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Canuker
Posts: 4730 - Karma: 165

im feeling really down lately. It seems nobody wants to hang out with me anymore and it fucking sucks. Im pretty sure most of you have like a BEST freind, like you kinda live at there house, you never ask to chill you just kinda show up at eachothers houses, you do like everything together. well i used to have a freind like that ( for most of elementry school until grade 9) but then we just grew apart and we dont really talk anymore( we'll call him freind 1). anyways so last year ( school year) i started being freinds with a guy ive none since grade 7 but we've never really hung out. All of a sudden we became like best freinds and hung out  almost everyday. we did this all summer long then about a week before school he never wanted to hang out anymore, like id call hima nd he'd always have an excuse not to hang out and its been like this ever since.

it really fucking sucks. Like were in the same group of freinds ( a closer group in a bigger group type thing) this small group is like 7 of us and im starting to feel like the oddman out. Ive spent the last couple weekends doing nothing and its not fun.

today is a perfect example, i just called him and asked if he wanted to chill tonight but he said he couldnt because of hokcey practice.

- first off he doesnt have practice tonight because in our group there is 2 guys on the same team and they were all excited because it got cancelled. so i new for a fact i got cancelled and he was just lieing.....again.

- second off, even if he did have practice. that takes up like 90 minutes off your night, not the whole damn thing.

im not mad at him for not  wanting to chill, like if he doesnt like spending time together as much then thats his choice. also i kinda realized how freind 1 must have felt because i am in the same position as he was, when i said we grew apart it was mostly me not wanting to chill with him but he still did but he eventually gave up.

I know im in higschool and people are changing and i probably wont talk to 95% precent of these people after highschool, but still. staying home on fridays and saturday nights SUCKS. not haveing a best freind SUCKS. i really miss doing lots of stuff and having a best freind.

anyways, i know you cant really help i just had to vent and get it off my chest. I wish i could just know why people dont want to chill with me.

Dec 5 2008 3:27PM
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HenniferLopez
Posts: 1319 - Karma: 136
eh..I think everyone goes through this stage...it happened to me. It'll pass soon.
Dec 5 2008 3:34PM
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mellifluous
Posts: 1682 - Karma: 68
aww....

i switched schools this year, old best friend started hanging out with a complete and utter bitch that i hated.. oh well i just blew her off and got new friends at my school

i know that sounds too easy and that you can't really do that in this situation, but (forgive me if i missed this) have you straight up asked him why hes so fucking busy lately? if he lies, tell him you know he's lying..

it def sucks not having a best friend, or anything to do on weekends. try reaching out at your school and meeting some new people?

sorry if im no help though
Dec 5 2008 3:37PM
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Mike34113
Posts: 1088 - Karma: 112
yeah same thing

itll get better
Dec 5 2008 3:43PM
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robtheslobonacob
Posts: 471 - Karma: 17
Dude the same motherfucking thing happened to me senior year of highschool. I was best friends with this kid who was a junior when i was a senior. Around this time of year all the college applications and shit were going on and he all the sudden decided he "needed to hang out with kids his own age" and we went from chilling alllll the time to never and it got so bad at a point that we grew to hate each other.  Thats when i attempted to rekindle old friendships, and hang out with people i was friends with but not best friends, moral of story by the time i got to college i was back on good terms with the kid but senior year we weren't even speaking, so get out there call some other kids and dont cling to that "friend 1" cuz theres mad people out there to chill with.
Dec 5 2008 3:43PM
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Canuker
Posts: 4730 - Karma: 165

no you did help, thanks. And yea ive been really thinking of calling him out on it. Like i would much orefer if he said " i dont really want to hang out" or something rather than lie.

and the whole new freinds thing i dont know im a pretty social guy and have alot of freinds ( like aqaitenses, sorry no idea how to spell that, these people would be in the larger group of freinds). but like i said no really good freinds. but since i know most of the people in my grade i already know if we have shit in common or not. and i like spending time with the guys in my group it just seems they dont like spending time with me as much. but we do chill sometimes.

