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University vs. long term relationships.

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MNS
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im going next year and leaving my girlfriend in my home town then shes going to come with me next year. anyone else done it? how long did you make it. gonna be tough.

Nov 3 2008 2:42AM
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Rainbow*Stylin
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good luck dude... that sounds vicious... i broke up with my girl before i moved to utah from ny... she wasnt following me though... that sounds a lil sketch, no hate on you but im pretty sure your gonna get wasted and get with some chick
Nov 3 2008 2:55AM
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MNS
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hahahaha thanks for the confidence hahaahaha
Nov 3 2008 2:59AM
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Campeador
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bad idea, I can tell you from personal experience, really bad idea hahaha. same exact situation as you but it was last year.

But fuck it, what do I know? If you think you can pull it off go for it.
Nov 3 2008 2:59AM
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Fish_Sandwich.
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Me and girl had been dating for a year this september.  I left in September, we're still legit as fuck, just don't be a bitch and you can make it work fine.  My girlfriend is a year older though, she's just getting an AA then we gonna go somewhere next year probably unless she goes to a private specialty school in which case I guess I'd be long distance then but whatever, you can make it work if you want to.  But if you aren't 100% then you gonna fuck up son.  And of course she has to be too.....
Nov 3 2008 3:05AM
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Kazabazua
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man as long as you like her enough. if you even have to ask the question if you can do that or not your relationship probably isnt strong enough. i see my gf twice a month now cause she lives in victoria and i live in vancouver. try it out man, its not bad
Nov 3 2008 3:08AM
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dwoods5
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I did it all of last year, and it worked out great, and we're living together now. All I can say is don't let jealousy get the best of you, because when it is long distance like that you tend to get worried what the other person's doing. If you guys really trust each other then it should work out bro. Good luck.
Nov 3 2008 3:10AM
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Fish_Sandwich.
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For sure dude, mad trust gotta be there.

I see my girlfriend for 3 days, twice a month about and it's fine.  We talk ereyday and stuff.
Nov 3 2008 4:26AM
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Parkboy
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such good advice, suspicion and jealousy always just leads to hatred and the end of the relationship
Nov 3 2008 4:38AM
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JonH.A.M.
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yo kid, fuck that your gonna be going to college. trust me u don't want a girl caz there are gonna be so many new girls your dick won't know what the fuck to do. its time to move on and get some new pussy.

that's just my opinion. I don't know how good u and u girl are so don't hate on me for saying that.
Nov 3 2008 9:44AM
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hype
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fuck that! and the fact that she's going to come there next year? i wouldnt bet the farm on it

single is the only way to go through college, trust me especially fresh year
Nov 3 2008 10:21AM
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Jake...
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im with the last 2 posts. you have the entire rest of your life to be tied down to one vagina, be smart about it and dont waste the most enjoyable years of you life in university tied down to one pussy miles away when you are surrrrrounded by multiples of tantalizing vag right infront of your eyes. longest run on sentance ever.
Nov 3 2008 11:53AM
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jfoley019
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well I think we need a little more info before we can decided if this is a good idea... I have seen it go either way. Remember your going to college and you will be going out and partying, making friends... do you really want a girl asking where you been all night, where you are going? Plus if you have a  girl you may miss out on the chance to meet someone else?

Here is a couple questions to keep in mind to make this a education choice

How long have you two been dating?

How far will you be from her?

Is she a nagging girl or is she cool?

Will she make the ride up to see you, or will you have to go home to see her?

How many times will you see each other during the month?

Nov 3 2008 12:52PM
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*V-Love*
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It really depends on how much you and your girl love eachother. I went to college with the guy i was dating and we broke up within 3 weeks because college is supposed to be exciting and a place where you can meet new people. And I felt like a had a shadow holding me back. However, a year later I found my the bf (still together), he lived back home and I went to school and we are still together and weve done the long distance thing for over 2 years. Our long distance is only an hour and a half away though so that helps. Now he even goes to a different college and we are still together so it depends on how much you love eachother and how much she means to you.

Nov 3 2008 12:54PM
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Ben.
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precisely.
Nov 3 2008 1:22PM
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Kazabazua
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do you even go to college... you realize its not as its portrayed in the movies.... we don't even know if this kid has any game either, so its quite possible he won't get laid his first year of college
Nov 3 2008 4:23PM
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soulskier
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not a big fan, she broke up with me during second semester's exam week
about the same situation you have going on


Nov 3 2008 5:02PM
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C.R.E.A.M
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despite what you do unless shes extremly trusting its gonna break her heart to see you leave, same thing happend to me, there are girls out there that see kats like u and me doing that and try to fail them just for fun. I ended up breaking up with her around xmas break cause she was going nuts, and i was only like an hr drive away and saw her on weekends. I loved her alot and never did anything that could be construed as cheating, but it still just drove her nuts when another girl called.
Nov 3 2008 5:14PM
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rightcoastskier
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end it. college is wayyyy to awesome to have a relationship in
Nov 3 2008 6:21PM
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crazyfuck
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been there, done that, and wouldn't recommend it for anyone else. that being said, i wouldn't change what i've done- i gained one of the best friends i've ever had out of the experience, although we're no longer dating. we had a very serious relationship, dated for 4 years, and it was ultimately worth the stress and the hard work as we're still very close, but i would never recommend a similar course of action for anyone else- you have no make your own decisions when it comes to something this serious. not to be dramatic, but you really don't have any idea how hard it is seeing the person you're committed to a couple times a month. there's an immense amount of trust there that you have to be comfortable with or shit WILL hit the fan. i've seen many long-distance relationships fail terribly and consider myself very fortunate to still have such a good friend at the end of it.
Nov 3 2008 6:30PM
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MNS
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we have been adting for 25 months.

shes cool she doesnt nag me much.

she said she wants to come up and visit me at university

we will see each other ever 6-8 weeks. for about 8 months

shes extremely good looking.

if we broke up every guy in the school would go after her right away.

