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wh@t
Posts: 6204 - Karma: 52
seriously sucks. people will DEFINITELY call me emo, but whatever.

im so depressed at the moment that when im skiing i keep fucking up trying to learn new stuff because i cant fully concentrate or enjoy what im doing anymore. its getting fucked up. i want to feel happy and all that. and i try to. but for those that havent been ina depression, you cant just feel better. seriously its not like just being a bit sad, its feeling sad and not being able to feel better for quite a long time.

anyways, any suggestions to kick this fucking thing?  my skiing lifestyle depends on it. haha
Jan 20 2008 6:15PM
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DJSTEVEINNIAMIXX
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i heard that every teenageer goes through this stage and its just a natural thing. lots of kids commit suicide over it. suggestions?......maybe go skiing with a bunch of friends on a sunny day?
Jan 20 2008 6:22PM
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Ender
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people who would call you emo ovbviously dont understand and havent been through something like that before.  fuck em. try to think about anything in your life that is going right and about anything that still makes you happy. remember that things will get better.  convince yourself that you will go out and get better at skiing and it might just happen, if you keep thinking youre gonna fuck up, you probably will.
Jan 20 2008 6:25PM
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wh@t
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im not suicidal and im pretty sure this isnt something that im going through. ive had alot of tough shit happen lately and in the past year and a half, i havent felt like i used to.

my girlfriend of 11 months broke up with me because i bring her down all the time. so its gotta be something if she just up and leaves hah.
Jan 20 2008 6:25PM
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Campeador
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If skiing on a clear day with friends does nothing for you then I have no other suggestion except maybe zoloft.
Jan 20 2008 6:26PM
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emopoppins
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get checked out? maybe its just Seasonal affective disorder or whatever.
Jan 20 2008 6:26PM
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wh@t
Posts: 6204 - Karma: 52
we had powder for over a month and i actually felt myself getting sick of it.
thats why i think im fucked up.
Jan 20 2008 6:27PM
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steezyjibber
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u said haha
Jan 20 2008 6:28PM
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KRASHED
Posts: 7803 - Karma: 466
For most of my life I was hell bent on getting into the trades and when I did I enjoyed it for the most part. After 8 months though I finally had the revelation that this wasn't something I was going to enjoy at all, for the next 2-3 I was in the biggest hole ever, the first week was awful it was just a sense of pure disappointment and failure, music and time did it for me, im sure getting out with friends and such would also help.
Jan 20 2008 6:28PM
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GFProd.
Posts: 403 - Karma: 35
yeah already passed trought this
and my suggestion is: get a girl
thats what I did, and it worked
Jan 20 2008 6:35PM
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KeithB.
Posts: 608 - Karma: 12

You can visit depression but you don't need to furnish the place. If you feel like you need some help don't be afraid to ask. Just the asking in and of itself may offer some relief. There are some good doctors out there, but they can't help until you make some effort to take control and decide to get better. That skiing on a sunny day with friends and weeks of pow hasn't helped seems like a sign to me. Just because you are not contemplating suicide doesn't mean you are altogether well. It can't hurt to talk to someone who knows more than the kids on NS.

Jan 20 2008 6:39PM
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wh@t
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pay attention to posts please.
my girlfriend of 11 months broke up with me a little while ago because of my depression.
actually i decided that she shouldnt deal with me anymore and i wanted her to go.
Jan 20 2008 6:43PM
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Campeador
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sucks dude, I know how you feel. My only problem was mine wanted to stay friends. It worked out for a while since I still had a thing for her. Until she got some faggot boyfriend who had tried to sabotage my best friend's relationship with his girlfriend a couple of months ago. I invited her to a sick expendables concert (look them up if you haven't heard of them) last friday night but she turned me up to go eat shitty Thai food with that faggot and pretended like she forgot we were going.

I straight up told her fuck you and that if I ever saw her again I would have nothing good to say to her and if I saw her faggot boyfriend I would knock him the fuck out. I feel 100x better finally standing up for myself.

The best substitute for depression is righteous anger. Go to some concerts, get drunk, get in the pit and fuck some people up. Don't blame yourself, blame that bitch. We're all going through life doing what we can. Surround yourself with people that make you laugh and that you can have a good time with. Everytime you go skiing think about just how sick you life is compared to so many people in this world. You weren't born poor into the projects or into a 3rd world shanty town, don't take your time or your life for granted.


