Technically your last sentence has several errors. It is a fragment - it needs a subject. Also, it would need to be "and we will be getting somewhere." You are asking him to do something, which must happen in the future.
Now, back to the "friend" who is an alchoholic. I would suggest that you attend an AA meeting, so that you can report to your "friend" on your new perspective.
As far as I am concerned, there is only one Book, and that is the Book of the Lord. Taking a note from Him, "Do to others as you would have them do to you." Luke 6:31 Additionally, "So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets." Matthew 7:12