You NEED to get Adobe Encore DVD 1.5. It's incredible!!! If your smart about it, you can download the tryout version right from their site and crack it ;)
It gives you full controls over your menus, allows you to design menus in PS and import them over effortlessly. Allows you to control which each and every remote button will do to your movie. It also allows you go add songs to your menu and has hundreds of other sick features. I've been searching for a good piece of software to handle this, and finally found it in Encore DVD. It's a MUST!!
Also, if your used to other adobe prodecuts (PS, Premiere, After Effects) learning Encore will be a breeze.
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