Rape is when a girl is blacked out asleep in a room and a guy comes in and fucks her unconscious body (happened to a girl I know)
Attempted rape is when a guy slips a roofie in your girlfriends drink while you're in the bathroom expecting to take her home with him, only for you to return 10 minutes later just as the roofies are hitting her. (happened to my gf and I)
Rape is forcible nonconsensual sex, whether it be oral vaginal or anal.
Something that is sketchy but not rape in my opinion, though the law defines it as so is when one person is drunk and the other is sober and they hook up.
There is a shit ton of blaming the victim, especially at UVM. One of my friends is a volunteer at the womans crisis center and sees victims all the time. One case in particular is a girl who was raped by 3 basketball players who turned them in. They got expelled but were given full scholarships to other schools and the girl was harassed by others so much she had to drop out.
UVM works hard to change the situation but the biggest problem is that fraternities, sports teams and EVEN some sororities don't rally behind the call of ending rape culture at the school. (In many cases they have been part of the problem, but not all.)
The most I see is the first 2, which is incredibly unfortunate because the victim is always blamed to the point where they even doubt that it wasn't their fault. Which it most certainly is not. Its sad to say but you will not graduate without knowing somebody who was raped either in college or high school.
What year are you anyways? I'm a senior and might go to UVM med in 2014