Hello there, active members,
So I really need some advice on my college situation. I'll start from the beginning.
I live in Belgium and here highschool is grade 1 to grade 6. I followed Industrial science which is 8 hours maths a week. I never really studied because I hated it and I can't concentrate while studying but I got descent grades just by reading my book in bed. Yes, this was the same for exams, except for my last math exam in grade 6, where I studied 2 hours in total.
Now I'm doing first year in college, following Industrial engineering: building which takes 5 years. The system here in Belgium, isn't like in the USA so it doesn't really cost alot except the dorm I'm in, which is 326 euro or 427 dollar a month (parents pay this, and I feel bad them paying this, because I don't want to be here anymore). So I'm here and I still hate studying and my dad tells me I need to study 8 hours a day and with my lack of concentration skills this is very hard to do. Also when I'm in class I dream away and then when I "wake" up it's 5 minutes later and I missed alot of important stuff.
I'm at a point where I'm unhappy nearly every day, not having any friends here (I can't understand their accent) , wanting to tell my mom and dad that I want to quit and follow evening classes so I can start on my own. The problem with the last part is that both my parents are very school-based people (dad did university). They always want to see good grades and when I got good grades, they ask why my lowest grade isn't higher.
I'm a gamer (don't play very much anymore because of college). Still in highschool I did game alot so I was on the pc alot but when I build my summer setup I wasn't on the pc anymore because I was really motivated and I really enjoyed building it. I like creating or fixing stuff.
What I want my life to be?
I want to be able to leave for 2-3 days and go ski pow(I live far away from the mountains) and not work monday to friday, planning vacations 3 weeks prior and then having bad snow. Like mentioned before if I start on my own, the chance is alot bigger that I can do this.
I really don't want to disappoint my parents but I feel like I can't do this the way they want. Like most parents they want the best for me, but I don't need a big house or a big car. I'm happy with what I have .
So that's why I come here, hoping to get some serious answers or advice.
what would you do in this situation?
P.S: I'm not really used to writing alot so it may seem a little chaotic