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Seriously, this is retarded.

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THUNT836
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So i'm a senior in high school. My parents are pretty strict and have always had a very strict anti drinking and anti drug policy. My dad's a hardass, you know those kind of parents. Just a little background info.

So over the past year or so, I've been in a lot of trouble. I made some stupid mistakes, was arrested twice (once for editing/selling a season's pass to my local mountain and another time for stealing from the mall) and i have also gotten in trouble for stashing alcohol and weed in my room (parents found it, got pissed, etc.). So basically the past year or so has been really tough and i've been in a lot of trouble and i've had to rethink alot of my habits and my lifestyle really. I've been to therapy to deal with the weed and drinking and stealing problems (basically i just make poor decisions) and have gotten myself on a better track in life. I am doing great in school now and hope to be a doctor one day.

So tonight I am with some friends, and they want to go to a party. Now the weather is bad and these kids have been known to drink and drive before so instead of letting them go and worrying all night about whether or not they are safe (and also because a close friend of mine died in a DWI car accident last spring) i offered to be designated driver for the night.

Long story short, i take them to this party, my mom calls, i tell her i am at still at my friend's house just hanging out b/c i dont want to get in trouble AGAIN, she calls my other friend (who is drunk and in another room in the house so idk she called him until later) and his story doesn't match up. She calls me and my story falls apart so i just tell her the truth.

So now i'm in trouble for lying and being at a party even though i was finally making a smart decision for once and not drinking or smoking or doing anything illegal and I was just making sure my friends were safe and would get home safe that night. I think it's ridiculous. Like seriously, I get in trouble all the time for making dumb decisions, and now I finally make a smart one and I get in trouble for that too. Like is there anything I can do that won't get me in trouble?



Just needed to kinda vent there. Thanks to anyone who took the time to read that, you can reply if you want but you don't have to. And please don't criticize me too much, that's what my therapist is for. I just needed to do this to settle down and get my thoughts straight.
Feb 21 2011 12:44AM
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steezeeepolizeee
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well you didn't make a smart decision, you still lied to your parents. Life and lifes stresses will become much easier once you realize that telling the truth is a lot easier to keep track of then telling 10 different lies.
Feb 21 2011 12:49AM
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RudyGarmisch
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This cuts to the core of it. Even if it was a 'smart' decision, you still lied to your mom. Thats whats shes pissed about. Seriously, this was a retarded thread.
Feb 21 2011 12:50AM
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shr@gler
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do your parents also see the therapist?

sounds like they need a different perspecitve.

Feb 21 2011 12:50AM
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TheHuggyBear
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Been through it many times my man, just suck up the punishment. As much as they probably respect your choice of making sure your friends were safe and not dead, you lied when she called you and thats when they start to feel like they lose their trust in you. So just try to slowly build back that trust and count down the days until you leave for college.
Feb 21 2011 12:53AM
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THUNT836
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hey guys, thanks for the replies. i guess you misinterpreted, i'm not looking for people to tell me what i did wrong. i know what i did was wrong and i made a mistake and should not have lied. i was just getting my thoughts out and happened to be on NS at the time hahaha
Feb 21 2011 12:53AM
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THUNT836
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+k to you for the only meaningful response out of all of these
Feb 21 2011 12:54AM
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gus555
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your icon reminds me of kids bop
Feb 21 2011 12:55AM
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B.Snow
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No. That's is the stupidest argument of all time, don't be such an idiot. And OP, you kinda fucked up with not telling your mom the truth from the get go (I don't know if she would have let you actually go help your friends out or not if you told the truth from the start though). You should just apologize to you mom and tell her that you just wanted to get your friends home safe and DD. My parents will let me do pretty much anything, my mom just tweaks if I lie to her or don't let her know where I'm going and how long i'll be gone for.

good luck
Feb 21 2011 12:58AM
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jblaski
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I'm not trying to hate on you, and it's cool you make the decision to not drink, but remember this one thing....

you are, who the people you hang out with.

