Fraternaties

kinda sounds like fun, but there are definite downsides too

watchout for initiations

yeah, that's the other thing. is membership really worth the initiation?

My bro decided to join one. Pledging takes up a shitload of your time. He only had one or two classes a day along with pledging and was always running around for frat stuff so he didn't get much sleep (I think). If you do decide to go for it, don't say "frat" unless they tell you to. A pledge brother made that mistake and got chewed out for it. You wouldn't call your country a cunt, would you?

depends what u have to do

Join a sorority.

best decision I've ever made. Have connections all over the place and made really solid friends that will last a lifetime, all while partying and making the best of college. Just make sure you join something you're willing to show heart and balls to get into...don't half ass it, you have to want it and just get through with whatever they throw at you. It gets tough but you'll get in the groove and it'll be over before you know it, don't expect much sleep or socialization during pledging but like they say, it's 5-6 weeks of hell for 4 yrs. of the best time in your life

and ps- it's not all partying and getting laid. fraternities are business' with a hierarchal council. You'll learn alot about how to appropriately operate and manage everything from the social, financial and philanthropy factors which keep the house running. Something like 80% of company CEO's are fraternity alumni.

Do it, its worth it in the end.

PS

SAE

This country? JK

ummm, i've never in my life met a cool frat boy. if you're into anti-semetisim, racism, elitism, and homo-erotic lifestyles, then you might like them. you could however do what we all do, and steal frat boys beer, girls, and make real friends, based on people skills, not common degradation.

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right... that's the main thing that i've been thinking that has kept me from committing thus far. I don't exactly know if all of that is true, though. My dad was in a frat and liked it a lot and thinks that he gained a lot from it, like leadership and people skills, etc. i don't really know if it is worth the hassle though.

well at least it looks like you know what youre talking about.
all the guys ive met from fraternities were pretty cool. so, speak for your own narrow-minded self.

dude, honestly, i was expressing my opinion. and i'm sure there are a few cool frat guys out there, but honestly, the friends i've made in school, have all been made for reasons not found in a fraternity. I know frats help people out with school and stuff, and there are connections, but going and living life, and coming out of your shell, will make real and solid connections, base off you're strengths as a person, not on the fact that you munched some gold fish.

i would only join 1 if u liked unnatural quantities of cheap beer being poured down ur ass, then being forced to drink more through ur mouth, then following a bunch of upperclassman to another fraternity and being forced to consume more alcohol than u thought existed, and puking until uve lost over 40 pounds overnight.


plus, no1 like to get spanked by an upperclassman with a 45 pound paddle, but that mite just be me.

ya that seems a little gay to me

If you want to buy your friends, then get gay with them, a frat is for you.

Its actually not the big of a hassle at all. I pledged for 60 days the only thing required of me was a half hour meeting once a week. As far as initiation goes, its not that bad at all. Also, you can drop your pledge anytime in the pledge period so you dont have to join if you end up not liking it. I was the same way when I was a freshman. But Im glad I joined. What I would suggest doing is going to different fraternities rush events and see which one you like best. Good luck man. Hope you make a good choice.

frat fag

Thats a good one. Real creative.

Depends on the school, house, guys. Do what you want

I don't understand the whole fraternity thing....how does it work?

how  true

id join one. make sure to keep your grades up though.

I have met plenty of cool kids in frats and plenty that are fucking gay. But I sense some bitterness. Get the fuck over yourself and stop thinking you better than everyone else.

WOOOOW you're a little judgmental small minded cunt. You complain about "frat boys" being anti semetic adn judging and whatnot. Look at what you just said.

Joining a fraternity was the single best decision i've ever made. Hands down.

Its not for everyone but bashing it when you have no clue what its about is rediculous.

And stealing the beer, girls, and making "real friends".....real great man you sound like you're doing well for yourself

I totally agree with you man. It was definately one of the best decisions of my life. What are you in?

I am a Sigma Chi

how about you bud?

