Well, the beauty of EDM is not necessarily when it's being performed besides the fact that you are getting the highest quality delivery of the soundwave to your body through an epic sound system. It lies in the work that the artist does in the studio which is in my opinion more difficult than recording an instrument. When playing an instrument, all you really have to worry about is playing your part of the song correctly and if you are recording at a studio worth recording at you should be good enough to do so. When making electronic music, you have to make every part yourself using various techniques with drum machine, sampling, fm synthesis, slice to midi, EQ/compress the part if necessary, put effects on it and limit it correctly. You have to be good at all this shit, not just the musical aspect so it makes things much more difficult than just playing an instrument.
however with live performance, I couldnt agree more. It takes way more talent technique and all around musical know how for a group like Phish to throw down in your face than for a DJ to spin a set. Phish shows are otherworldly experiences, and DJ sets are just giant parties. Both are fun, both deserve credit for being difficult to make.