Nov 3 2008 7:06PM
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skituner
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PICS OF GF OR BAN!!! :)
Nov 3 2008 7:11PM
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p-oskier
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If she's like you are telling us just stay with her, you have nothing to lose. Good luck
Nov 3 2008 7:18PM
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MNS
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for what its worth i have this picture or her..

Click for larger image

i dunno if thats the besat part though cause shes got a super nice body especially her bum and shes really cool

Nov 3 2008 7:23PM
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iluvBread
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ya umm disregard the other posts and stay wit her!
Nov 3 2008 7:34PM
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MNS
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yea i cant find any better pictures, that ones ok though
Nov 3 2008 7:38PM
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Kazabazua
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unless your living in rez with a bunch of models then you are wayyy wrong. you can go out to clubs anytime and pick up girls, doesnt have to be college
Nov 3 2008 11:23PM
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snowbladesforlife
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I was going to say she was going to get banged by every black cock in town the second you leave, but after seeing that picture, you're fine, no one will want to touch that thing.
Nov 3 2008 11:25PM
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plorr
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Terrible idea. I made that mistake this semester and it didnt last 2 months. actually i broke up with her beforehand but made the mistake of still letting her visit me and visiting her and staying attached and hooking up and basically ended up having an open relationship. it was great until i found out she fucked like 6 guys in the first month of college and got into hard drugs and shit and basically ended up fucking me over soo bad, 'cuz she didnt tell me any of this until she called me in the middle of the night the day before i was supposed to go up and visit her for halloween and told me not to come up cuz she was with this other douchebag now, even though 3 days earlier shes all like "i still love you i dont wanna lose you" and all this other bullshit.

yea, so i guess my story is a bit extreme, but unless you are legit are in love with her and you know for sure you can trust her and yourself, its a really terrible idea. you dont want to be held down at college like that.
Nov 4 2008 12:02AM
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Kazabazua
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you have to have a mutual agreement... my gf told me she doesnt want any other guys etc etc. which made me feel pretty good and she knew when she met me that i like going out to clubs and picking up girls so she told me i could do that as long as i dont fuck them which i havent i just like getting numbers and shit cause i dont want to get cold with my game while im going out with her.
Nov 4 2008 12:05AM
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Fish_Sandwich.
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Fuck you.
Nov 4 2008 12:06AM
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Alehandro
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yo statement matches your avy hahahaha
Nov 4 2008 12:33AM
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Alehandro
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ahahahahahahahahahahah

looks pretty hot to me
Nov 4 2008 12:36AM
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[MEGAMO]
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a couple of kids i know tried it. no dice. they are now single
Nov 4 2008 12:41AM
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Fish_Sandwich.
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Well we do completely disagree about one thing.
Nov 4 2008 3:13AM
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Steezy_Street
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Id stay with her.. shes a good looker.. besides gives u an excuse to go on a road trip to go see her.. and we all no road trips are the best fun people can have
Nov 4 2008 4:57AM
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JonH.A.M.
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Kid I'm about to graduate college in 2 weeks. you must go to a shitty college then.
Nov 4 2008 10:24AM
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Dick_Squandel
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hey man me and my girl had been dating for close to 3 years when i left for school,  (she is back at home going to community college with a free ride to a state college after that, scholarship thingy) and we are doing great. i would however suggest if you have only been dating for a little or arent that serious then just get out now cuz im telling you sometimes its tough. but it will also help if shes not a crazy bitch and jealous. all in all what im trying to say is if you are serious go for it, she is hot man she seems like a nice catch.
Nov 4 2008 10:45AM
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soulskier
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dude, no
Nov 4 2008 4:07PM
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clrumivier4life
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Me and my gf had gone out for a year before I left for school. She stayed at home commuting to a different college. Now we've been together for over 3 years and on our third round of me being at college and her at home, and its still going great. For us though, we're only an hour away, so I see her every weekend. We switch every weekend with driving up here or back home. If anything, I'm glad I have a girlfriend who doesn't go to the same college, it gives me more time to get my shit done during the week, then the weekends are great when I get to see her.
Nov 4 2008 4:26PM
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Kazabazua
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bahaha fuckin drew
Nov 5 2008 3:57AM
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jayhood
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LMAO funny shit, I would see how it works but if it were me Id end it and see if we can pick it up when she gets to school but shit changes bro shit changes.
Nov 5 2008 4:02AM
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Ben.
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i disagree. if you guys trust each other, youll be fine. i dont think its the temptation that kills most relationships, its when your constantly questioning your significant other because you dont trust what they are up to. im in montana now and my gf is in wisconsin and weve been doing fine.
Nov 5 2008 3:52PM
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BASS_PRO_SHOP
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dude, you're too young to understand this, but dump her ass. trust me.
Nov 5 2008 4:01PM
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Ben.
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i would say that happens prolly 90% of the time. ill give you that. but why not give it a chance. if it fails, it fails.
Nov 5 2008 6:56PM
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Ben.
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oh and considering what you said earlier drew, about "being that guy" id rather you didnt chill with her hahaha
Nov 5 2008 6:57PM
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Ben.
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thats definitely true. but i say give it a chance. if your miserable or its just nothing but fighting, move on. but if you really like her and see a future in it why not?
Nov 5 2008 7:23PM
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KravtZ
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you could just stay with her but not in a relationship so u can party it up in college and get some bids and still have her locked up when u com ehome
Nov 5 2008 7:28PM
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