Jan 20 2008 6:46PM
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Swan_Solo
Posts: 2374 - Karma: 14
i've been through shit like this before, just live for you

watch tv, go on the comp, ski, buy shit, even nap, whevever you want

just have a little self time until you get your shit together, focusing on others will just overwhelm you

and watch out if you tell a doctor, prozac is crazy shit
Jan 20 2008 6:50PM
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skiP.E.I.
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wow. I don't think I've ever been THAT sad. brand new powder= not much else matters at all. my suggestion is Try to do something that you really have to focus on and doesn't let you pay attention to anything else. Skiing is a good thing for that, but apparently that doesn't work, some other things would be drawing, doing math problems, or reading a good book. That kind of thing will get you in that "zone" where you are just focussed on that one thing. Knitting or Crocheting probably would work too, but I've never tried those things. Just whatever you do that will take your mind off how you feel.
Jan 20 2008 6:50PM
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wh@t
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thing is, shes the closest ive ever let someone to me. im usually quite reserved. and i dropped all my barriers with this girl. so of course i have thing for her, it just sucks because im possibly moving and i dont think she has feelings for me anymore.

and that makes this worse.
Jan 20 2008 6:51PM
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chicken
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dude.

go see a docter...
Jan 20 2008 7:04PM
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Campeador
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Same thing, never been that open or close with anyone either. But now after all that I've done for her she just straight up spit in my face by blowing me off a couple of days ago. Fuck her though, she's a liar and only wants to remain friends with me because I'm good at skiing and every time she comes with me she gets better.

I think she still have feelings for me but she's too indecisive. She still wants me to save her from being bored as fuck. Hell no, I'm done with that. For like the past 2 months I've been unable to get close with another girl because of her fucking antics and playing with my head. Its a new year and a new beginning.
Jan 20 2008 7:06PM
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Nicholas.
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man when i feel like that i just go to my bros house for the weekend or whatever and just chill with him and drink and talk about shit, always clears me up at least a little. find someone/someplace you can go to just get away for a few days if you can.
Jan 20 2008 7:18PM
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LoLo913
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i feel ya dude! if it's chronic i would consider going to a doctor, some people have hormonal imbalances in theirs brains and not matter what you do you won't be 100% happy, and its not your fault. anti-depressants can really help, also consider getting some couseling to unload some of your shit on
Jan 20 2008 7:22PM
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McDirty
Posts: 68 - Karma: 10
and skiing

will fix everything





thats what i did, i was in the exact same position... except i was with my girlfriend for a year...not much of a difference though





oh yea and this is a guy on this chick i know's NS account because i lost my password
Jan 20 2008 7:26PM
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something_cool
Posts: 84 - Karma: 10
Serge, you have to get through this bro... Julie is still your friend atleast...if there is anything I can do let me know.
Jan 20 2008 7:36PM
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TomK1
Posts: 144 - Karma: 13
If your down for smoking, go skiing with some best buds and find a little spot in the woods to toke up and just chill and don't worry about anything. Then put some good flow music on when you ski the rest of the day and just try to find yourself while your up there. Just remember: the shittier you feel now, the more you'll truly appreciate good times later on.
Jan 20 2008 8:04PM
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Dosh
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i can relate 100%
Jan 20 2008 8:28PM
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solitaryman
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yayyyyyy...... having a gf is for gay people!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jan 20 2008 8:33PM
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niels.
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one good thing about music is when it hits you feel no pain
Jan 20 2008 8:33PM
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doublexl
Posts: 8407 - Karma: 26
ive been totally depressed and down lately. ive turned into a manik depressive. ill be fine one minute and in a total funk the next. i think the problem is that i just hate my surroundings. i just need to get the fuck outta here and say sionara to all these bitches i live around.
Jan 20 2008 8:36PM
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martin.
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DUDE me too!
Jan 20 2008 8:38PM
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freestyler540
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I just got out of a depression stage that lasted a little over 2 months, I was going crazy because of school and lack of physical activity. Although I got an 85 average, it completely ruined me for 2 or 3 weeks. I hated my life, all I wanted to do is sleep and be by myself. I was always filled with guilt, remorse and sleepiness. My chrismas break was awful because of that. By the way, im 20, passed the teenage depression stage.

Here is some help to deal with it:
1-really push yourself to go outside with friends or family, or else you will regret it.
2-Meditate: although sounds stupid, complete relaxation may bring some relief
3-go to bed early, this can eliminate the sleepiness in the morning
4-Get friends to come to your house, trust me it will force you to do something.
5-try to get into another extreme sport such as rock climbing or freerunning.

Remember that people love you, dont be afraid to tell someone if you feel so down. My parents noticed my behavior was quite different after coming come from school, they pushed me to go skiing. When I got back to school, partying with my buddies every day hekp me feel happy again!


Jan 20 2008 8:43PM
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theres_ghosts
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im there dude. just dont press the knife too hard.




music helps tons
Jan 20 2008 8:48PM
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clayborn
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I know how you feel dude. I'm always down, one minute i'm fine, the next I'm alway pissed off and hopeless feeling it really sucks. I had a ton of friends over the summer and i'm kind of reserved too and like they were sick and i trusted them all, but like since a couple months ago i haven't like talked to, hung out with any of them really because I feel really like tired or unexcited, but at the same time i really want to. And even like sking i won't try anything and i fuck up over easy shit because i'm so out of it usally. I don't know it's tough. everythings pissing me off really easily
Jan 20 2008 9:25PM
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doublexl
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i forgot to add that when i get depressed and down, i dont give a shit about anything. i drive like a fucking maniac, i dont do my homework, i leave for a couple days. but actually, not giving a shit has kept me more sane. it has helped me realize that there is life after school and it isnt a huge fucking deal to me anymore. i used to stress over my grades, but now, i could care less. just get enough so i dont have to retake the class. god i cant wait till this shit is over. i feel like the guy from office space.
Jan 20 2008 9:32PM
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BMskier
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two words man : POWDER DAY
Jan 20 2008 9:35PM
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skier_dude879
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Serge i hope this can help: http://depressionhurts.com/index.jsp , I know you're hurting on the inside, but you get over it

