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Raz.
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So recently I have slumped into a pretty hefty depression. Its been getting worse as time go's by, and almost nothing helps and i feel like an asshole because I literally just had the greatest weekend of my life and I should be really grateful but before I even made it home I was already back in a state of depression. I'm only 15 so I'm pretty positive nobody would take me serious so I havent really talked too anybody at all. I was reading today that 1 out of 3 gay teens attempt suicide and that really freaked me out because I dont ever want this too go that far but at tge same time I feel like it would be stupid and useless to say anything. I really dont know what to do, I always feel insecure and like everybody is against me, (god i sound so fucking emo). so if there is anyone who has been through something like this and has any advice I would really appreciate it.
Jan 31 2011 10:28PM
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GayWolf420
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I haven't but all I can say is keep your head up and think positive. I've been working on that and saying it a ton recently. It really helps you out and makes you happeh.
Jan 31 2011 10:30PM
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PON3
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dude its just all part of being a teenager. ive been there and done that when i was 15...im 20 now almost 21 and im lovin life
Jan 31 2011 10:30PM
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Rumi.
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that sucks man really don't have any advice though

+vibes anywayz, go do something fun

Jan 31 2011 10:31PM
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ORDEAL
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Dude. I know what you feel like. I was pretty depressed in the fall. Then I went skiing. That helped me a lot but I don't know if it would work for you. I just went back with my friends an just hung out (no pun intended). I just forgot about my problems because I was with people who cared for me. And don't forget that. There are people who care for you. I apologize for the choppiness, it's hard to put into words. Hoped that helped :)
Jan 31 2011 10:32PM
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Brock.
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Or anybody for that matter... this is a huge factor.
Jan 31 2011 10:32PM
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max...
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talk to your friends or older siblings (older siblings you are close with are extremely helpful for situations like this).  don't wait till your feelings get worse- get help now.  teachers you trust or guidance counselors are great too.
in the mean time +major vibes.  it takes a lot of guts to tell anybody, even on the internet, about this kind of stuff.
just know that things will get better.
Jan 31 2011 10:32PM
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soulskier
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i would suggest talking to your parents or a counselor, as much as i love NS i don't think they can handle an issue like this
Jan 31 2011 10:33PM
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Heart
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as difficult as it may be, you should definitely talk to someone you trust about it, whether it be your parents, or a trusted adult.

i myself went through a depression phase in elementary school, a symptom of my ocd medication, (i didnt realize what i was feeling at the time), and it got to the point where i was suicidal. thankfully, my family noticed my strange behavior and took me to the doctor. i switched medication, and things improved drastically. thank god too, life is awesome now.
Jan 31 2011 10:35PM
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hoodratz47
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shit sucks man...    being a teenager your hormones are fucking whacky... it will get to you... hell iam 25 and i still have my moody moments.  try being more active and just not thinking about. it..

killing yourself is never and answer. its slefish. and wrong(  but if youhave a terminal disese yes go for it).  life sucks ass at times.. but its the fat ass sucking that makes the good parts in life. seem so much better...   shit man. findsome one youcan be close with.   help them so they can help you... 

keep it real bro...  and big ups to being confident in who you are at such a young age

Jan 31 2011 10:36PM
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Steve-Brown
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well, figure out why you feel this way first then....talk to someone about it.

you got the first part done by recognizing it, but you just need to figure out why, ask your buds too

unless you already know, and if you cant fix it on your own go to your parents or counsler

Jan 31 2011 10:36PM
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Raz.
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well my parents know im gay, and a few people. i dont tell my parents about depression because they dont take anything seriousely, and my bro doesent know im gay because he is legit a "gaybasher". and i wish i could just hang out with my friends or ride, but i just moved and really just am not in the mood too make friends, and I am 2-3 hours away from any snow so thats out of the question
Jan 31 2011 10:38PM
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corona
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embedding is disabled, but here:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WlBiLNN1NhQ
Jan 31 2011 10:39PM
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JahJahBinks
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If you have good friends that actually care about you, talk to them
Jan 31 2011 10:42PM
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Jahrassicpark
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Let someone know, or a few of your friends know, or talk to a close friend that is a girl about it, the worst thing to do is bottle up you emotions and keep them secret, if you let someone know it'll be a huge weight off your shoulders.
Jan 31 2011 10:42PM
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1337
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I'm diagnosed with depression, it sucks. I'm still struggling with life and i've been out of school and the swing of things since May. Talking to someone always helps, wether its your parents, councilor, a friend, or a completely random person, venting + getting an opinion is great. Feel free to PM me whenever if you want to talk, I'm always open for discussion.

