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theres a difference between drinking and "drinking" college the past few years have tought me that you can drink to get shitty or drink just watching the game or just to injoy it, we would have 3 oclock beers at the end of the year with my roomates and buddies to lighten the mood and chill before classes or whatever or throw a few beers in to a bubba keg and throw the frisby around, my girlfriend also doesnt like when im at school at drink that much, like get shitty but doesnt really mind when im just chlling having a beer or two, it took her a while to realize the difference, from my experience most girls just drink to get messed up and see guys being the same way too, it seems like it takes girls a little bit longer to grasp the difference, as simple of a situation as it sounds
try making a compromise if you can contain your self you wont give up drinking but you will give up getting redicilious shitty as much
OK the AA thing is up to you, since it sounds like you can't stop, and looks like you've rationalized it into "a social thing" you should probably look into identifying if you are addicted or not. the girl thing on the other hand...it sounds like you've put the girl into a nurturing mother position, which to a girl, especially a 16 yr old, is probably unatractive. you're dealing with the problem from weakness when you get someone else to help you instead of helping yourself, and thats unatractive to women if they have to help you. so, a suggestion would be to remove this girl from your problem and if needed, involve someone who you are not romantically/sexually interested in. hopefully that helps. good luck man, and try to identify why you drink habitually, i guarantee theres a deeper reason than "a social thing" such as low confidence, a poor self image, etc.
well thats a gnarly situation, its going to be hard but if you really really want this girl then you need to sit her down giver her something to drink (non-alcoholic) and tell her whatsup and settle things with her and decide if she wants to stay a very good friend or a girlfriend.
best of luck on your cituation
i've gone to AA and NA since i was 16, i didnt give a fuck and still wanted to get high so it did nothing, my life went to hell and now at 21 i decided to give AA/NA a REAL shot and it is definately helping me save my own life.
its ok to have your own opinion but dont try to dissuade someone from something that could possibly save there life....
and trust me, if you think for one second you might drink to much, or have a problem with drinking you definately do, and AA can help you if you want it to.
you are not to young man, do what you do, i know youngins like to buck and your prolly not trying to hear what aa/na has to offer but if your serious about your wanting to stop drinking its worth a try....
whats the worst thats going to happen? your gonna leave the room and say "well that was stupid"?
after thinking on this for a minute i really dont think AA and shit is what you need.
you need to quit being a va-jay jay to this chick, if shes your friend its whatever but girls do not find that shit attractive.
keep having fun with your friends and maybe tone the drinking down a little bit. like the other dudes said in here (a trust me a lot of these guys know what the fuck there talking about) you have plenty of time in your 20s to go searching for the right girl, just go out and have fun.
and i dont want to make assumptions cuz i hate when people say they can read me and its totally wrong, but are you thinking you might be drinking to much cuz you love the attension you get from this girl when you talk to her about your problem with drinking?