Guys - some tips for the wise... now, I may not be an expert but I'm getting there - I'm a girl myself, to start with... and I've just been working on camps as an outdoor ed instructor and camp counsellor, where a large part of my job (other than teaching sailing and waking up grumpy 15 year olds) seemed to involve listening to sad tales of unrequited love from both the students and the other guys working on camp...
First of all, take a good look at yourself.. and at her... if she's gorgeous, popular, smart and nice, and you're a whinger with pimples and problems with both attitude and body odour, then there may be a difficulty. In that case, either change who you like (do the words 'out of your league' mean anything to you? People only conquer those sorts of odds in feelgood Spielerg movies)... or, and this may scare you, why don;t you change yourself?
Despite the protests of many unsuccessful guys who choose to live in denial (she'd love me if I had the right car/motorbike... if I was on the footy team... if I had better-defined pecs etc... so it's not my fault)... most girls aren't as superficial as you may think (some are - but they're not worth the effort, anyway). Have a very honest think about how you present yourself - a lot of you little boys here seem to think you're very hardcore - toning down the attitude is often a good way to start... paying the shit out of everything does NOT make you look all grownup and cynical... despite that slip up, by the way - swearing excessively is also not particularly impressive. Using adult language makes you look about as grownup as a little kid trying to wear a adult size pair of trousers (though come to think of it, that's what many jibbers seem to do - and while I personally have no objection to guys wearing jeans with each leg the size of a small tent, be warned that some girls do find this rather unattractive - as my big sis says, they hide all the good bits...). Next, think about the physical impression you make - after all, us girls have to shave, buff, wax and moisturise madly on a daliy basis - it;s the least you could do to use some zit cream, wash frequently (and that includes your hair - shampoo is your friend), and find yourself a good (read - antiperspirant) deodorant. And a well-toned body never goes astray (no, that's not being superficial - if we go to the gym and eat well, so can you).
Lastly - remember to focus on your good points. Most of you probably do have something worthwhile to say - but to often guys get so insecure and worried that they try too hard to be cool, and look like total and utter tossers. hey, if you're writing here, you're probably a decent skier - work on that, if nothing else (a good sportsman is ALWAYS sexy - not just coz they're fit - it shows that he has determination, drive and coordination - very shaggable). Being well-presented, nice (and a bit of politeness never goes astray, old-fahioned tho it may be - you don't have to be Mr Manners, just considerate) and comfortable with youself may not make you the local Casanova - but I'd be surprised if you don't get more interest from girls... now please, get on with it, and stop posting those ridiculous message about how horribly unfair/superficial/mean/incomprehensible girls are. That whole myth that you can't understand women was spread by Freud, who was too lazy to spend time working out half the human race (and people say he was the greatest psychologist ever), and vain feminists who prefer to think of themselves as somehow deeper and more intelligent than men.... girls aren't, despite that popular self-help book, from a different planet, , so get on with it...
