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Climaxing.... (for lack of a better word) *Note: not for the younger NS crowd*

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j3Di
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Yeah, so.. I have been dating this one girl for a few months now, and we've had sex a few times.
But, every time we have had sex, she's climaxed, but she can never "finish me off", so to speak.
Last night, she was determined to get me to climax, and she fucked my brains out for 2 hours in different positions. It was great and all, but I never came close to finishing, and she was exhausted, so she eventually gave up.
She's also given me multiple blowjobs, but she cant get me to "pop" that way either.

Dont get me wrong.. the sex is amazing, and the head is too. She's only had sex once before dating me, so she's nice and tight.
But, for some reason I haven't been close to finishing every time that we've had sex, or when she gives me head.
Now she feels bad about it like it's her fault, and she doesn't know what she can do to get me to climax.. I still enjoy every second of it, but I'd also like to get off at some point. Haha.
In her words, she feels "sexually worthless", which is not how I feel about her, because the sex and head is amazing.. I just cant finish, but I can get her to hit the "big O".

This is not a claim at all, and I honestly cant believe that I am making a thread about such a personal issue... I just was hoping that some of you could share some tips or advice to give to my girlfriend.
The thing is, I've had sex before, and it wasn't even as good as it is with my current girlfriend, but I could still finish. I have yet to do that with the girl I am currently dating.

Any advice? I dont want her to feel "sexually worthless" anymore. Haha.

Thanks.
Dec 9 2007 2:40PM
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DJCrazyA
Posts: 946 - Karma: 16
stop jerking off so much
Dec 9 2007 2:43PM
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j3Di
Posts: 1188 - Karma: 13
Hahahaha, good advice, but I hardly ever do....
Dec 9 2007 2:44PM
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General_Shredgnar
Posts: 3024 - Karma: 34
dont touch your dick for a few weeks. Also I hear applications of icy hot make your dick more viable to ejaculate. 
Dec 9 2007 2:45PM
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Calb3rt
Posts: 6005 - Karma: 2,202
try thinking of robin williams naked on the pot eating a bucket of KFC.

your best bet would be to take this dilemma to the ladies men cult. i cant help you out sorry ive never had a problem shooting my bodily fluids at my girlfriend.
Dec 9 2007 2:45PM
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bikerocker
Posts: 1427 - Karma: 461
do you use a condom?  if so, get thinner ones, and also buy some lube and put it on before you put on the condom.  I used to have the same problem.  if you don't use a condom, start, but really just use a lot of lube and don't think about getting off, at all.  you're killing it by trying.
Dec 9 2007 2:47PM
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j3Di
Posts: 1188 - Karma: 13
Yes, I use a condom every time.
I dont need any babies popping out of my girlfriend any time soon.
Dec 9 2007 2:49PM
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j3Di
Posts: 1188 - Karma: 13
Hahahahah, nice try. I'm not stupid.
Dec 9 2007 2:51PM
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Sean...M
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for real, dont have sex/get head/jackoff for like 5 days or something, so that way it builds up and is more easier to get off. but if you have it often or jackoff the night before, its gonna be a lot tougher. i learned this the hardway =\
Dec 9 2007 2:55PM
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sowstochd
Posts: 1518 - Karma: 59

join LM

Dec 9 2007 3:01PM
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telestar6
Posts: 2102 - Karma: 44
I had the same issue with this girl I hooked up with a few times.  We had really good sexual chemistry but when it came to actually getting off I had a hell of time getting there.  But after a while I think we got each other figured out and the problem went away.  I think sometimes you just have to put a little time in to figure out what makes you tick.  It could be mental too.  I use to feel really guilty hooking up with this chick because I knew she wanted a relationship and I just wanted to fool around and I had a hell of a time climaxing with her.  It sucks though because the girl will always feel kind of inadequate if she can't get you off.  Girls think it's a like a given that guys will climax so when they can't make it happen they take it personally. 
Dec 9 2007 3:02PM
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Von
Posts: 4869 - Karma: 21
Stop drinking a bottle of whiskey every time you fuck her.
Dec 9 2007 3:13PM
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General_Shredgnar
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good. I was testing you and you passed. 

