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ilikeplants
Posts: 1868 - Karma: 17
posted in ladies men but no one replied yet and i just need like a second opinion or something on it


so last night, gf goes to her brothers dorm with another one of her friends. they drink and stuff and have a good time. i go to a party out in the woods with a bunch of my friends.

today i see her and she's acting kind of weird. just brushed it off as her being hungover.

about 30 minutes ago she texts me telling me she wants to tell me something about last night. im thinking "oh shit, she did something horrible."

last night her brothers room mate kissed her. they're both drunk, she said no but he kept trying to. finally after a few times i guess he stopped.

i asked her that if he did it a second time why she didn't go to her brother. she says he was asleep.

she then says she feels bad saying no to people? wtf?? i replied back saying you shouldn't feel bad saying no since you have a commitment to someone else already, me. she says sorry but also says that maybe if i took the time to get to know her.

that last part kind of sent me over the edge and i replied back with. its okay, glad you had a fun night.

that also must have sent her off a bit because she replies back with fuck you. i kind of settle her down and ask her if she was flirting with him.

she says she was but didn't expect him to do that. how the fuck can you not expect him to do that if you've been flirting with him all night? she then says that just because you flirt with someone doesnt mean you want them to start kissing you. okay.. situation, you're both drunk, you're flirting with him. as far as he knows, he probably thinks she's single so of course he's going to try to make a move.


im mad but at the same time im not. like i don't want to break up with her because i like her but i dont know what to do.

sorry for my horrible typing skills by the way. just kind of stressed out
Sep 28 2009 12:36AM
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ArnieP
Posts: 964 - Karma: 13
If I were you I would have a nice face to face convo and talk it all out man.
Sep 28 2009 12:39AM
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baethoven
Posts: 4953 - Karma: 332

anger fueled make-up sex

works everytime

Sep 28 2009 12:42AM
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1337
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He speaks from the heart, i would take this advice. You can work everything out with a F2F, whatever happens, happens. good luck man, i would be mad too.
Sep 28 2009 12:42AM
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ArnieP
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Another benefit of a F2F is that you are able to pick up on body signals and greater console her/figure shit out.
Sep 28 2009 12:44AM
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J.Braun
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just talk to her, tell her that if you can't trust her then it won't work out, trust is a key factor in a relationship

Sep 28 2009 12:45AM
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Jamestown
Posts: 4002 - Karma: 51
KICK HIS ASS SEA BASS

Then, ask you're girlfriend why she thinks she can go around flirting while you stay committed.
Sep 28 2009 12:47AM
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GORlLLA
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Why didn't you go with her?
Sep 28 2009 12:49AM
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ilikeplants
Posts: 1868 - Karma: 17
oh yeah. probably shouldn't have posted this in her because i remembered that the kid has a newschoolers account.

thanks for the advice though boys
Sep 28 2009 12:49AM
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ArnieP
Posts: 964 - Karma: 13
How will he know it pertains to him?
Sep 28 2009 12:50AM
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ilikeplants
Posts: 1868 - Karma: 17
dub post.. didnt go with her because 1. one of my good friends is leaving for the army soon and last night we threw a party to see him so she went up there and i stayed here. 2. there's virtually no where to sleep in those dorms, i'd rather pass out in the forest then in a cramped dorm
Sep 28 2009 12:51AM
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ilikeplants
Posts: 1868 - Karma: 17
doubt this happened to anyone else who has a newschoolers account as well last night but i dont know ha.  i tried to leave out names and the college but for kicks i could call shit out, don't really want to though seems like it would start more than it could solve
Sep 28 2009 12:53AM
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Chickendodo
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Pee in her butt.  (Sorry)

(Insert sexist joke) 

I really have no advice, that's just dumb on her part.
Sep 28 2009 12:53AM
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k-rob
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i would dump her after the "fuck you" reply.

but you can talk to her and ask her how she would feel if you got drunk and flirted with some girl and she kissed you and you just let her. and if she says she would be okay with it then you should dump her. and if she says she would not be okay with it then you should dump her.

Sep 28 2009 12:59AM
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TechnoPotamus
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i like the harsh stance on this one also.
Sep 28 2009 1:01AM
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Elijah.
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How old are you?

