So she's catholic...

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...and I'm...not catholic.

Basically, I've been seeing a girl at my college. She's a conservative catholic school girl (not the slutty kind), and I relate to her at a personal and intellectual level (unleash the flaming). I don't mind taking it slow, she's really fun, its worth it.

But I'm Jewish.

This girl used to work at a convent for silent nuns. Goes to church every Sunday morning. She once stood me up for lunch because a meeting with a faith group went long.

I know she's into me, she's always eager to see me...I just don't know how to delicately inform her that I don't accept Jesus as my lord and savior.

I haven't been seeing her long enough that I've had to lie about anything. There was a point in the conversation last time I saw her that I had to side-step a little bit, and it made me feel cheap. So I definitely want to get this over with before I get more involved with her.

Any help/suggestions? Serious thoughts are really appreciated. If you call me a fag for actually liking an individual, well, I really don't need to address why I'll be ignoring you. Thanks

Feb 7 2010 10:19PM

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Sveetski

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flop it out and show her your cut

Feb 9 2010 12:31PM

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eNeRGy

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If she really cares about you, then she wont care about what religion you are. Her parents probably will, but well cross that bridge when we get there.

Feb 9 2010 1:07PM

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Ski_The_East10

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oh no everybody watch out its the grammar police!

Feb 9 2010 2:13PM

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OhMyBosh

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Spelling, not grammar.

Feb 9 2010 2:20PM

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hartig

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exactly

Feb 9 2010 2:45PM

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omIV

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Okay so update.

I ran into the girl at the library today. We ended up talking for like 45 minutes in the library stacks, then moved to the cafe for another hour. We got into some really deep stuff about our families and lives, and basically I'm even more enamored, and am convinced that she's the greatest girl I've ever met.

The discussion got to how I wanted to move to South Africa (true), and she raised the whole issue of apartheid. I asked how that was any different than Israel, which certainly has a divided society. She said she didn't really know either way, not knowing anything about it, and I responded that I had been there and that it was a beautiful place, and to embrace beauty you have to accept its flaws. So she asked me if I was Jewish, and I responded yes.

She wasn't phased, eventually asking me a few questions about my observance. I answered that I had come from a fairly conservatively Jewish family, but was questioning organized religion.

So she hit me with: "Do you believe in God?"

I answered: "Albert Einstein once said that 'Something deeply hidden must be behind things.'"

She seemed to like that answer, and eventually we moved off the topic. I'm a little dissapointed that I couldn't deal with it on my own terms, but then again she seemed accepting enough. So all-in-all I'd say it was something of a non-issue. There is no doubt that she embraces Catholic doctrine a fair bit, but it didn't get in the way of at least having a really animated conversation. Which ultimately is the most important aspect of a relationship, actually enjoying the other intellectually.

So we're not "official" or anything, but I think that staying to talk with me in the library cafe until 2:40, nearly an hour past the actual library's closing (its a 24-hour cafe), means something. I understand how most of yall are interested in hooking up and getting tail-I was there too-but this is so much better. I guess you'll have to take my word for it.

Thanks a ton for your well-intended help, and I'll be sure to hit yall up with an update if something comes up.

Feb 10 2010 3:17AM

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congrats man! and you're right, the fact that you can enjoy each others company and have deep conversation is the most important part

Feb 10 2010 7:02AM

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gotta break her like a wild stallion

Feb 10 2010 8:11AM

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qft

Feb 10 2010 8:14AM

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saskskier

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That's great to hear man. Hope things continue to go well for you.

Feb 10 2010 9:10AM

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EasyEast

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this thread title is just classic i had no idea what to expect opening it up haha

Feb 10 2010 9:19AM

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PhaedeD

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im not sure i know what that means... please enlighten me!

Feb 10 2010 4:56PM

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karmagod

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It means quote for truth.

Although I always used to think it was quit fucking talking. Needless to say I was always backwards.

Feb 10 2010 5:33PM

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Word dude sounds tight. Congrats!

Feb 10 2010 9:49PM

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if you get to the point where she'll make you a sandwich without being asked(forced), then you've got a keeper. you must test her

Mar 10 2010 12:05PM

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Hahaha

Mar 10 2010 12:09PM

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nice irrelevant bumpage.

update from OP?

Mar 10 2010 1:03PM

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JETS

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I'm sorry man...

My girlfriend is catholic and I stab her guts at least 3 times a week.

I think you should branch out a little more.

Variety is the spice of life.

Mar 10 2010 2:11PM

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hahahahah

Mar 10 2010 2:20PM

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omIV

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To put it simply, there was a hitch. There wasn't another guy, and she has very clearly demonstrated that she trusts me/is comfortable with me. We're sort of in this limbo where I asked her out on a formal date, "X" happened, and now there is this weird thing hanging in the air where she doesn't want to get involved with me but still likes being around me. Its kind of awkward, but in an unusual way. I can't really describe it here, but the upshot is that I'm disappointed, but I understand. Right now I'm sort of putting a relationship on the back burner, and am just trying to be something of a friend...a friend who doesn't know any of her friends and hangs out with her alone...but a friend nonetheless.

Suffice it to say that I'm still hung up on her, I can't have her, but she still likes spending time with me.

Sucks.

Mar 11 2010 4:44AM

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thanks for the laugh fellow skier

Mar 11 2010 5:31AM

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ummm. if she's super religious, you either have no chance, or she's date you to spite her family, if she's the naughty kind... but yeah. if my super virgin 26 year old guy friend that i've had a crush on since i was 14, is telling me the truth, he didn't date me because i don't like jesus, nor his religion. and it depends on a level, how religious you are too, and things do get complicated with the families. my boyfriends family is catholic, and they don't let me sleep over, i'm 24, and until we get married, if we do, i might one day gain that ounce of respect they can shell out. my brother on the other hand, his first girlfriend was jewish, and they dated for almost two years i think, but his parents didn't want him because he wasn't jewish. you know, there's so many lines in religion, that it's hard to say exactly what will go down.

Mar 11 2010 7:04AM

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neutralzombie

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and today i learned how to read the last page, and thread creation dates.

Mar 11 2010 7:06AM

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thats the worst bro. maybe you could force her hand? tell her that its hard for you to hang out with her and not be going out with her and see how she reacts.

Mar 11 2010 7:12AM

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^^ yeah you have to do something else. its not your purpose to serve her as a friend if you want more.

thats not helping you

Mar 11 2010 8:03AM

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killa_cam

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face fuck her please

Mar 11 2010 9:44AM

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wameron

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Catholics and Jews are the most compatable actually because on the religious level she believes every thing you do. So I say go for it, I'm catholic and I've dated a few Jewish girls.

Mar 11 2010 9:50AM

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karmagod

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Is is cuz you're circumcised?

Mar 11 2010 7:06PM

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