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Swandog7IM a hockey ref and get this shit all the time. Even when a kid falls down, their parents will stand up and shout "tripping ref!". Just because its your kid, its not a penalty, its 9 year old youth hockey for fun, not for putting a kid on the bench for something he has no concept of. Yes i know when to cal l penalties, but you certainly aren't helping parent in the bleachers. Coaches also tweak shit, and when I played youth hockey there was a little bit of line shifting and such
Titus69How much does that job make? I would totally take over my middle school team in the next few years as a fun side job.
californiagrownAs a coach you have to be very, very clear with the parents why their kid isnt playing. If they want to go through the lineup with you, by all means tell them why other kids are playing and theirs are not. Effectively they are the ones paying you. It should be a fairly short conversation if they really want to have it. Explain your rationale, if its good, they will likely have no issue with it.
If they are being passive aggressive, or snarky and not straight up asking you whats going on, feel free to ask them if they would like to discuss anything. do it nicely and earnestly. Parenting is a learning proccess. they are still learning how to balance work, and raising a shithead teen with self esteem issues, ya know? You are an adult these days, you have to act like one even when adults 20-30 years your senior are not.
GoodasGoldno it's a competitive school team.
AlsoKnownAsFor basketball it's rough because there's so many less players needed.
GoodasGoldYeah I don't envy you. I do make sure that everyone plays every single game, and starts at least one game a season
SammyDubzI ref youth lacrosse. I've had parents threaten to kill me because of penalties I've called.
ghoti_hookI coach high school. I always hated cutting players. One of my fellow coaches once told me "if you cut them, they are a problem for one day. If you keep them, they'll be a problem all season". If you can cut, I would recommend it. I know it sucks doing it and no kid likes being cut, but there is no way to make a team of 20 kids happy (or parents) when only 11 are on the field.