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there was a thread like this somewhat recently so i'll give pretty much the same advice...
first of all, just get active with friends and go out and drink. you need a wingman, but almost anyone will do, if you dont have any friends just meet a dude or two and go to the bar with them, you dont even need to like them that much, it just sucks being at a bar by yourself. roll to the bar together, drink liberally, and just be a pleasant but confident person and chat people up. split up and walk around/mingle and occasionally meet back up with yours bros to shoot the shit (and as i said, it sort of blows being by yourself for a long period of time in a bar if youre not finding any ins) don't be over eager or too aggressive, but there are definitely times when you need to take the initiative cause the majority of girls arent going to make the first move. be playful and courteous, but mess with girls and make fun of them in friendly ways.. for whatever reason, girls like guys who can push their buttons a little bit and that's the easiest way to get a rapport going
anyway, just get a thing going with a girl or some girls and once the bar scene is wrapping up, casually express that you liked hanging with her and ask her if she wants to exchange numbers to hang out again, or better yet, come back to your place for _________ (drinks, movie, something you talked about doing, smoke, whatever). once that's done it'll be pretty obvious if she's into you, and then you just gotta be ready to recognize when to go in for the kiss. don't force it but like i said earlier sometimes you definitely gotta just go for it. worst case scenario, you dont go for it or dont get a reasonable opportunity, in which case you can just see if going for the kiss when you hug goodbye is gonna work. it's a good time to get a kiss started that both people do 50% of the approach
anyway, once you get the kiss going it's all downhill and natural from there. you'll be able to tell if she is into it, and you can slowly start exploring with your hands and see how she reacts. try to get in a generally horizontal position lol
important points:
-DON'T WORRY ABOUT GETTING SHOT DOWN... everybody gets rejected sometimes, you'll learn after the first or second one that it's no big deal and you can just move on, and girls like to see guys who are getting after it (to a point)
-hang out with dudes with a lot of game, just like skiing or anything it's unreal what you can learn just by watching a pro in action
-show interest and dont be a dick, but definitely don't act too desperate or be a push over. if conversation's getting dry, or even if it's not, just excuse yourself and go find your bros or go to the bathroom and maybe start chatting her up later. you hear people talk about "planting a seed" so much cause it's one of the best moves out there, next time you see the girl you have an in and something of a rapport with her to pick up on when you see her again, and it's a part of playing hard to get a little bit. for whatever reason people want what they can't have/dont think is into them, im sure youve felt that way about someone before
i'm not trying to act like im the master of game here to bestow my knowledge upon you, but i do pretty dece with girls and these are just some of the general guidelines about the whole charade. the whole thing is just about reading body language and girls' behavior around you and going from there...good luck bro, remember it's all mental so don't waste one second worrying about a rejection
oh and if youre dece at it, dancing is a GREAT in, but i cant comment on that cause im sure as fuck never gonna get a girl from my dancing...
