WoFlowzThis is hilarious but also annoying af and makes me upset with myself. My lil sister has mad hoes like I’m talking she got FaceTimed by 2 different guys at once. I can’t even get a girl to ft me half the time. I mean shit I have a anxiety attack asking a girl for her number after sliding in her dms. And this 12yearold is out here asking my parents if she can go on a date to the park with a boy. When I was her age I was playing with legos or some shit. Yet alone never even been on a real date. This shit sucks 😑 it’s probably my annoying ass personality which would explain why I can’t get a girl
Yo. Don't judge yourself by your ability to get a gf/whatever romantic partner you want. Seriously. You got the rest of your life to deal with that sort of thing. I used to do that. All through highschool, I played the sadboy game. Managed to date a few girls, but it was fucking highschool, so we were dumb, immature, and emotionally not ready for that shit. Had my first big boy relationship in first year uni, and it went terribly. She was fuckin nuts, and used me as an emotional support boytoy. Didn't date for a few years after that. Going in a ski town helped keep me single, between the girl/guy ratio, and the fact that I was 5 years younger than the few girls around, meant I was better off beatin off. Sure, shit was kinda depressing, but I grew as a person, and learned how to enjoy my own company, and my friends. Coved kicked my ass back to Canada, and at that point the last thing I was thinking about was dating someone. Then outta left field comes and old friend of mine, we got to talking, walking, and somehow she ended up as my girlfriend.
I've got a few points from this story, and the rest of my life. First, don't try and change yourself to become attractive to a crush. They ain't worth it. Being someone else is exhausting, and dishonest, both to them, and to you. And they will find out eventually. Second, ya gotta try, but you can't be desperate. People are flattered by attention, but can smell desperation. You have to accept that they might not reciprocate your feelings. You gotta care enough to be genuine, but not so much to be clingy. Accept that you might just end up as friends. This ties into my next point; make female friends. Girl friends. Platonic friends that are girls. Lots of dudes have a tendency to either denigrate women as sex objects, or put them on pedestals. Women are not vapid holes, nor goddesses of beauty and romance. Just like men, women are flesh, blood, and electric meat. You're never gonna experience romantic satisfaction if you treat women like they are sub or super-human. When I was younger, I was guilty of doing the same thing. All dudes do at some point. Maybe its society, or just bullshit teenage hormones. If you have platonic friendships with women, its gonna help you learn to treat them like normal people, which will make you less stressed/desperate when talking to someone you've got feelings for. I hope this doesn't sound like I'm saying "be friends with women cause it will help you get laid" cause I'm not. If you have ulterior motives, people will know. Don't be fuckin dishonest. Women are dope, and by seeing them as possible partners, not possible friends, you are missing out on all the cool people you can chill/shred with. It's hard accepting that some people don't want to be more than friends. When you get deep in a crush, and create this picture of how awesome your relationship is gonna be, and get shot down, it hurts, and it can be hard to turn those feelings off.
So this is my challenge to you:
The next time you start talking to somebody, change your intentions. Don't start talking to them like a possible gf/hookup/whatever. Talk to them like you are just looking for a friend. If there's a spark, then ok, but if not (and there probably won't be), who cares. You just made a new friend! And it's pretty damn good to have friends.
One more thing: Don't chase people. She rejects you? Fine. Pump the damn brakes. She gets upset cause she wanted you to chase her? Turn around and get the fuck outta there. Adults understand consent, and anyone who doesn't isn't worth your fucking time.
Now, I can't guarantee that this advice is gonna work, cause I'm just a fuckin weirdo who gives out advice at 1am on a ski forum. But pay less mind to being annoying, and go get yourself some friends.