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Swampy
Posts: 546 - Karma: 53
When I give someone a handshake it's usually firm with a good grip. But today at an interview a woman gave me a very limp handshake and I didn't know what to do, so I just gave a half firm handshake. So I'm curious what is proper handshake etiquette? Should I always have a firm handshake, or match what the other person does?
Jun 12 2007 3:40PM
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Tasche
Posts: 5422 - Karma: 99
always firm. Hurt their hand if you can. Especially if your working in a mans environment.
Jun 12 2007 3:44PM
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Black-Bandanna
Posts: 6680 - Karma: 1,602
Firm handshake for male to male encounters.

Male to female handshakes you should loosen up a bit and just give a light, brief squeeze. Also when shaking a woman's hand, they need to make the first move. It's like consent for the handshake to happen.

And that my friend, is the proper handshake etiquette.
Jun 12 2007 3:45PM
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babujib
Posts: 5039 - Karma: 104
i actually had no idea what to do when that happens too. because i dont want to hurt them but at the same time i dont want to look like a pussy
Jun 12 2007 3:48PM
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tequila
Posts: 834 - Karma: 14
Guys should be firm, but in a handshake with a girl, don't grip or squeeze.
Girls should leave it a moment and then give a light squeeze before releasing.
Wow, never thought about it before
Jun 12 2007 3:50PM
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Mezmerize19
Posts: 6475 - Karma: 18
See i dont ussually shake. I dont have time to. We brag hands, lock, slide, and curl. I hate people to dont curl and just slide
Jun 12 2007 3:50PM
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snwbrdmilf
Posts: 22441 - Karma: 2,805
well said
Jun 12 2007 3:51PM
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396222687862
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my french teacher is whack, he does the whole, correct handshake, but its not much of a shake, more like a wild ride, he like throws your arm up and down. mad ghey
Jun 12 2007 4:06PM
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BMskier
Posts: 3363 - Karma: 365
thank you for the information.
i never knew that?
Jun 12 2007 4:09PM
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killabees
Posts: 8558 - Karma: 494
use the jerk off mucle
Jun 12 2007 4:09PM
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andrewg
Posts: 4746 - Karma: 18
this kid knows his handshake etiquette. thats exactly how id o it
Jun 12 2007 4:10PM
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Tasche
Posts: 5422 - Karma: 99
Oh ya don't look at your hand or away from the person. I hate when people don't look into my eyes when I shake their hand. My boss just last week turned down a qualified intern because his handshake was sloppy and he didn't look him in the eyes.
Jun 12 2007 5:46PM
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Mat.
Posts: 7167 - Karma: 94
haha the other day i accidently gave the most gay handshake ever. it was like i shook their hand with my thumb and my index and middle finger, that was all.
Jun 12 2007 5:49PM
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mfz
Posts: 332 - Karma: 73
yeaa
Jun 12 2007 5:58PM
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Bardolph
Posts: 719 - Karma: 11
Guy you always go firm but with the ladies you only squeze as hard as they do.
Jun 12 2007 6:00PM
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Nicholas.
Posts: 10905 - Karma: 60
always make strong eye contact also, thats more important.
Jun 12 2007 6:14PM
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Chunk*Unit
Posts: 206 - Karma: 10
damn Jesse. you know your shit.
Jun 12 2007 6:36PM
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ThaLetterM.
Posts: 8609 - Karma: 1,612
sometimes when a guy shakes my hand extremely hard ill actually say "wow you must be trying to make up for your small penis with that handshake."

be firm, confident, but not too firm.
Jun 12 2007 6:43PM
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Black-Bandanna
Posts: 6680 - Karma: 1,602
Damn straight.
Jun 12 2007 6:45PM
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DYFI
Posts: 3836 - Karma: 30
indeed.
Jun 12 2007 7:15PM
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Jwenz
Posts: 8893 - Karma: 7,633
Fur shur..FIRM with men Light with femailes
Jun 12 2007 7:17PM
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adam.
Posts: 3469 - Karma: 11
haha replace handshake with handjob and then you get some giggles
Jun 12 2007 7:19PM
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St.Steezy
Posts: 4228 - Karma: 20
read about it in Ski Time
Jun 12 2007 7:27PM
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liquidsword
Posts: 566 - Karma: 10
firm handshake. the limp handshake feels weird... like a dead fish or something grody
Jun 12 2007 7:30PM
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foodisfun
Posts: 5427 - Karma: 287
i've come across to male to female handshake every saturday at church.  most of the time it's older women though so it doesn't matter how i shake, but if it's a younger girl around my age then it gets akward.  usually my whole hand like dominates their hand so i can't get a normal shake and then i feel like an idiot.