Key to the answer here.
Sep 28 2009 1:07AM
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ilikeplants
Posts: 1868 - Karma: 17
both 17
Sep 28 2009 1:09AM
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Elijah.
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Your girlfriend sounds immature as fuck, and your handling this ok.
All I would say is if the relationship actually means something to you (beyond the initial infatuation) then talk it out with her about the WHOLE situation face to face. If it doesn't really mean anything (most likely), forget that noise and go have fun.
Sep 28 2009 1:15AM
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ilikeplants
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thats the thing. i'm torn between both right now. i really do love her. i'll always be there for her if we're dating or not and she knows it and feels the exact same from what we've talked about. i know we'll be friends for a long time because we click really well. part of me though wants to just break it off, still be friends, but go have fun. but the other part wants to keep going and see where it takes us.
Sep 28 2009 1:20AM
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Elijah.
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Talk it out with her. Face to face.
Sep 28 2009 1:25AM
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r0dubs
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slap her with your dick and tell her to never even look in the eyes of another man or youll choke the bitch
Sep 28 2009 1:31AM
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BC.
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this, dont take shit from NOBODY!
Sep 28 2009 12:58PM
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Thenowhereman42
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Dump her man it only gets worse.
Sep 28 2009 1:03PM
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Mr.Panda
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when people are drunk, little things called inhibition and judgment go out the window.  like someone else said for 17 she sounds pretty immature.  talking to her face to face will be good cause then you can really tell whats going on.
Sep 28 2009 1:08PM
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prontocuts.com
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You're 17, you don't know what love is. Dump her ass.
Sep 28 2009 1:11PM
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Barefootin_Fiend
Posts: 7618 - Karma: 4,727
if this is happening now, what do you think is going to happen when she goes to college and gets hammered at parties all of the time? break up with her. you're young. enjoy it. plenty of fish in the sea to have to worry about this all of the time...
Sep 28 2009 1:12PM
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PaleCelery
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Sometimes I don't understand women's logic.

At first I was thinking you should be mad at the guy for trying to kiss here when she said no, but then again she was kinda asking for it. So I'd just kill them both.

But seriously, sometimes girls flirt just because they want attention and nothing sexual at all, and for most guys (myself included) this is very had to understand.

Girls man, they're a whole different breed. Learn to live with the quirks, because once you think you've got them figured out they will prove you wrong, again and again
Sep 28 2009 1:17PM
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Mr.Panda
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correction, different species i think works better.
Sep 28 2009 1:20PM
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jayo.
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Victor, you're so unpredictable
Sep 28 2009 1:21PM
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[BRI]noceros
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like people have been saying, face to face is really your only option to settling this shit

Sep 28 2009 1:22PM
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uh_lis_uh
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I think her "fuck you" remark was her being superrr defensive, which gives you every right to be mad because if she's being defensive, she obviously knows she did something wrong.

you need to just confront her face to face. If she's out flirting just to get the attention, then maybe you should rethink your relationship with her. attention seeking girls cause more problems down the road.

++vibes. fighting with in a relationship blows.
Sep 28 2009 1:25PM
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14.
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pics or it didnt happen

and if it did really happen?

.. tits or gtfo
Sep 28 2009 1:25PM
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CJHski
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if she cheats she is gone.  i would not give a fuck if she was drunk, that is just a lame excuse.  but if she really cares bout you and you really care about her you will know after you "break" up with her.
Sep 28 2009 1:38PM
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Billek
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Do some drugs (E or meth) and talk about your problems all night and have crazy sex.
Sep 28 2009 1:44PM
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daytripper67
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gotta agree with this. besides i just cant imagine dating a girl if i cant completely trust her
Sep 28 2009 1:46PM
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hartig
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this guy knows whats up.

but OP, that sucks dude, you should talk to her face to face before you decide on anything. also, dont think about the whole situation too much, its not a good thing to do.
Sep 28 2009 3:36PM
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powninja
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she most likely doesn't feel head over heels about you otherwise she wouldn't do that drunk or not....unless he was a very handsome devil.  either way if your 17 then that is the perfect age for slaying pussy.  Girls literally just get naked if you say you like them.  Oh the things i would do if I could go back to high school haha. also the chances are you eventually break up with her.
Sep 28 2009 4:04PM
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Sufferboy
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she might just be afraid to tell you that she was drunk and made a mistake. ask her what really went on and that you wont get pissed. if she doesnt do that atleast for you, then dump her
Sep 28 2009 4:11PM
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Delphi
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holy shittt. i'd be so pissed. unacceptable. If you have any integrity, get rid of her. That's the kinda shit that almost always turns into a full blown problem. She sounds incredibly naive and equally irresponsible. Find a girl that is so crazy about you she would never even think to flirt with another guy. This is just troubling to hear.
Sep 28 2009 4:12PM
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jfoley019
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Dude, don't get dragged down by a relationship that is not healthy. It seems like you are putting in more effort then she is. If this is the case then get rid of her. Even though you like her and all, there are so many girls in the world. Being single isn't a bad thing especially at a young age man. GO have fun with your friends and play the field.
Sep 28 2009 4:25PM
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musick13
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ask if you can tap dat
Sep 28 2009 4:32PM
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Ski..4..Life
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drunk people = horny people


Sep 28 2009 4:48PM
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