There's a drastic difference between respecting yourself and not standing for bullshit and throwing your angst and frustration in people's faces. I said what I said about these absolute assholes because I wouldn't go near them because they're irritating pricks, not because they're feminists. They just use feminism as the catalyst to express their pure obnoxiousness to the world. They're going to die hopeless and alone because before a guy even gets a chance to show them that he's not a misogynist, respects women, and wouldn't even dream of asking them to do some of the things they claim all men do, she's already basically slapping him in the face and saying "fair warning, I'm a feminist and you're not allowed to do A, B, or C. Get used to it." At which point, any self-respecting MAN would say "fuck you very much" and not give her a second thought.
It's a two way street and you can't expect to be treated equally and respectfully when the method by which you demand this treatment is neither equal, nor respectful.
And yes, I completely agree with you. There are much more important and legitimate issues that these girls should be pointing their arguments against.
They call me Captain Obvious.