though i've always wondered what a girl would do if i kissed the back of her hand like a real gent.
Jun 12 2007 10:08PM
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BusyJohnSohn
Posts: 3483 - Karma: 29
haha you should bow down while you do it and call her "m'lady"
Jun 12 2007 11:38PM
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.jon
Posts: 2121 - Karma: 345
my uncle slapped me when my handshake wasnt firm enought
probably because hes from wisconsin
Jun 12 2007 11:39PM
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zzyzx
Posts: 470 - Karma: 10
crush the hand unless its a chick
Jun 12 2007 11:40PM
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JayDope
Posts: 6842 - Karma: 408
I caddy at a country club, and whenever you meet the member u caddy for, u introduce urself and give them a handshake. I had this one guy one time, and i shook his hand, but very limpy handshake, and he wa slike "Jay what was that?" Im like "what?" "Hes like you can tell alot about a person the first time you meet them by a handshake, always a FIRM handshake." Shows self confidence. So i always give a firm handshake now Thanks to Mr. Vespa
Jun 12 2007 11:57PM
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t-roy
Posts: 4041 - Karma: 52
someone probably said this already, but i hate it when the other person closes their hand before your hand is there and you end up shaking with your fingers and you feel stupid. sucks if it is a guy or girl you are shaking with.
Jun 13 2007 12:17AM
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jimmychung
Posts: 6857 - Karma: 25
firm max of 5 pumps or so. i hate limp handshakes, i immediately think less of the person, and i worry that i'm going to break their hand.
Jun 13 2007 12:19AM
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EH_DUBS
Posts: 3080 - Karma: 969
also if your a lefty remember to use your right hand
Jun 13 2007 12:21AM
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DDrem.
Posts: 3552 - Karma: 24
sqeeze til they cry, then punch them in the face to show them you really mean business
Jun 13 2007 12:32AM
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*DwC*
Posts: 1112 - Karma: 28
you should have just punched her in the face...
Jun 13 2007 12:33AM
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maclem
Posts: 2497 - Karma: 17
I always look at the persons hand when I shake it, I just claim it's so I don't miss.
Jun 13 2007 12:38AM
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TheMoostafian
Posts: 4504 - Karma: 9,438
exactly
Jun 13 2007 12:48AM
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chillonhill
Posts: 1314 - Karma: 125
A good tap on the ass gets there attention also, They will remember it more than a limp handshake.
Jun 13 2007 12:49AM
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eheath
Posts: 61097 - Karma: 118,198
I love the look on some guys faces when you give them a good handshake, especially old rich ones on a italy tour.
Jun 13 2007 1:02AM
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Fish_Sandwich.
Posts: 9108 - Karma: 16
I just weiner slap people.
Jun 13 2007 1:25AM
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Reptar
Posts: 1629 - Karma: 10
In my culture we do not shake hands, we just headbut each other.
Jun 13 2007 1:29AM
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bhill2.0
Posts: 6573 - Karma: 197
the only handshake you know is in your bedroom .
Jun 13 2007 1:35AM
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skoganskier101
Posts: 2067 - Karma: 14
an overly firm handshake usually signifies dominance over someone or superiority, and weak handshakes mean inferiority, and i leanred that in cotillion, so just a nice decent handshake, not a dead fish but ur also not trying to break their hand
Jun 13 2007 1:49AM
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whattheshit
Posts: 6562 - Karma: 107
eye contact
firm
and make sure the part of skin between your thumb and index touch.  for instance make a right angle with your thumb and index and the spot where it is 90 degrees should be touching.
you can take it a step further with the correct placement of the index finger, but that is getting into freemasonry and im not supposed to talk about that.
Jun 13 2007 2:24AM
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gregor
Posts: 1069 - Karma: 83
Handshakes say a lot about you and you can change it depending on the relationship you have with the person your 'shaking.

Say if you're having an interview you should shake to show what a determined, professional but sincere person you are so it should be firm, eye contact and a smile.

If you are meeting someone new normally just be yourself, whatever feels natural.
Jun 13 2007 8:11AM
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*Four*Zero*Six*
Posts: 1479 - Karma: 10
Exactly
Jun 13 2007 8:19AM
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gregor
Posts: 1069 - Karma: 83
Ha or theres the vicars handshake.

Go for a normal handshake but as you grab, turn your hand so your fnigers are pointing down and make it totally limp. It freaks people out so much.
Jun 13 2007 8:21AM
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rastarider1080
Posts: 76 - Karma: 18
limp handshakes are always awkward. firm handshakes make for a more relaxed environment
Jun 13 2007 8:22AM
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brokebutitsworthit
Posts: 2279 - Karma: 27
rolling the hand over the other persons with a firm shake  is also a show of dominance, not drastic but just so that the dominant person's hand is slightly past vertical.  (Does that make sense?)
Jun 13 2007 8:53AM
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leckett1
Posts: 6476 - Karma: 294
ahah reminds me. i teach swimming lessons and after the last day the parents often thank me shake my hand whatever. anyways there was this one parent, pretty big guy an tough lookin and he shook my hand...it was the limpest, wimpiest handshake ever...to myself i was thinking uhhhhhhhhhhh. its true how the say someones handshake can define them
Jun 13 2007 9:47AM
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