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My dad's needs to straighten his shit out
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So my dad has all these codes of ethics, like every parent has. He takes them super far...he tells me to be calm, treat people as you would like to be treated, etc. I'm a reasonable person, pretty average. I have good grades, I have a good part-time job, and I have a couple things under my belt that he should be proud of, and he says he is. But I rarely hear compliments come out his mouth.
Lately, my dad has been telling that I suck at life, basically. Apparently I need to dedicate all my time to the SAT and school. I'm on spring break and I'm not allowed to chill with buddies unless they're done with all their homework and stuff because apparently I'm distracting them. He takes out his anger on me when I accidentally break my watch that he gave me.
Basically, when he gets mad, he gets super pissed. It's not as bad anymore but it makes me think he needs to practice what he preaches in terms of ethcis.
On saturday, I hear a phone conversation. He picks up while we're in traffic, and it's a "friend" of his. It's a woman, and not my mom. His phone's super loud, so I'm able to hear everything. I'm guessing he knew this because he was being really vague when talking to her and talking about how they "can meet later this week" and how he was "disappointed" that she didn't call him last night. She's acting all cutesy on the other side of the phone.
Now I might just be paranoid, but I've never seen my dad act so sketched out. It kind of kicked up thoughts that my dad might be cheating on my mom. Are these reasonable?
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From a weird phone conversation where I overheard my dad talking to a woman, in a really different way and all sketched out than he normally wood, I think he MIGHT be cheating on my mom. Reasonable thoughts or no?
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reasonable.
yeah my dad was all ethics and shit too when he wanted me to study for the sats, but dont study much on sats, just how you take them. thats what i did and i got an 1890. either you know how to take the test or u dont.
as for the cheating on ur mom shit, thats whack. you should only confront her when your absolutely sure
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that sucks man, maybe your dad is living a double life maybe its your mom hes talking to? ahhah if its not i have an idea, get your dads phone when hes not around text the girl he was talking to and say come over to my house for a little bit or something like that. say your alone and no one is home or something. she will come over and then see who it is. but i dont think your dad is cheating on your mom maybe and old friend from H.S.,College etc. But you should keep that idea in mind.
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confront your dad about it, or tell your mom to start putting out more.
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sketchy for sure. dont worry about it.
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dont jump to conclusions, theres probably a reasonable explanation, your dad is in the CIA
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maybe you have a family that you never knew about.... wouldn't that be fun?
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haha yeah for sure. I'm adopted, I want to meet a half-brother or something really randomly one day. That would be chill.
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If the phonecall was what you were saying it was, then i'm surprised he answered it in the first place.
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not really helping the situation....
thread creator, i would wait it out a little, there are so many things that could make your dad react in weird ways, my dad was in a situation awhile ago where it looked like the company he works for would shut down...... he would bite your head off for the smallest thing...
i would wait it out a little longer before taking any serious action that could possibly bring trouble for you later.....
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exactly, i wasnt there with you, but could it have been someone from his job? a boss or something, i cant imagine someone answering the phone in a situation like you described..
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that is very true. i doubt that he would answer a call from a mistress if his son was in the car. i would be super sketched out though. sure, its easy for everyone to say "confront him", but think about how hard that would be.
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lurk him hardcore and find out for yourself
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dude, he seems pretty stoked on the thought.
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Don't jump ahead of the gun on that one. If you're wrong about a possible second lady you're dad will probably treat you like shit compared to what you have now.
If you actually find out it's an affair straight up give him an ultimatum. If he doesn't stop seeing this lady you'll go and let your mother know.
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i guess he would get alot more X mas and b day gifts ahahaha
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im not even gonna touch the infidelity shit, because honestly thats wayyy over ns's head.
but as for the great expectations, i can totally relate. with my dad its always one thing to the next, hes on me about getting a job, i get a job, on to my license, i get it, on to school, i do well, on to sports that im not doing well enough at, i do well, im not looking into the right colleges, i look into the ones he likes. its just one thing to the next, no matter what major "issue" i fix he just finds something new to bitch about constantly and hangs it over my head. its really frusterating when you cant please your parents.
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I realize how much it can suck...but maybe he made some poor choices when he was younger and doesn't want you to go down that road? They are pushing you to be as successful as you can be, it could be worse.
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My mom is the same way, a raging bitch. She overreacts at anything and just constantly bitches at me. My gpa is a 4.4 and I play sports and am very nice. My dad (they are seperated) thinks that I am the best person possible, but my mom just always bitches. Oh well, sorry for my rant
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how is your GPA above a 4.0?
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Over the next year or so you just need to ease them into the thought that you're already your own person and its up to you and only you to make changes in your lifestyle. There isn't any clay ball shit going on. Eventually he will figure it out, until then youre almost done so just finish strong and look forward to college.
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Some schools have GPA's on a 5.0 scale.
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forget about that woman shit, its really none of your business and its between your dad and mom if they have a problem. Don't get into anything you don't have to. believe me, don't try to go all hero and save your parents relationship. if they have a problem, they have a problem and not you.
as for your dad being a hardass, i'm sure he just wants the best for you, not to sound cheesy but all the shit you do in the next 9 months or so (assuming you're a junior) actually could affect your later life. scoring high on SAT's and getting good grades builds a good application, and then you get to go to college where you want, and do what you want when you get out, instead of whatever presents itself.
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nah, it is a 4.0 scale. It is because some of the weights on classes such as AP/IB classes. They are weighted by 1.05 so I do pretty damn well GPA wise
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and when you do AP courses it counts towards your GPA like gives you an extra .2 points, my aunt got like a 4.7 which is .1 away from perfect at the school she was going to or something
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yeah, its not so bad i guess. i mean....i dunno. he was a drug dealer in college and could have easily gone to SU or a lot of top schools but he went to some mediocre school for two years instead, but i mean hes still really succesful so i dunno. he teaches me good values i suppose, it just sucks that im 17 and am realllllly independent, financially i mean. sure he helps but it sucks when i have to work for a month to get new outerwear or whatever and he buys a convertable like its nothing but wont buy me lunch. haha, whatever though. im not complaining. parents are parents.
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oh. I wish mine did that.
Thanks for the suggestions. I won't try to go all hero on my parents, since I really don't know too much at all yet. I was just a little sketched.
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Damn, highest I've heard on a 4.0 scale before was like a 4.2 maybe a 4.3. If you have high test scores you could probably go anywhere with a GPA like that.
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