I know, we're total mind fucks.
The good thing is that some of us recognize it and try not to be.
seriously, this is the best advice you will ever hear.
girls are fucking crazy. they do what they want, when they want, depending on whatever mood they happen to be in, and expect you to magically know exactly what's on their mind and go with it. they don't want you to talk about it, think about it, you just need to let it be. if it doesn't work out, so what. you have to be unconditionally on her side, so let her do whatever the fuck she wants. why else do girls go after bad boys? they want guys who dont give a shit and let them have it their own way. but then of course you end up with a sad and crying bitch because she claims he doesn't care about her, EVEN THOUGH she wanted him to not care in the first place and that was her initial attraction to him - the lack of worrying and the "just go with it" mentality.
don't cling, don't worry, just be. do your own thing too. if she wants to text, text. if she doesn't, don't. it's gotta be her way and no amount of logic or reasoning will ever change that.
all chicks are inherently crazy, you just have to find one that is crazy and suuuper mellow and pleasant and care-free, cause they wont mind if you bring shit up or want to discuss any concerns. the light-hearted and mellow attitude will override the craziness.
now what you DO NOT want is a chick who's crazy and also high maintenance and full of stress all the time. you will never win at anything with her. you're just destined to lose at everything forever. may as well be her pet.
just remember that all girls are crazy and do crazy things. she'll tell you she wants to talk to you and when you do she'll be all "why you gettin up in my shit". then when you back off she's say "wtf why you ignoring me". you just have to go with it. do what she wants when she wants and do not worry about it cause it's something that all girls do. it's not her fault. she can't help it. she'll contradict herself, she'll say one thing and do another, she'll want you to do something that she wont do herself. all you can do is laugh and say "SO WHAT, BITCHES ARE CRAZY!! I ACCEPT IT!!!"
the sooner you figure that out, the sooner you will find peace and have great relationships.