Jan 22 2008 12:03PM
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something_cool
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Lucky is stealing Julie from you...
Jan 22 2008 12:05PM
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ride-rider
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i feel your pain mang.  I have it too, i used to go to a shrink when i was like 7.  I found you just gotta go out and do the things that you love.  For me that means either going snowboarding with my dad, or going camping up where we go elk hunting.  Up their its soooo amazing sounds weird but i think nature makes me feel better.
Jan 22 2008 12:11PM
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Elijah.
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Suicides the easy way out man, you have to think about your close friends/family in this case, because your only hurting them more by attempting/doing it. I've felt depressed before, nothing past considering it, but at those points you just have to realize sometimes your not living your life for yourself, but the others around you.
Jan 22 2008 12:14PM
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PASKIINGSUCKS
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I would say maybe try to find out/ sort out what is at the root of your depression.  Is there oneor two main things that are getting you down???  If you can change some of the things that are getting you down maybe you can get on track to being more upbeat.  I like to accomplish things to get myself back on the happy side of life, set a goal for yourself in something you do, or set up and complete a project you've been thinking about for a while.  A little hard work and a job well done can make you feel more like your life has purpose and fulfillment sometimes.


So what is getting you so down????  Parents??  Impending responsibility??  Friends??

Jan 22 2008 12:20PM
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Liam.
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^he said he isnt suicidal.  that sucks to hear ur girl left u because of the way you feel. if felt that way before when u just cant make someone laugh or have a good time. ull get over it im sure just keep your head up. my recommendation is to see a counselor at school. sounds a little gay but it helps a lot to talk with someone and tell them whats up in ur life.
Jan 22 2008 12:24PM
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VT_FLO
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 yeah dude, teenage depression sucks. ummm what i did to get out of it was to start being antisocial for an entire week and just play videogames all day, then start hitting on chicas
Jan 22 2008 3:53PM
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-Otto-
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My remedy is to put anger in sports, like skiing or mountainbiking. Sometimes it helps for me to fight, like punch somebody in the face. Problem is that you need a very good reason to punch somebody in the face  :P, believe it or not, but when I feel very sad/depressed I really like it to fight. My depression comes out in anger..
Jan 22 2008 5:18PM
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Grove_Street
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hey not funny jerk ive got better things to do than hurt peoples
Jan 22 2008 5:18PM
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Shpadoinkle
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You're only Emo if you dress like them. Depression is depression. Depression is NOT Emo.
Jan 22 2008 5:21PM
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Silence
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I thought you were referring to the US Stock market
Jan 22 2008 5:44PM
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dinopudge
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yea i went through that too. but it was regarding horseback riding. i couldn't do anything right, my trainer was always yelling at me and made me cry every lesson that i had.

seeing a therapist really helps, but if you don't want to do that, just try to figure things out. it may be a hormonal imbalance, in which case antidepressants would help, but also it may just be something you need to figure out yourself. the only thing that helped me was getting rid of my trainer (but it took me a year to figure that out...)

i was gonna say try putting less pressure on yourself, just ski for fun with friends, but i guess powder days didn't help you...so maybe see a therapist?
Jan 22 2008 5:50PM
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TheButterHashira
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Whenever I get depressed I sleep, generally I feel better afterwards and take a shower. IDK why but naps and hot showers do the trick for me sometimes.
Jan 22 2008 6:18PM
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Tross
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Get at that shit quick. Depression is pretty hard to self-diagnose. You just have to force yourself to get back into the swing of things. If you can't, you should get some help. Who cares what someone else calls you. It's your problem and no one else's. Check out w/ a doctor and do whatever you have to. Unfortunately, it's part of life.

Jan 22 2008 6:26PM
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Microcosm
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just don't worry about things for awhile and make yourself happier. surround yourself with friends, whatever it takes. then when you're happier piece everything together. hope that helps, you're pretty cool in my book.
Jan 22 2008 6:43PM
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skiP.E.I.
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-Bob Marley

if you did that at college you would have totally gotten pwned for plagiarism. lol
Jan 22 2008 7:02PM
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Campeador
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Wrong! Drinking with your homies is often the best solution to female problems. Like someone said above I take out my depression with anger, a drunken brawl with someone I very much dislike was the perfect solution. Its a great boost to your self esteem.
Jan 22 2008 7:55PM
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Peter.
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seriously dude

get some help, like a doctor or something

or just tell your parents.  talk about it to someone, just call up a good friend, girls usually listen more than guys, and just talk

tell them what's up
Jan 22 2008 8:09PM
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