For real though, just stop having any sexual shit for a long time, and the other dude who suggested not thinking about it, thats a good suggestion. Try pelvic floor excersizes.
Dec 9 2007 4:52PM
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Seths22
Posts: 272 - Karma: -3
have her fuck you with a strap on and give you the reach around
Dec 9 2007 4:56PM
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ktollefson_1080
Posts: 2061 - Karma: 183
go for that prostate
Dec 9 2007 5:05PM
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*DrewT*
Posts: 7768 - Karma: 480
Rusty Trombone...

But seriously, not sure what to tell you, most guys have problems not being able to hold it off long enough
Dec 9 2007 5:06PM
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wev-skis
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^^^
hahahahahaha
Dec 9 2007 5:06PM
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solitaryman
Posts: 3578 - Karma: 123
umm.... hmm id say go for thinner condoms.. and just ride her like  a bull
Dec 9 2007 5:30PM
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babujib
Posts: 5039 - Karma: 104
viagra, do it
Dec 9 2007 5:34PM
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jimmychung
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anal should fix it
Dec 9 2007 5:41PM
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rhcp
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spend a lot of time on foreplay and you'll be more charged up
Dec 9 2007 5:48PM
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lalalalaura
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get her on the pill and stop wearing a condom.

you'll be stimulated better, and she is better protected against pregnancy.
Dec 9 2007 5:51PM
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Gavajabra
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If you're staying hard and fucking for 2 hours you should probably relax on the viagra
Dec 9 2007 5:55PM
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j3Di
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no thanks.
Dec 9 2007 7:01PM
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j3Di
Posts: 1188 - Karma: 13
Nah man.. wearing a condom for a blowjob would be pointless and much less enjoyable.
Maybe it's becuase I've been laying down every time she's given me head. If she does it on her knees while i'm standing, maybe gravity will help me out... Haha. i'll have her try it like that next time.

The condoms I have been using for when we have sex are the Trojan-ENZ or whatever they're called. They have spermicidal lube on them which helps kill off active sperm.. I don't want to get my girlfriend pregnant.
Dec 9 2007 7:11PM
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j3Di
Posts: 1188 - Karma: 13
Hahah, no viagra here. all natural.
i don't think it was an even 2 hours though. I know that she gave me head for like 15-20 minutes and then we fucked for about an hour to and hour and a half.
i guess i'm just a stud. That was her reasoning at least. Haha.

Dec 9 2007 7:17PM
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ECGove
Posts: 1947 - Karma: 75
you wont have that problem if you don't get off
Dec 9 2007 7:21PM
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skiing_monkeys
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dude if your so praged about pregnacy get her on the pill, lose the rubbers, stop thinking about her when with her try out imagining her hotter mates or big sister for example, get a roof mirror n one next to ur bed or where ever u like it (they make veiwing more umm graphic), get some porn going while screwing/making love which ever term u prefer and for the pier du la resistance some heat or tingle lube - think thats about it for now. PS do not use deep heat / musle rubs to replace the lube unless u like the feeling of ironing ur junior. lol
Dec 9 2007 7:27PM
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back_woods
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be careful with putting lube in a condom, it'll make it slide off sometimes
Dec 9 2007 7:28PM
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killabees
Posts: 8558 - Karma: 494
maybe you are not interested in girls? 
Dec 9 2007 7:54PM
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j3Di
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i just mentioned pregnancy for the hell of it.
i haven't ever thought about getting her pregnant when we have sex.
and trust me.. i enjoy the sex, a lot.

and to the post one above.. funny comment, but that's not the case. it may be for you, but not me.
i'm definitely interested in girls, especially this one.