Dec 5 2008 3:45PM
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Sewardo
Posts: 1404 - Karma: 29
i know how it is man. i used to have that a bit in highschool. now that i moved on to uni it sucks even more tho. i have no tight bros or anything cuz i moved to a new city for uni and i live off campus with my rents for this year.  so alllll the kids i know from rez parties i go in to dont bother callin me cuz its such a stretch. so i  have been stuck with the same shit over and over again.....i cant wait till i can ski and just chill with some real homies
Dec 5 2008 3:46PM
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FapMasterFLEX
Posts: 608 - Karma: 333
doood! i hear ya bro. im feelin the saaame way. no one calls me any more to hang out and i was hookin up with this girl for almost a month then i go on facebook yesterday and find out she got back together with he ex. i have no group either. i used to but all of a sudden i got like kicked out. hahha idk what i did?  sooo idk ive been skiing and working alot though. it sucks, i gotta ski by myself the two other kids i usualy go with are out untill january ish. the drive up sucks but it really makes me feel good cuz i get meet ppl and just have a great time. then it sucks when i have to go back to school. well i only have to make the rest of the year im a senior so college is holdin me in there haha.
Dec 5 2008 3:47PM
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Sewardo
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i had a group back home^^^ and now i miss them. there was only like 4 or so of us but lookin back they were tight. i just hate bein here now cuz nobody calls me, nobody messages me and yet they all say "they miss seein me around rez". fuck thiss
Dec 5 2008 3:50PM
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mellifluous
Posts: 1682 - Karma: 68
least i could do...


and i've called a lot of people out on shit like that before, they dont know what to say. best not to do it over the internet, they usually just go offline or whatever.
i actually did it to the person who ditched me for the other person, i called her out on it and she said she was sorry and was getting sidetracked with her new school.
so we chilled once, and that was it.. havent spoken to her in about 3 months
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Dec 5 2008 3:51PM
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patrickstar
Posts: 486 - Karma: 20
well spoken
Dec 5 2008 3:52PM
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Sewardo
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hah yah man, skiing homies are where its atttt
Dec 5 2008 3:56PM
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mmallender.
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dude the worst is when you go to one school, and then your best friend goes to another, on the other side of the country..... i cant even begin to explain how frustrating that is...
Dec 5 2008 3:58PM
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Nicholas.
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yeah happened to me at the beginning of high school too, i turned into kinda a loser type kid and i just stayed home and played video games cause no one called me anymore but then junior year i started partying and stuff with kids and was fine from then on.

same thing with college now cause i dont go to a big university and i live off campus i dont meet anyone at all so my closest friend is probably my brother who i live with.
Dec 5 2008 4:02PM
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Brows.
Posts: 1497 - Karma: 13
i know what its like..... but if your bro cant hang out all the time get a girlfriend and that might make your friend jealous.... plus no more boring weekends
Dec 5 2008 4:09PM
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Brows.
Posts: 1497 - Karma: 13
i know what its like..... but if your bro cant hang out all the time get a girlfriend and that might make your friend jealous.... plus no more boring weekends
Dec 5 2008 4:13PM
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BennyV
Posts: 569 - Karma: 11
Turn that frown upside down!!!!
Dec 5 2008 4:13PM
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Canuker
Posts: 4730 - Karma: 165

thanks for the advice. hopefully this just passes

Dec 5 2008 4:17PM
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joemarky
Posts: 38 - Karma: 9
Your story makes me sad.
Dec 5 2008 9:23PM
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KLovelace
Posts: 2118 - Karma: 289
sounds like middle school to me... i.e. verry emo.
im not tryin to give you shit cause i understand that bullshit of being 12/13 yrs old.  good luck.. if you're friends are ditching you though.. and not being homies.. well then they really aren't worth your time at all.  go make some sick new homies...
Dec 5 2008 9:27PM
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Progresso
Posts: 56 - Karma: 10
I think you are me. The same exact thing has been happening to me since this summer. It does suck.
Dec 5 2008 9:44PM
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Progresso
Posts: 56 - Karma: 10
Sorry for the double post but it's not happening with one specific person, it's all my friends in general. Seriously I don't remember the last time somebody called me and wanted to do something.
Dec 5 2008 9:45PM
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twix_182
Posts: 9248 - Karma: 27
in middle school that happened to me. retty much had at least a year of noone t ohang with. i guess just start talkin to more people. find people u click with and hang with em more. it sucks, i know, but all u really gotta do is talk to people and find people with similar interests
Dec 5 2008 9:48PM
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Aerozol
Posts: 1124 - Karma: 488
The best advice I can think of is to get through it however you can right now, and to always keep in mind that it'll inevitably pass.

I got pretty fucked by my tight circle of friends when I was 16 or so, but I actually hang out with a lot of them again now. It really really sucks while it happens, but you'll find other people with similar interests in a little bit anyway
Dec 5 2008 9:58PM
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doublexl
Posts: 8407 - Karma: 26
man, my best bro is always making exuses not to hang out, just so he can hang out with his girlfriend and shit, so i just said, fuck it. ive been completely alienated from him ever since. and i totally understand hanging out with her, but the amount of time he spends with her is ridiculous. i just said whatever, when you come out of that spell, come find me and well go smoke a blunt before you lost them balls.
Dec 6 2008 2:23AM
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