twinkle_toesThat sucks dude :( I've been through something similar with my family in the past. Won't get into details but I know it gets rough especially around the holidays being completely isolated and on bad terms with everyone. Hearing about all your friends' big family dinners and get togethers etc. I stopped celebrating holidays altogether because of it. I fucking hate the holidays hahaha
But I hope you have good people around you that love you and have your back!!! Hope your family comes around one day
*Reply plus extra rant no need to read unless bored af lol. Family and religion makes me ranty
Damn that sucks but i feel you. Can be cool when you link up woth friends or even cool roommates(when they exist).
Some of my east coast friends moved to tahoe the same ueat as me and we did thankgiving and stuff. I work a lot of holidays. At crystal pretty much just go ride with the roommates and have some beers. Not much around theae parts.
I def appreciate when im with people i like for the holidays but yeah i skip a lot of them or most of them. Got 2 feet of blower pow on my birthday last year though.
I think with family it is what it is. I dont think you owe anything to anyone necessarily. Like i woukd always help somebody out, family, friends, strangers even. But in terms of relationship. Just because your family doesn't mean you have to mesh. Some people it matters to and they mske it work, some people vibe great with their family. Some people get away and stay away. Everyines different.
I need less toxic people in my life some whether it's a shitty friend or even someone in my family. I don't care about blood ties if it's not right it's not right.
I think if it weren't for religion things would be different with my fam but it is what it is. Plenty of Christian people are cool but my family is the whole fundie evangelical types. I don't need people arouns you hate who i am and want me to feel bad about myself. My life path isn't perfect or right for everyone but I've learned a lot and ive set myself up with things i enjoy and a way to make it work. Haters can go fuck off.
Idk it's shitty when your family hates gay people, sends money they don't have to try and stop the liberal gay terrorist lady gaga agenda or whatever. Family is fully immersed. If it makes them happy whatever. I'll butt heads with them in terms of voting against people having rights. But for personal beliefs? Do whatever, be a shitty person, i dont care. Judge and hate everyone. But I'm not going to hang around for that shit.
The best thing i ever did for myself was break away from the church. It was pretty hard to do but im glad i pulled it off. Still have plenty of scaring from it but I'm so much happier now. Way better than going through life hating myself and judging everyone.
Idk sorry for the extra rantage just thoughts popped up thinking about my family.
My sister and i had a good relationship for a bit around high school or just before. Then she dod her own thing so i did mine. She went back to religion hard(not that she ever left but you know teen mode) and we were just never tight. She outted me to my mom and im still pissed about that a litle. She has 4 kids but i dont feel like being half in half out with them. But i also dont feel like being family to her kids while she talks shit about who i am. I don't believe in Christianity but im a good person.
Idk its shitty. I felt bad at first because im her only sibling so im their only uncle but whatever. Idk there not my kids and im sure she has weird church friends that can fill that role.
Family is overrated as fuck.