Dec 9 2007 8:10PM
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TheQuailman
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I read somewhere that someone read in men's health that teenagers find that they jerk off so hard that they can't get off during sex, so lay off the porno.

Dec 9 2007 8:11PM
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steezerampage
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not getting off in two hours is not a problem, you just need to start running every day so you can go until you get off.
Dec 9 2007 8:17PM
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j3Di
Posts: 1188 - Karma: 13
as i said previously in this thread. i don't "jerk off" very often.
i don't really need to anymore since i have a sexually active girlfriend.

i'll be tapping it later tonight.. and i have a feeling it's going to be a victory.
we haven't done the dirty in a few days, so i should be good to go.

Dec 9 2007 8:18PM
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ppp
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Damn, I wish I had that problem.
Dec 9 2007 8:30PM
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saucybiscuits
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Wait, the icy hot remedy dosent work? Fuck..........
Dec 9 2007 8:44PM
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boardz11
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ahahahhaa i died laughing while reading it bc it sounds like were in the same exact boat with the situation.  basically dead on... i didnt htink others had this same problem
Dec 9 2007 8:45PM
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j3Di
Posts: 1188 - Karma: 13
not necessarily. i don't need to jack off just for the hell of it. i'm not one of those horny teenagers that needs to bust a nut every night.
and it's not like i've never climaxed from sex. i just haven't yet with this girl. 
i've only had sex with her 3 times, so far.. and i have come closer and closer each time.

i'm now positive that the problem has just been plain old stress. i've been going through some bullshit in my life lately, and i've had a lot on my mind. (even during sex, i couldn't get certain issues off my mind.)
but, things are clearing up, and i'm feeling much happier and less stressed.

my girlfriend is coming over within the hour.. and i have a feeling it's gonna be a good night since i've been feeling better.

Dec 9 2007 9:21PM
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j3Di
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it is great. the best i've had.
Dec 9 2007 9:23PM
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j3Di
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well, it is now.
we just took that step in our relationship recently.

i said "a few times" in the main post.
Dec 9 2007 9:25PM
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iggyskier
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condoms = the suck.

that is horrible to say because their use is incredibly important.  BUT, if you are in a relationship and have both been tested that have at it without them.  Get her on the pill.  she can usually get them free for a year at planned parenthood.

And the sex is so much better.  So yeah, get tested, put her on the pill, and enjoy.
Dec 9 2007 9:28PM
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zerospinskier
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Bingo. It can happen that the first time, or more, with a new girl will be hard to bust. I went for a time when I wasn't with anyome for a few months, then when I got a girl again, I couldn't cum the first time. I guess just the fact of still trying to get used to the girl can make your body feel a little nervous, even though you may think you're super comfortable with the chick. The remedy: Keep having sex, itll cum. (pun intended)
Dec 9 2007 9:45PM
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zerospinskier
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And this kinda stuff really should be brought to the Madies Len Cult
Dec 9 2007 9:49PM
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KellyK
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oo...boo-fuckin-hoo....i've got much bigger things to complain about than that....like how im not even gettin laid right now...go cry somewhere else
Dec 9 2007 9:57PM
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thenakedcellist
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your a little bitch shut the fuck up, go cry to your momma and dont hate on this kid cuz you cant get yo ugly ass pussy.
Dec 9 2007 10:10PM
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whattheshit
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OHHH GOD MAH BALLS Click for larger image



Dec 9 2007 10:13PM
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theres_ghosts
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hahahaha well said for a newb
Dec 9 2007 10:17PM
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raddar
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get some trojan her pleasures and turn them shits inside out for your pleasure
Dec 9 2007 10:39PM
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jason...
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man i wish my biggest problem was not being able to cum during sex
Dec 9 2007 11:00PM
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max.
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also the non water based lubes can mess with the effectiveness of the condom. 
Dec 9 2007 11:09PM
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PhaedeD
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take the condom off and pull out or buy those japanese condoms.
Dec 9 2007 11:30PM
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