ColingarnesI'd probably be going in February. It wouldn't be just a ski trip. But the skiing would dictate where we go. The wife isn't diehard about skiing but she will placate me. We will have to do non ski things as well on this trip.
The kids probably wouldn't ski (only 2 and 4) and we would get day care.
Thanks for the input on Chamonix I'll probably scratch that. Cost isn't really a huge restriction, granted I ain't dropping over $400usd a night for places to stay near a mountain.
Ok cool. I'm 30ish, lived in Switzerland for 3 years so i've ridden most major places in the alps and travelled a lot too.
Here's what i do if i were in your situation. I'm assuming you're renting a car or taking train, and don't really want to travel more than 3 hours in 1 day with small kids.
Fly into either zurich, geneva, milan or florence and do a loop so that you basically hit all of those (skip zurich you happen to fly in, do lucerne instead with that day), tack on either Rome or south of france - cannes / monaco if time permits (i prefer rome, but it's more out of the way). You can tack pisa onto florence as well, and stop in como/lugano if you can, really beautiful
For a single ski resort with a few days, i would recommend Zermatt if your wife is at least upper intermediate. It's expensive, but one of a kind. If you need something more well rounded, or for longer period / to split with zermatt then verbier, Laax, engadin, portes du soleil, le grande massif (views of mont blanc) and trois vallees are all good options. If you get to choose two resorts, i'd go zermatt and trois vallees - zermatt for the views, trois vallees for the scale (it's huge. If just one for the family and your wife is skiing but not as advanced, go trois vallees. There's lots for everyone.
Eastern alps is also great (austria / germany) but IMO italy / france is more interesting if you don't go to europe often, and travel times between major cities are longer in the east
Hope that helps - any other questions DM me