You should definitely talk to your parents or doctor about what's going on. Get a prescription for medication, it can be really helpful.
Jan 31 2011 10:42PM
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Anathema
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just hang in there. i promise when everybody is out of the whole teenage biggotry phase, youll feel like the world is a more accepting place. i used to get bullied a lot in highschool. not physically bullied, but in person im a pretty nice, easy going person, and i used to get taken advantage of by my friends. people mooching for money cause they know i'd give in, people cracking jokes at my expensive cause they know i wouldn't fight back. it's rough times, being a teen. trust me though, things will get better as you, and everybody around you matures. one of the coolest kids i knew back in college was gay, and he had a pile of friends. nothing to be ashamed of. he was so nice it was contageous, and by no means did he make other people uncomfortable about it, or make us feel like he was hitting on us. just one of the guys, aside from the fact that he often went out with another crew to gay bars here and there.

long story short, just keep on truckin. there's light at the end of the tunnel. be optimistic, and believe me when i say that things will work out for the best.

Jan 31 2011 10:43PM
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.Ian.
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Bro i know just what you feel like. I used to have like extreme depression and shit, it sucks. I was more on the emo/ cutting side of depression. I'm a pretty big dude and all the kids used to pick on me and I developed eating disorders and had to go to therapy and take a bunch of shitty pills. Talk to some friends that you can trust and they won't tell anyone if you haven't already. Bein 15 is tough and theres a shitload of stress about everything. You can always talk to me or pm me if you want. We're all here for you.
Jan 31 2011 10:44PM
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Jahrassicpark
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Sorry I didn't see your post above so mine probably doesn't help.
Jan 31 2011 10:45PM
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evanxmcr
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pm me too if u need someone to talk to, ive been there, still there and it can suck, its been said but talk to pplz dont keep it inside and if people give you shit dont keep them around find new people because those other people arent worth it.
Jan 31 2011 10:50PM
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snowdon
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Being 15 is pretty rough for everyone as it is, and I'm sure being gay doesn't make it any easier. Try to keep your chin up and remember that things wont be this way forever. Shit always gets better in time. I wouldn't go back to being a teenager even if I could, and I really had an easy childhood/adolescence. It's just hard times. If you think there's *any* possibility you'd end up committing suicide, you need to talk to someone, like now, don't worry about if people will take you seriously. So often when a person kills himself, the people closest to him say, "I had no idea anything was even wrong." It's a shame; who knows how things might have turned out if the kid had opened up to someone. Don't be that kid. I'd start with your parents, maybe sit down with them one at a time so they're less likely to brush it off, and start the conversation out with something like, "Hey, mom, I was wondering if I could come to you with some problems I've been having lately and it's important to me that you take it seriously." Lay your cards out on the table first so she knows you mean it, and hopefully she WILL take you seriously after doing so. (Or your dad, whoever.) If they don't though, what about a high school counselor? Further, meds are great, but they aren't for everyone. Consider looking into that possibility, though you'll need your parents on board if you were to see a psychiatrist.
Jan 31 2011 10:59PM
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B-runge
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I think i might be depressed, im not really sure. When i start thinking life sucks i just tell myself that, as cliche as it sounds, there is so much fucked up shit happening in this world that a middle/upperclass white kid should be grateful for every fucking second of his life. Then i get high and look at nature, go skiing, mountain biking and realize how amazing life is. (yes i still feel that way after im not high and doing those things whilst sober will yield the same results)

the stress of being a gay teenager who hides it from people is probably something i dont understand though, and also it would be pretty depressing to suck dick at graff if i did it....

