californiagrownYou see someone and think "that chick is totally a guy". You then think " I better make sure to call him a guy even he doesn't dress that way, look that way, act that way, or want to be called that". You think "even though this will hurt the other person, and possibly cause a scene, my sense of social justice is more important".
How is that not going out of your way to be a dick? It's no different than a trans person baiting someone into using a gender specific pronoun and then causing a scene to " educate" them of what they should be called. You're both being twats to make yourselves feel important and superior because your self esteem is so low you must find importance in some bullshit.
You believe in total equality? Do you agree with the ADA act?
Literally none of those thoughts go through my head. I dont encounter people and think "how can i make this conversation the least offensive, least confrontational, comfortable experience for this person" I'd consider myself a pretty damn nice guy to talk to, its not like i go around insulting people for their differences, but i dont tip toe around a conversation worrying about any little slip up that could cause the slightest discomfort. people need to fucking relax, stop worrying about words, look past that, and just get along.
I legitimately dont know what they want to be called, especially if they just look like a very feminine man. And again, if its obviously a man, ill call it a man, you call something what it is, its pretty simple. its not my problem if they choose to take it in a way that offends them, that is a fault of theirs, not mine. and i dont care if it offends them or "hurts" them, I would hope grown ass adults would be above worrying about, and getting offended by that kind of BS anyway. I have no respect for people that try to control others behavior so a not to hurt their very weak feelings.
some of my favorite people in my life also offend me the most, but I can look past that and still be very good friends with them, being offended and having bad feelings is a necessary part of daily life, we dont need to be protected from it, we learn to deal with it and be above it. you cant have legitimate conversations with honesty, creativity and new ideas without it.
Where did this idea come from that everybody has to be protected from bad feelings, and being offended? If this kind of shit gets to you, you really need to find something better to worry about, how do people like this operate in the real world? or do they only exist in college campus "safe zones", and the internet?