Im a Kappa Sig

I'm Tau Kappa Epsilon



Dude check it out for sure. If it's not for you then it's not for you. Don't listen to the bullshit that people are spilling about fraternities. The only people that say negative things are people that have no clue what they're talking about. Go out to a few rush events for different fraternities and see which one seems to fit you best. Then pledge. If you don't like it then drop your pledge. It's really no big deal if you do.

From my experience in a fraternity (rather not say which one, as to not offend anybody), I found it to be a very immature attempt at being respectable and professional. I'm very happy that I debrothered.

and for rush events, totally go to them. Even if you're not interested to begin with, you'll get hooked up with some great meals during rush.

Haha totally...theres always some good food. We have a pig roast and do a whitewater rafting trip every fall for rush.

that sucks but it's true that some chapters of different fraternities aren't exactly the most upstanding individuals but that can be said about a lot of different groups.

oh well classic example that it wasn't for you so you dropped

I'm in Psi Upsilon at Dartmouth, going into senior year.

Totally depends on school, what house it is, who you are, and what you're looking for. Asking this sort of question on NS is probably the last thing you want to do if you're trying to make a well-thought-out decision. Go to college, check things out, try to be unbiased and gather all the info and tips you can, and give it a shot if it all sounds good.
I've made lifelong friends and have stories I'll be telling for the rest of my days. There are downsides, for sure - but it is possible to glean the positive bits from the fraternity experience while benefiting from the positive ones, just be smart.

Best of luck.

To those who have made ignorant, immature posts in this thread referencing stereotypes and trying to be funny, you a) probably don't have any idea what you're talking about b) will end up at some shitty community college that doesn't even have fraternities c) wouldn't be allowed in any respectable frat anyway and d) should enjoy getting your ass kicked, because the way you're talking, it'll probably happen sometime soon. little high school bitch.

this dude's reply is a great metaphor for a fraternity. there is one part of the reply/fraternity that gives you great advice, is cool, totally fun. But then the other part of the reply/fraternity is an insecure, elitist prick who threatens to beat your ass.

like the cool part of his reply says, check it out for yourself and make your own decision based on whether or not you really want to be brothers with that group of guys for the rest of your life.

personally, frats are definitely not for me, but i have lots of friends that are in them and i can certainly understand why people do it.

hey come party with the Kappa Sigs at UM. they'd be happy to host you. i'm really close with the founders Jose and Kevin. Seriously they'd love it. slash you could hang out with my roommate and me!

and to the thread starter. I'm not a huge fan of some of the fraternity guys at my school but some of them are the best friends I've made. I'm a supporter of the greek system even thought i"m not in it yet. I'm pledging this year and i'm honestly regretful that i didn't join earlier. i didn't want to live in the house but now i'm realizing that some of the girls are straight up good people and really good friends.
i think the greek system is really a good thing in general. some houses are total tools but some are really awesome. theyll be your friends for life and help you out with everything, be it jobs later on or homework in stats. go for it and if you don't like it, then drop. just give it a shot.

I actually went up there earlier this summer to help initiate those guys. Kevin and Jose a great guys we had lots of fun when we where up there. They rented out a bar called Bodegas for afterwards. Id love to go up and visit again once Im back in Bozeman.

Maybe you can join his frat. Oh wait, he's the mascot of all frat boys.

Yea I totally look like that and so do all of my brothers. I think your a little ignorant my friend.

that guy in the picture is just stupid and no way has anything to do with fraternity life. but anyone can have thier own opinions. i am a Pi Lambda Phi, joining a fraternity was one of the best decisions of my life. i am closer with my brothers than any of my other friends we still get together and do things on a regular basis. college was the best 5 and a half years of my life (lenth not to do with fraternity but that i changed my major halfway through, and had no motivation to actually graduate, i wanted to stay in college as long as i could) but the stories i have the things i ve done. it was a great time.

i know it is not for everyone but dont just blow it off with out actually really checking it out. and that whole buying your freinds excuse, fuck off where besides your parents house have you ever lived for free. houses cost money electricity cost money, beer cost money, we just all chip in and makes things work.

when it comes to joining go to rush events, check out all the houses on campus. if one seems to fit you chek it out further if not no harm, you might of even had fun at the rush event.


to make a long story short, things i learned in college. if you dont have a napkin use the inside of your pants pockets, youll know they dirty but no one else will. if 1 of somthing is good. 29 of em is that much better. and fat chicks give the best head.

you couldent pay me to join a fraternatie

No one would...your too dumb to spell it right.

