are naturally greater in certain spheres of life than others. In that sense I am undoubtably a greater thinker than most people around me. It's a simple reality. While people around me play video games after work, and drink all weekend, I read and find ways to expand my worldview

DIRTYBUBBLEThere is no sense in trying to explain this to you people. You are so far up your own ass it’s unbelievable. You are just as forsaken as Ankilla

_GHOSTAnd when did I say the problem is the world? I have always been a different person to the people around me. This is an individual problem, which I am aware of.

ChadThundercockIn all honesty, yeah I feel exactly the same. I haven't touched drugs for a long time, but I slammed a fifth yesterday and I'm reflecting on a lot of things. Wish I could just focus on my art, but the last 2 years have taken me on a ride. I have no friends, women come and go, and I rely on a fistfull of medication to keep my mental state palettable. I was sitting here 2 hours ago watching this Dutch chick shove the biggest dildo I've ever seen in my life up her rear, then I just reflected on my current state in life and I'm like "what the fuck am I watching?" And "how is this anatomically possible?"

_GHOSTNo matter what social group I'm in I never feel like i belong. I never feel like it's truly me... I'm unable to willingly submit my will and conform to the norms of a social orders.

How very anti authority of me. At the same time I'm trying to figure out what is the right path to commit my energy to. Do I follow my heart or my brain and furthermore how do even differentiate the two?

My current state leads me to taking a large amount of what my old username was and delving into my consciousness in order to find out what my archaic mind really wants.

Who else feels this way?