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My band, am I out of line?
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So I'm in a band and it's my first band since I was a junior in HS (3-4 years ago) and I thought I'd be pumped to play again. We've practice 10 times or so and now the guitarist says that we have a gig if we want it. I'm totally NOT pumped and I thought I would be excited to play gigs again. So the gig is at a frat party, we WON'T be getting paid, and we don't know the kids who are putting on the party or anybody else at the party.
I've never played a gig at a party or anywhere without a stage/sound system of it's own (I have a PA system, so that's not my reason for bitching) and It's been a long time since I haven't been paid to play a gig. I have no desire to play this gig
Am I totally out of line not wanting to play this gig? I don't want to bring my drumset to a frat party for some random kids we don't know, where it will probably get fucked up, and we aren't getting paid.
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Nah dude as a fellow drummer I would feel really skeptical bringing my kit to some random frat house where like you said it might get trashed. If you dont know any of the kids and you arent getting paid I would feel the same way
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ur not out of line if its ur equiptment. if u don want to play for some drunk ass poor people then dont. but it also could b a good warm up sorta practice gig till you get a real gig with a good set up and get payed
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not a big drinker, so that's not a perk that I'd like.
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K, good answers; but here's the weird part. I have the most incredibly anal way about me. I will NOT use anybody else's drumset and I will NOT let anybody use my set. So he's like "there might be another band playing, you could use his set," and I still don't want to play so I'm thinking it's just because it's at a frat party and I hate frats with all of my heart. I'm just not a good band mate.
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you could hit on crazy college chicks
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at worst its gonna be fun? why not
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ya, except I don't think it will be fun, for me at least. I'm not good friends with the guys in the band (they're both 26 and I'm 19) and I hate frat parties even when I'm at one with a bunch of friends. I just don't like parties and whenever I've ever played a gig before, it's been at a club, or bar, or somewhere that bands always play.
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I hate frats to, but ive played a couple of parties (not frat parties) and they're always fun.
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Just tell him your not comfortable playing because of the lack of practice.
Or be honest with your bandmates because you'll never get a long if you don't know each other good enough
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Ya, I did the honesty thing and he said "A gig now and then turned down is fine, but if we have reservations about playing certain occasions and certain venues leads to a lack of gigs and reputation" which is true, so I told him that we may have a difference in priorities and that I DO have reservations and that I wasn't sure I'm the drummer he's looking for. So I'm pretty much dropping out of the band, but I can't get my brain around this one gig; I'd feel bad if I said no, because they want the gig, but I don't want it and don't plan on being in the band after. Ahhh fuck.
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YES! I just found out what frat it is and it's the Dry-frat (no booze) at UVM. Yes! No drunk frat assholes fuckin with my equipment.
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thats chill dude, deffinetly do that im sure you will have a good time.
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yup, If it really is a dry-frat, then this will be much better than I thought. If it isn't, I'm gona be ripped when I get there and my shit gets beer spilled all over it.
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aren't you in a frat?
as for playing the show without pay, i'd say you made the right choice. i wouldn't want to get my shit fucked up for free.
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I debrothered last semester.
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