So, I have a dilema and i want some suggestions on how to approach it. ill try to get to the point, its a complicated situation.
I'm about to turn 23 years old. I was raised Catholic by a Catholic family. Extremely Catholic Grandparents on both sides, Parents are too, but not as into it as my Gparents. But since going to college, like many of you I have developed my own opinion and theory on the matter. Ive decided that Im not a Catholic. But when it comes to church, ill still make the effort for the sake of my family. I go on Christmas and Easter, and ALWAYS when my Grandpa is around. He is the ultimate: prays multiple times a day, Grand Puba of the Knights of Columbus, charity work, etc. I go because i dont want to dissappoint him. I dont want him feeling bad about me not going to church so i go.
So i just got a call from my 13 year old cousin, who also shares this grandpa. He wants me to be his 'Sponsor' for his Confirmation. (this is a ceremony for kids where they officially accept the Catholic faith, all kids do it if theyre catholic). The sponsor is meant to be a mentor, supporter, and basically like a guidance councellor for the kid. The sponsor should be a good Catholic.
So I can either:
1. accept the job, go to all the meetings and what not. Ill be his sponsor and be the 'great Catholic mentor' for him. Probably making my grandpa the happiest man in the whole damn world, and my cousin (who already loves me for taking him skiing and just hanging out etc) will have a cool cousin to help him when most kids have their grandma or fat aunt as their sponsors.
However, this option comes with me being a fraud. I will not be a genuine sponsor because i wont believe it. But i know i can fake it 100%. I dont know if i should, it seems to be kindof wrong. It may not be objectively wrong to 'fake to be a Catholic', but in the end I wouldnt be genuine.
Normally i would say 'who cares how you get there, so long as the results are met without any negative results'. but this one is tricky.
2. I reject the offer. This would be the honest choice, but it would have repercussions. Disappointing basically everyone in my family. It also includes pretty much telling my grandpa and cousin that im not a Catholic which i do not want to do. Or i could reject it by lying and saying im too busy, but thats hardly a credible excuse.
so. give me some opinions please
S.I.P Sarah J. Burke
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- hendrik. '05