You could be a straight A, 4.0, star athlete. But if you hang out with a group that continually makes poor decisions, people will assume you make poor decisions as well.
Feb 21 2011 12:59AM
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steezeeepolizeee
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YUP
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Feb 21 2011 12:59AM
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THUNT836
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no, the only one that wasn't just telling me something i already knew. like i said i know i made a mistake, i dont need you guys to tell me that
Feb 21 2011 1:00AM
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Yinzer
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your headed in the right direction but you have to be honest first because you can't make progress without trust.
Feb 21 2011 1:01AM
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ryano
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its the lying part that she's mad about.

suck it up, admit that you shouldnt've lied to her.

say you're sorry and that you'll be straight up with her next time.

that will go a lot better than trying to make excuses.
Feb 21 2011 1:01AM
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.AR6rider.
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This, this, THIS.
Feb 21 2011 1:06AM
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Bonzalo
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After they caught you with weed and alcohol, beeing on a party sober isn´t the end of the world man, next time dont lie.
Feb 21 2011 1:08AM
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000000000000
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guilty by association is a bitch, but hey its your last year.  COLLEGE!!!!!!!!!!
Feb 21 2011 1:09AM
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B.Snow
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Because they're his friend and he was trying to help by DD'ing them. How old are you like 12? Teenagers get drunk and party all the time. Just cause people get drunk doesn't make them sketch or bad people. So you can't say the OP was asking for trouble when he chose do be the responsible one and make a mature choice. If anything he was helping his friends stay out of trouble or put their safety at risk. The only thing he did wrong was that he lied to his mom and he realizes that.
Feb 21 2011 1:14AM
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B.Snow
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stop them from putting their safety at risk** I'm too tired to write right now... sry for the dub post
Feb 21 2011 1:16AM
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RudyGarmisch
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What the fuck is the point of this thread then?
Feb 21 2011 1:27AM
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Phil-X-
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dude thats brutal, be like im sorry mom i know i shouldnt have lied too you, i just didnt want my friends to drive drunk and i got scared that you would be mad at me about it.

yea you sound like a bitch but hey, its your mom so who cares? if she has a single ounce of rational thinking in her she shouldnt be too mad
Feb 21 2011 1:29AM
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Mike-O
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You can't ask people to comment if they want to, but ask them to refrain from criticism at the same time. This is a discussion forum, not LiveJournal.
Feb 21 2011 1:32AM
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skier_boy26
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Lets see.
You blatantly lie to your mom. Strike 1.
You are hanging out with people (albeit with good intentions) who smoke, drink, whatever, and your parents busted you for that same shit earlier. Strike 2.
Contextually, to them it probably reads like: you are hanging out with people who are getting blazed and drinking hard. You have been known to do that and have been busted, and despite what you think they don't like that shit (I don't blame them one bit). Essentially it has been a bad crowd which had been almost undoubtedly influential in you being a dumbass (seriously, who the fuck shoplifts?) and here you are lying to her about the situation that you were in. Yea, good intentions aside, there is little, if anything, for them to grasp on to when it comes to trusting you. Strike 3.
Feb 21 2011 1:36AM
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daskis
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I can relate to having tough parents. It's hard and I've had to do my fair share of lying, though I try not to tell any lies to them anymore. I actually did read that all. You did do the right thing in offering to be dd... though it sucks. Your parents do have your best interests in mind though, even if it doesn't always seem that way. Hang in there. Depending on how old you are, you might be off on your own soon. If you are trying to get away from your old lifestyle completely, I'd suggest hanging out with different people.
Feb 21 2011 1:46AM
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O.RLY
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I don't understand, there were no sparknotes..
Feb 21 2011 2:02AM
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shortdawg
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OP is 12 years old
Feb 21 2011 2:04AM
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O.RLY
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Your icon reminds me of a pig someone dressed up.
Feb 21 2011 2:12AM
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thugaim
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Your parents sound like cunts.
Feb 21 2011 2:21AM
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gus555
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you icon reminds me of a pineapple
Feb 21 2011 2:46AM
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O.RLY
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yes
Feb 22 2011 12:17AM
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Funkadelic
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I feel you man, I have hardass parents and did my fair share of lying through high school. I definitely feel bad about it, but they were unreasonable. All you can really do is take it as a learning experience. I understand that when I have kids I won't be super strict with them because it will only push them farther away from me (not that I'm anywhere near the type of person to be strict about anything anyway).
Feb 22 2011 12:27AM
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BMB
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oh yeah? well he did ElGato.  At least he is comfortable enough in telling NS what happened and how he feels.  This thread is not stupid and neither is he.  Everyone makes mistakes, we all know it's part of growing up.  We all have different ways of dealing with them and a harmless thread on NSG is some people's way of expressing themselves.  I totally understand why you lied to your Mom, we're teenagers and for one reason or another we think we can get away with stuff and sometimes we do. It's what you do and how you handle yourself after a mistake that shows your true character.  I'm sure we all can relate to OP in some way or another. ElGato just needs to check his ego.
Feb 22 2011 1:11AM
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wuj.
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If you're friends were high it would have been no problem.
Feb 22 2011 1:59AM
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