Jan 31 2011 11:02PM
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KrazyistKarl
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wow im really impressed at the genuine helpful responses in here. I was depressed for a long time and still am but not to the same extent i once was. I was going through some really tough months, actually called the suicide helpline more then once and finally one day i ended up admitting myself to the hospital before i did something to myself. I wasn't really sure what else to do. I saw a psychiatrist and right away he wanted to put me on anti depressants. The only people that new about this all were my ex and her parents (who i was closer to then my own parents). They ended up telling my parents. My parents confronted me about checking myself into the hospital and I was angry at first but relieved that they knew and really found out for the first time that they might have some shred of love for me. I ended up going to a councillor twice a week for a few months. It was a little hard to get the time off work all the time but i managed to without anyone else knowing, cause its embarrassing right? The counceling really helped a lot for me, just having someone to talk to that I could trust and get everything off my chest. I suggest you try counselling, its not for everyone but you wont know unless you try. Like i said too, the suicide helpline is an option too if you feel more comfortable talking on the phone. lastly dont make the mistake of smoking weed to numb the pain. I became far too dependent on it. find something active to do, for me it was longboarding
Jan 31 2011 11:16PM
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gus555
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don't know if this will help you but i try to get stoked off the littlest things and i'm never really sad/mad/ depressed. but vibes man hang in there
Jan 31 2011 11:21PM
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wait.what
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Yeah man, I've been there, I had an immune system disorder that caused the hair on my body to fall out leaving me with bald patches on my head, no eyelashes and not much of eyebrows.
Everyone would make fun of me and call me names and tell me I was shedding and tell me it was disgusting.... for me killing myself was right around the corner. It wasn't just the fact of people pointing it out and making fun of me, the disease causes depression, anxiety and neurosis which didn't help at all.
What i'm getting at is, with time you'll accept yourself and develop ways to help yourself cope, I took up lots of sports and music to help me, and then I got a girlfriend who always helps to boost my self perspective and I am feeling much better today.

Goodluck man ++vibes.
Jan 31 2011 11:35PM
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BEARS.
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cheer up :)

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Jan 31 2011 11:37PM
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wait.what
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I became dependant on weed for happiness for a few years too, it really sucked :[
Jan 31 2011 11:39PM
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wait.what
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I also dpended on weed far too much for a couple of years, it really sucked, but in a way helped me through it.
Jan 31 2011 11:40PM
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Blake.P
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I kinda did too. It wasn't the actual weed, it was the experiences and good times I had with it. Then I got in a ton of trouble, almost kicked out of school twice, and had to stop using. I became somewhat depressed after that because I had lost somethig that I enjoyed and was social with. It sucks but you just gotta keep on going
Jan 31 2011 11:44PM
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JIBpsy^^
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SEALS FTW also those pics of the huskys reminded me off the whistler dog thing  FUCK.
Jan 31 2011 11:48PM
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squibble
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everytime you start thinking negatively block it out - this is a learned thing