^^although i agree with the statement above....

its YOU'RE dumbass haha

yeah pretty much just owned myself on that one

I go to Chico State where the frats have killed kids, and sponsored pornos (which I was attendance at, and it was pretty neat).

I have some friends (not a whole lot) that are in frats. Freshman year in the dorms I saw them all rush, and I thought it was stupid.

They seem to have a good time though, but I have a good time myself, doing what I do. I'm not confined to anything, and I can ski a lot more than I could with a frat.

It is true though, if your not in a frat, most frat guys will be deuchebags.

It's up to you, and you should'nt really listen to what anyone has to say on the internet.

Just rush and check it out for yourself, you might dig it.

best post on here.

really, fraternities depend on the school and chapter.  Im in delta tau delta and my chapter is pretty good.  I've heard that other chapters at other schools suck.  It's the same for any other fraternity.  At my school, like 30% is in the greek community and to have any social life at all after freshman year, you basically need to join one. 

There are tons of stereotypes when it comes to fraternities.

We don't buy friends.  When we pay dues, it goes to pay for the house, and social events.  A lot of it goes to our formal at the beach.  It is no different than you and your friends going to spring break to hang out together and paying for that. 

Im sure a lot of you think that all frat boys are the same with polo shirts with popped collars and all that shit.  Some fraternities are like that, but many have just a bunch of different people.  There are a lot of fraternities that are diverse and everyone is not the same. 


sometimes they can be expensive, especially during pledgeship.  But for me, it's cheaper to be in and live in my fraternity than it is to live in the dorms or apartments on campus.  Almost all of our dorms that weren't for freshman got torn down this year, so almost eveyone is staying in the apartments this year.  The apartments(on campus) are $3,000 a semester.  I pay maybe $1000 and Im closer to all my classes. 

Fraternities can give you tons of help with school too.  When you join a fraternity, youll find tons of older guys that have your major and can help you out.  Same goes with taking the same classes.  I've also seen some people do really poorly.  Some people just stop studying and just drink with people and they end up doing really bad.  I see the fraternity as being in influence to this, but I also think that they prob would have done it anyways without being in a frat. 

As far as pledgeship goes, it can suck, but it can be great.  Everything in pledgeship means something(at least with mine).  I learned a shit ton of stuff I would never have learned elsewhere.  My school has strict hazing rules, so I didn't really have to deal with much of that(although at other schools it can be really bad.  just as around, if you hear stories of drowning puppies, bloody hands on the wall, or people dying, stay away from those fraternities, obviously).  It really does take up a lot of time, but it's so worth it.  Now if I have a problem I have 60 people that can support me.  My fraternity has kept me from transferring from my school to go to a worse school so I could ski(yes I know this is ns, but education and what it gives me in the long run is more important than skiing right now, although i will take a year off). 

I can't think of much else to write.  Just go around during rush, get a good look at each fraternity.  Youll get tons of free meals and shit.  I didnt pay for one meal for the first week last fall.   I also got a kick ass whitewater rafting trip out of it too.  But just go around and youll see which ones you fit in with and which ones you dont.  even if it doens't work, youll meet tons of other people.   A lot of the friends that I rushed with that even went to other fraternities, I am still good friends with.

what are you talking about?  I've never seen anybody in any fraternity be a douche to someone because they aren't in a frat. 

Yall have so many stereotypes and yall generalize so much shit about greek life.  How many of you are actually in college?(i do understand the greek system at some colleges is totally messed and shitty).

just like ANY organization in campus life.. its what you make of it.. you choose which group to associate with and at the same time they are looking for new members who exemplify thier values.. not saying what they value are always positive things.. but their are definitely good greek organizations out there.. I def recommend it.. im in a sorority and its alright.. great way to network and opens up alot of opportunities for ur future...
I lived at a fraternity for a while and the guys were all pretty decent... if ur not sure its ur thing just dont live in the house at first..