ask some one for help, dont think just do it


Jan 31 2011 11:49PM
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neutralzombie
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i started depression at about 14, so it's been ongoing battle for about 11 years now. what's helped the most was finding my school psych, who i got freaking lucky with, having had an instant connection. sometimes you gotta hop around but, basically i've had free(because he works in my school) therapy sessions for 2 years, and he even continued to let me visit after i graduated school. a lot of sorting out depression is working on how you process your thoughts. obviously every case can be different from the last, but depression, generally is environmental, and being a teenager doesn't help. so i suggest go talk to your school counselor, or try finding a free service for teens in your area. we have tons here, head and hands, and telephone jeunesse. the hard part is sitting in your first session, but it's probably the biggest relief ever. i had a pretty rough time 15-19. if you ever need anything, just pm me if you wanna talk, or have some questions or whatever. i'm strictly anti antidepressants as well. i'm kind of somewhat of a 'ingest' only natural products and try to steer away from altering things...and i don't think 90% of people might need it. i'm getting by without em. and i still have bad days. but it helps times a million knowing why you function the way you do.
Jan 31 2011 11:53PM
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KrazyistKarl
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i spent most of my time alone getting high and longboarding and i just had more time to think. i really dont think weed helps at all. I ended up losing a lot of my good friends during that time and still havent really gained any TRUE friends back, ones that i fully trust. I made smoking buddy s and drinking buddys, but they aren't the same
Jan 31 2011 11:57PM
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chardi
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i think everyone has felt the way you do at some point, but if you really need help, get a dog.
Jan 31 2011 11:59PM
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JIBpsy^^
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never use substance when your depresed it leads to addiction. really i think substance should only be used about once a month if you are mental healthy.
Feb 1 2011 12:01AM
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Montville57
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I can kind of relate to you (I'm not gay) but I don't think I was depressed I was just so anxious about everything. Even if it wasn't a big deal I would freak out about it. I know it's not the same thing as being depressed but I think i can help you. I talked to my parents about all the shut that I was feeling anxious about and they called up a therapist an i went to meeting with him for like 2 years. I glad to say it helped me sooo much and I think it could help you also. Just stay tuff and be positive and you will get through it. vibes
Feb 1 2011 12:07AM
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Montville57
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I can kind of relate to you (I'm not gay) but I don't think I was depressed I was just so anxious about everything. Even if it wasn't a big deal I would freak out about it. I know it's not the same thing as being depressed but I think i can help you. I talked to my parents about all the shut that I was feeling anxious about and they called up a therapist an i went to meeting with him for like 2 years. I glad to say it helped me sooo much and I think it could help you also. Just stay tuff and be positive and you will get through it. vibes
Feb 1 2011 12:07AM
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RoofDaRoofieDogg
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i know how you feel. ive tried to kill myself 3 times and am currently on depression pills. Don't give up on life dude, it will get better.
Feb 1 2011 12:11AM
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JIBpsy^^
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Shit bro stick in there and dont do anything stupid. suicide is a permanent solution to a no permanent problem.
Feb 1 2011 12:16AM
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RoofDaRoofieDogg
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Its hard, But I'm pulling thru.
Feb 1 2011 12:19AM
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JIBpsy^^
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Super glad if u ever need anyone to talk to just PM me. Same goes for anyone on NS I sm no therapist but I will try to help
Feb 1 2011 12:25AM
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Montville57
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Also I always find stuff to look forward to and I always try to stay busy. In the winter my school has ski club so we go every Saturday for 7 weeks which I am always pumped for. And in the summer I work with my dads landscaping business so I can go buy stuff to stay occupied I guess and in the summer me and my friend ( gus555: sorry for the name drop Gus) ride bikes for a while and go over his house for summer sesh's. Try new sports also. I think I'm gunna try and get in skate boarding again this summer. So always get excited for stud and never give up
Feb 1 2011 12:32AM
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RoofDaRoofieDogg
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Alright, +k
Feb 1 2011 1:03AM
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Canadaski
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go to whistler and ski deep pow
Feb 1 2011 1:29AM
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bakedpow
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That just made my day sir. Thank you
Feb 1 2011 1:32AM
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Cufe.
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go to the "Maximum Relax" thread, that will let you chill. Also, think about skiing, that's how i got though all my sad times, now i'm stoked!
Feb 1 2011 1:32AM
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bakedpow
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Oh and something that really helps me is get up to the mountain and get out there. If you have backcountry gear go out where there is no one around except you and your buddies and just chill and listen to the silence. It's something taken for granted.
Feb 1 2011 1:33AM
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Raz.
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Wow i didnt expect NS too actually be helpful. I uploaded my playlist that i listen too a lot whenever I'm feelin pretty helpful, and its actually a really good playlist.






Feb 1 2011 3:36PM
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WAWARIDER
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Dont do anything youll regret or even turn to suicide ....... A kid at my school recently took his life because he thought noone cared for him ... But everyone at my school said how much they missed him or wished he was still alive .... It shows that no matter how bad things r people still care about you , you just have to realize it
Feb 1 2011 3:43PM
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ButteredToast.
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I think I've been feeling the beginnings of depression for the last 4-5 months or so.

I don't really have a reason to but idk.

I hope it goes away.
Feb 1 2011 4:19PM
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